This is my first time writting on the dating thread, I lurked before a little on the thread on neogaf and here.
Sorry for the long text in advance.
So, a few weeks ago my younger sister broke up with her boyfriend, she was really depresses so to entertain her and so tat she didnt feel alone she thought it could be a good idea to make a tinder for me so she didnt think about the other guy and help to catch someone.
Finally I entered, made a profile withsome photos, and started swiping with her. She got bored at how slow I was (always tried to read the girls bio) and I started to use thr app alone.
The first week and a half nothing was matched, my sister on, the other hand, opened one also for her just for funsies, and had a bunch of matches in minutes, so that depressed me a little, started reading stuff on the net of how people pass months without matches and things like that, and was starting to see the same repeat girls so the pool in my city for my year range didnt seem that big (1000000 pop city in Spain).
Added a few more photos, and started getting matches. Some hi, replies, what you liked and not much more. I asked a girl out after some days of messaging and she told me she was super busy and didnt had time. Ok, so thats out. Then I started to get more matches and started chatting with 2 girls. The first one was from Colombia and she was a little bit on the thic side (like my last girlfriend) but she was cute in some of the photos and interesting so why not. At the same time I started to talk with another girl, and this one was gorgeous and in my head completely out of my league, but she kept chatting with me, she was also a north american girl (seems im habing shit luck with people born or living here lol) My sister told me to keep contact with both and never close any doors, but this is my first time dating like this (every girlfriend I had was because I met them as firiends IRL and the things just happened naturaly).
So I told the colombian girl if she wanted to go out 2 weeks ago and she told me yes. We went to a bar and talked and bit it off pretty well but nothing more happened as she had to go to a friends dinner. She did tell me if I wanted a second date and I said yes, the problem, i was going to visit my grandparents for a week and I couldnt go out again till the week after (so this one), she told me no problem and we started talkign through whatsapp.
So before going out of town I asked the north american girl out and she told me yes also, I told her I could only on monday and she didnt have a problem. Went to a historical part of town, dring some beer and we talked and talked. Then we had some tapas and wine for dinner and went walking back to where she stayed (the bus to my home is 2 streets from there so it was perfect). The date was incredibly amazing but the goodbye was a little akward as it seems maybe she was waiting something but I was scared shitless of fucking up.
When I was on the bust stop I sent her a whatsapp telling her I had a great night, and she replied that same and that really liked our conversations even when she a really picky conversanioalist.
We kept contact sending fun things so as to not cut the convos completely, but didnt want to send her a lot as I didntwant to show her i was desperate or anything like that.
While I enjoyed my time with the colombian girl I really loved my time with the north american one. Felt she was super smart, and that we hit each other incredibly well, talking about deep stuff, and this may sound superficial but she is absolutely gorgeous, i've never been with such a good looking girl in all my 30 years of life lol.
So finally what happened this week and were dating era can help me.
After coming back from out of town I sent both messages of getting second dates with them. The colombian girl told me she could on wednesday and the north american girl told me she was busy this week (this is when I thought I lost her) but asked if she was available on the weekend and she told me that would be perfect, saturday or sunday and that she wanted to visit a musuem (at the end we chose saturday as the museum closes later).
Yesterday I went out with the colombian girl, went to a park she really likes and it all went really well, maybe too well. We went to a bar and we make out there. We had to cut the night short as she had classes in the morning. I actually didnt want to go that fast but it all occured naturaly.
As I say she is a fun girl to be with and if the other girl wasnt in the card I would probably would had another date with her this weekend.
Today I sent a message of how was the week going to the north american girl and she told me she had been really busy but was glad weekend was coming soon and we could see each other again.
And crap, now im feeling like shit. Ive never been this type of person but I feel like im playing with both. My sister says what im doing is the normal thing to do and I shouldnt feel like that.
My biggest problem here is that I enjoy being with both but much more with the north american girl and im hopung for saturdays date to be great (made some fun plans after the museum that she told me today they sound super fun).
The thing is I dont know how saturday's date is going to go, because im a ngative person for this things and im always thinking she is too good for me and maybe only looking for friendship, but at the same time i dont want to make the wait really long with her because I dont want to hurt the colombian girl that clearly wants to go faster.
How should I tackle saturday's date? This is my first time at this kind of thing so I feel im doing something wrong.
