DatingEra - This isn't like one of your animes

Deleted member 33533 · Dec 16, 2017

Chronospherics said:
But I like her being around. I enjoy the intimacy, touching, cuddling, stroking her hair, I wonder if part of that is having only left my ex partner recently. When she was lay on my chest after sex, I couldn't help but imagine for a moment that she was my ex. It felt the same. Her warmth, the embrace, it felt good to feel like that again but I don't know if it's anything more than that.

Do you think you've maybe haven't waited long enough after breaking up with your ex before jumping into dating again? Only you would know but I recall you saying you were engaged? I would say imaging your ex when you're intimate with someone else isn't a good thing at all and has more to do with you than her (the girl you're seeing now.)

For me, I gave myself about 3 months before even thinking about dating but it was an emotionally abusive relationship so personally I really needed that time. As a result I never really had any issue imaging or comparing anyone to my ex. It may not be the same for you but that's just my experience.

Speaking of that relationship though, my ex said she loved me a little under a month after we had officially been in a relationship. Honestly I thought it was way too early for her to say that. I think what the girl you're seeing said about over a year is a little odd too but I think a few weeks to a month is even more weird. I just feel like at that point we're way to wrapped up in that initial rush of new relationship feelings to properly gauge how we feel. Anytime I've said I loved a SO, I thought back to it after the relationship had ended and realized I really wasn't in love. The girl you're dating sounds like someone who carefully considers her feelings and to her "love" means something far more significant than most people might. I think I'm a little similar in that way. I don't want to place an arbitrary amount of time on it but I'd say I need at least half a year before I could consider being in love with someone. Not because of the set amount of days but just the phases and changes my mind goes through typically in that time. I might really feel someone in the moment due to timing and other circumstances of that environment and then have that change later down the line (like summer flings or cuffing season or being in a good place or bad place relatively)

At the end of the day though, I don't know how much that would really Effect a relationship if she didn't love you quickly as you loved her. I guess you wouldn't hear her say the words but it wouldn't mean she didn't care deeply for you or show an adequate level of affection for you to feel loved. But if that is something that bothers you it's definitely something to consider moving forward.

Alek · Dec 16, 2017

SuperiorTrashTalk said:
Do you think you've maybe haven't waited long enough after breaking up with your ex before jumping into dating again? Only you would know but I recall you saying you were engaged? I would say imaging your ex when you're intimate with someone else isn't a good thing at all and has more to do with you than her (the girl you're seeing now.)

For me, I gave myself about 3 months before even thinking about dating but it was an emotionally abusive relationship so personally I really needed that time. As a result I never really had any issue imaging or comparing anyone to my ex. It may not be the same for you but that's just my experience.

Speaking of that relationship though, my ex said she loved me a little under a month after we had officially been in a relationship. Honestly I thought it was way too early for her to say that. I think what the girl you're seeing said about over a year is a little odd too but I think a few weeks to a month is even more weird. I just feel like at that point we're way to wrapped up in that initial rush of new relationship feelings to properly gauge how we feel. Anytime I've said I loved a SO, I thought back to it after the relationship had ended and realized I really wasn't in love. The girl you're dating sounds like someone who carefully considers her feelings and to her "love" means something far more significant than most people might. I think I'm a little similar in that way. I don't want to place an arbitrary amount of time on it but I'd say I need at least half a year before I could consider being in love with someone. Not because of the set amount of days but just the phases and changes my mind goes through typically in that time. I might really feel someone in the moment due to timing and other circumstances of that environment and then have that change later down the line (like summer flings or cuffing season or being in a good place or bad place relatively)

At the end of the day though, I don't know how much that would really Effect a relationship if she didn't love you quickly as you loved her. I guess you wouldn't hear her say the words but it wouldn't mean she didn't care deeply for you or show an adequate level of affection for you to feel loved. But if that is something that bothers you it's definitely something to consider moving forward.

Yeah I don't know. It's not that it's a problem that it's someone else. It's just for a moment it felt weird. It feels weird to be lay in bed with someone, waking up with someone, that isn't the person I've been with for the past 4 to 5 years. It wasn't as though I wished it were her. It just reminded me, of the same feeling, like a flashback, to being in the same place with an ex.

As far as falling in love goes, I've only been in four long term relationships and all four of them fell for me within a month. One of them even told me they loved me within days, and that lead to a 3 year relationship. I think everyone is different over a year is a bit too long for me personally.

To be honest if a girl wasn't ready to say the same thing back within a month or so of myself feeling the same, I'd exit the relationship and find someone else. I spent enough time with my ex telling her I loved her without her returning it and there's no chance I'd be interested in going through that again. I'm not saying I expect someone to return it, or that I love this girl that I'm seeing at the moment (not at all, to be honest). Waiting a few weeks, months, or whatever is one thing, but potentially years, is another. It's a big deal to me, it really shapes my decisions in the rest of my life to know if someone is committed in that way, so I feel like it's something I need to know, within a reasonable span of time.

The way I see it, based on my conversations with this girl, she equates love to dependence. When she becomes dependent on a guy, when she feels she can't live without them, that's when she loves them, and that's why it takes her so long. I don't necessarily think that's a good way to be, but still, I do like hanging out with her, at least at the moment, so I'm happy to see where things go.

I also think it relates to how your partner escalates things. Her ex was the only long term relationship she had, and he didn't enjoy physical affection, touching, and things like that. So it may have been harder to love him.

Besides, I may move to Montreal within 6 months. That's kind of part of the issue for me. I don't settle down in a city for more than a year typically. So if I'm going to ever do so, I need to know where I'm at with a girl, I need some form of commitment from them within at a very minimum, under 12 months, sometimes sooner, else it just doesn't fit into my life. With that said, at the same time as saying she doesn't fall in love within under a year, she does say some wacky stuff sometimes. I've only known her for two weeks and when I mentioned Montreal she suggested she would want to come with me.

Grenchel · Dec 16, 2017

Has anyone ever dated someone that none of your friends have liked? I just started seeing someone who I really like, and who really seems to be into me. However, like, no one seems to like her. I've never experienced me in this life. I have had friends come up to me and tell me things like, "you can do much better" and "This girl is just going to bring you down"

Perhaps I am smitten, but the girl, from what I can tell, is great. The only thing that anyone can really point to as a negative is that she has a lot of partners in the past, but that seems to be about it? Which is something that doesn't bother me.

At the moment, I feel like I am in a hard place as I have been constantly bombarded with these comments from multiple people at various times, and I would lying if I said it wasn't putting a damper on things a bit.

Alek · Dec 16, 2017

Grenchel said:
Has anyone ever dated someone that none of your friends have liked? I just started seeing someone who I really like, and who really seems to be into me. However, like, no one seems to like her. I've never experienced me in this life. I have had friends come up to me and tell me things like, "you can do much better" and "This girl is just going to bring you down"

Perhaps I am smitten, but the girl, from what I can tell, is great. The only thing that anyone can really point to as a negative is that she has a lot of partners in the past, but that seems to be about it? Which is something that doesn't bother me.

At the moment, I feel like I am in a hard place as I have been constantly bombarded with these comments from multiple people at various times, and I would lying if I said it wasn't putting a damper on things a bit.

Never been in that situation. My friends tend to just want me to be happy so I don't think they'd say anything like that unless they had a very explicit reason to believe I wouldn't be, with said person.

Out of curiosity how many is 'a lot' of partners? Maybe there's something they know about related to that.

Messofanego · Dec 16, 2017

Chronospherics said:
Oh, and I integrated video games into the evening by playing Everything in the background and sticking it on autoplay. She enjoyed Alan Watt's philosophical lectures that feature in the game and thought the way that the animals move was funny.

This is everything for those unaware
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JYHp8LwBUzo

It's a pretty cool screensaver for your PS4 / PC, because it plays itself if you don't press anything. I think we probably watched the game play itself for a few hours.

Everything definitely makes for a great screensaver on TV, I've let it run just to see what comes out. Fascinating game.

Deleted member 33533 · Dec 16, 2017

Chronospherics said:
Yeah I don't know. It's not that it's a problem that it's someone else. It's just for a moment it felt weird. It feels weird to be lay in bed with someone, waking up with someone, that isn't the person I've been with for the past 4 to 5 years. It wasn't as though I wished it were her. It just reminded me, of the same feeling, like a flashback, to being in the same place with an ex.

As far as falling in love goes, I've only been in four long term relationships and all four of them fell for me within a month. One of them even told me they loved me within days, and that lead to a 3 year relationship. I think everyone is different over a year is a bit too long for me personally.

To be honest if a girl wasn't ready to say the same thing back within a month or so of myself feeling the same, I'd exit the relationship and find someone else. I spent enough time with my ex telling her I loved her without her returning it and there's no chance I'd be interested in going through that again. I'm not saying I expect someone to return it, or that I love this girl that I'm seeing at the moment (not at all, to be honest). Waiting a few weeks, months, or whatever is one thing, but potentially years, is another. It's a big deal to me, it really shapes my decisions in the rest of my life to know if someone is committed in that way, so I feel like it's something I need to know, within a reasonable span of time.

The way I see it, based on my conversations with this girl, she equates love to dependence. When she becomes dependent on a guy, when she feels she can't live without them, that's when she loves them, and that's why it takes her so long. I don't necessarily think that's a good way to be, but still, I do like hanging out with her, at least at the moment, so I'm happy to see where things go.

I also think it relates to how your partner escalates things. Her ex was the only long term relationship she had, and he didn't enjoy physical affection, touching, and things like that. So it may have been harder to love him.

Besides, I may move to Montreal within 6 months. That's kind of part of the issue for me. I don't settle down in a city for more than a year typically. So if I'm going to ever do so, I need to know where I'm at with a girl, I need some form of commitment from them within at a very minimum, under 12 months, sometimes sooner, else it just doesn't fit into my life. With that said, at the same time as saying she doesn't fall in love within under a year, she does say some wacky stuff sometimes. I've only known her for two weeks and when I mentioned Montreal she suggested she would want to come with me.

I can see why you'd want to see that return of commitment, that's really interesting. Knowing there's equal commitment at that point would be reassuring for me too. No offense but personally, I think saying you love someone is just saying words and a person saying it too early might make me think "how many times has this person said this to a new SO before me?" I'll think about how easily they throw out that phrase and if it really means a commitment.

I would be skeptical of someone saying they fell in love with me weeks and especially days into a relationship for that reason. At least in my experience, the person usually ends up being in love with the idea of the relationship and not me. Or they're in love with the idea of being in love. Not saying you're like that, soley my experience, which I admit aren't good experiences which effect my opinion. I've just seen people turn around so easily from loving someone. With the ex I mentioned, while she was the only one who said she loved me, she didn't really back up her words with how she treated me. Which is why personally I'm less about people saying they're committed and more about them showing it.

Interesting though, now that we're on this subject i'm actually evaluating my feelings on the matter for the first time in such a way. I guess I'm pretty pessimistic about love, huh? Not to shoot you down, you seem pretty secure and sure of your feelings and what you want.

Grenchel said:
Has anyone ever dated someone that none of your friends have liked? I just started seeing someone who I really like, and who really seems to be into me. However, like, no one seems to like her. I've never experienced me in this life. I have had friends come up to me and tell me things like, "you can do much better" and "This girl is just going to bring you down"

Perhaps I am smitten, but the girl, from what I can tell, is great. The only thing that anyone can really point to as a negative is that she has a lot of partners in the past, but that seems to be about it? Which is something that doesn't bother me.

At the moment, I feel like I am in a hard place as I have been constantly bombarded with these comments from multiple people at various times, and I would lying if I said it wasn't putting a damper on things a bit.

Depends on the quality of your friends. Are these like acquaintances or people you might hang out with sometimes or people you haven't known for long or only know through work? Or are they like long time friends, people that you trust wholly, etc.

It comes down to if you trust your friends to look out for your wellbeing. Only you know your friends so it's up to you. I feel like there may be something missing though. Is it really just that she has had multiple partners in the past? How do they even know?

Deleted member 9838 · Dec 16, 2017

wow I think dating goes so much easier when you aren't so focused on it and doing other things you like. I'm not saying don't take some time to do it just not to take it soooo seriously. Don't forget to do your own hobbies and things too.

Alek · Dec 16, 2017

Widdle Puppy said:
wow I think dating goes so much easier when you aren't so focused on it and doing other things you like. I'm not saying don't take some time to do it just not to take it soooo seriously. Don't forget to do your own hobbies and things too.

What makes you think anyone here isn't doing other things they like? I mean, this isn't a dating forum. Presumably everyone here is a video game enthusiast, which is a hobby they likely pursue, at a very minimum.

I play video games, skate, practice bouldering, watch a lot of movies, and spend a lot of time with friends at bars, etc. All the while I still have time for dating, without really feeling like I'm giving up anything else. Not to mention, my work is a huge part of my life. I spend a tremendous amount of time outside of work thinking about it, reading about it, watching videos related to it, etc. I don't see how dating prevents anyone doing any of that.

Even if I'm with a girl, dating, I just integrate her with that stuff. I play video games, get them to watch movies. Sometimes girls have asked me to teach them things, one of my ex's I got together with because she asked me to teach her to play Street Fighter IV. The idea of sacrificing personal interests to date seems ridiculous to me, heck, I don't even date girls that won't play video games.

Deleted member 9838 · Dec 16, 2017

Chronospherics said:
What makes you think anyone here isn't doing other things they like? I mean, this isn't a dating forum. Presumably everyone here is a video game enthusiast, which is a hobby they likely pursue, at a very minimum.

I play video games, skate, practice bouldering, watch a lot of movies, and spend a lot of time with friends at bars, etc. All the while I still have time for dating, without really feeling like I'm giving up anything else. Not to mention, my work is a huge part of my life. I spend a tremendous amount of time outside of work thinking about it, reading about it, watching videos related to it, etc. I don't see how dating prevents anyone doing any of that.

Even if I'm with a girl, dating, I just integrate her with that stuff. I play video games, get them to watch movies. Sometimes girls have asked me to teach them things, one of my ex's I got together with because she asked me to teach her to play Street Fighter IV. The idea of sacrificing personal interests to date seems ridiculous to me, heck, I don't even date girls that won't play video games.

I didn't assume it about anyone... I was sharing a thought about a lesson I learned myself :)

Alek · Dec 16, 2017

Widdle Puppy said:
I didn't assume it about anyone... I was sharing a thought about a lesson I learned myself :)

Oh I see. My bad.

But yeah, don't give up anything you like. Search for people that like the same things. It just makes sense haha.

Alwayscrazybacon · Dec 16, 2017

Advc said:
Hello DatingEra, some of you might remember me from the other site talking about this girl who was my gf but didn't give a damn about me and it was always coming with excuses to not see me. I saw that some of you were wondering what happened to that story on the first few pages of this thread, wich I appreciate.

I was talking about it right before the other site collapsed and since then, I decided to stop posting about it, because just as I said there once, I'm not that kind of person that shares personal stuff on the internet cuz' I have this paranoia that might end up being stalked and stuff, but since I don't have any friends to talk about it, I had to express all this messy feelings somewhere because I was feeling like going mental, plus you guys kindly took the time to help me with your advice too wich I also appreciate, so yeah, I think an update should be made about it. Apologies it took me this long to do so. Basically: I'm single again. She simply kept dissapearing for weeks and weeks, while ignoring my messages/calls only to randomly come back and say I'm sorry. I simply had enough of that shit and it seems she had it of her own too because she end up telling me that all of this proves that she simply is still not ready to carry with a serious relationship just yet. She was aware of all the mental damage she was causing me by acting and ignoring me like this and that supposedly she also was suffering of that too by ignoring me, but that she couldn't help it due to all the other stuff going on her life right now. She basically asked for some time off and that if I want, we can perhaps try things again sometime in the future when she can felt more mature to carry a serious relationship.

But ehhh, I think I just had enough and will move on. Because during the days where she was "dissapeared" and were still on the relationship, I accidentally discovered on fb that she actually had a graduation ceremony from college and she didn't even told me about it, much less invited me... I also discovered she kept going to local band concerts on her own, or probably with her friends while she kept ignoring me or coming with excuses to not go out with me. I discovered this stuff while casually scrolling through my facebook feed. The graduation pictures of her school suddenly appeared on my feed so no stalking was made whatsoever. Seriously, It's kinda creepy the amount of stuff you can accidentally discover of the people you have on your friend list just by scrolling through your fb feed, even stuff you don't actually want to know about. All of that makes me anxious too so that's why I'm going to take some time off from facebook and social media in general. But seriously, the amount of indifference with her was simply mindblowing.

I think the age difference between us made a big impact on our "relationship" She's 21, I'm 27. When I was 21, I certainly had a different point of view about life in general. At that time I literally wanted to eat the whole world by doing a million things at .once... While fucking it up in pretty much all of them and it seems she's currently going through that phase and still doesn't exactly know what she wants in life just yet. Too bad that due to that, her health has been compromised pretty badly, but there's nothing else I can do at this point but to respect her and wish her luck.

I've been feeling sad, yes, but kinda more relaxed too now that I don't compulsevely check the damn phone every 5 minutes to see if I received a message from her. Heck, there's been some days now where I don't even touch the phone during the whole day and it's been great! My anxiety levels have dropped considerably thanks to that. It's just nice to be free of uncertainty and dramas and I hope that once my feelings are settled out, I can carry on with my life and fix all the stuff I neglected during this time. I left tons of projects and people to the side due to this girl, my health included. It's my fault for gotten so hooked to her, but then again, she was my first gf in like, 5 years or so. Lesson learned for next time. I will also stay away of Tinder and all of that shit for a while in order to focus on myself first, because just by thinking of going into the dating game again, literally makes me sick right now. Dating is hard, guize. Sorry for the lenghty post. If you read it till this point, u awesome! Thanks!

Thanks for coming here and updating us, we were wondering if the situation had changed and now we know. OK your free now, focus on yourself and then go looking for a girl who will appreciate you.

Alwayscrazybacon · Dec 16, 2017

Grenchel said:
Has anyone ever dated someone that none of your friends have liked? I just started seeing someone who I really like, and who really seems to be into me. However, like, no one seems to like her. I've never experienced me in this life. I have had friends come up to me and tell me things like, "you can do much better" and "This girl is just going to bring you down"

Perhaps I am smitten, but the girl, from what I can tell, is great. The only thing that anyone can really point to as a negative is that she has a lot of partners in the past, but that seems to be about it? Which is something that doesn't bother me.

At the moment, I feel like I am in a hard place as I have been constantly bombarded with these comments from multiple people at various times, and I would lying if I said it wasn't putting a damper on things a bit.

Just date her and if you see those problems your friends can see then take time to consider if they were right. I know many people who have fallen for the "wrong" girl but they won't see it at the time as they are pussy struck. Those relationships predictably end in drama. So go for it but don't ignore problems just because you want to prove your friends wrong.

Alwayscrazybacon · Dec 16, 2017

Widdle Puppy said:
wow I think dating goes so much easier when you aren't so focused on it and doing other things you like. I'm not saying don't take some time to do it just not to take it soooo seriously. Don't forget to do your own hobbies and things too.

Yup, you're not wrong here. If your too focused on dating women can smell the desperation / try hard and they'll back off. Being a rounded person with a variety of interests is much better and makes you more interesting.

Cyborg009 · Dec 17, 2017

Alwayscrazybacon said:
Give us some background. So you want to superswipe or have you?

Addie said:
Why don't you try it and see what happens.

Seriously, what are you afraid of?

I kind of wanted to know if anyone had experiences with this.

Alwayscrazybacon · Dec 17, 2017

Cyborg009 said:
I kind of wanted to know if anyone had experiences with this.

OK, now I understand. What isually happens with a superswipe is that the girl will either respond to it or totally ignore it. It really depends on the girl and what decision she will make.

LookAtMeGo · Dec 17, 2017

Super swiping is like the equivalent of doing the gun finger with both hands.

Addie · Dec 17, 2017

Addie said:
Chiming in to say I made it, fam.

It's weird to kinda-sorta be in a relationship on the first page of this OT. That has never happened before. If and when it gloriously implodes (or when it progresses), you'll be the first to know.

Welp, it lasted 33 pages. I did promise that you'd all know. Single again, just in time for Christmas.

(It lasted about two months, and ultimately, while there were a lot of good moments, there were some elements that ended up being dealbreakers for me. She's a great person, really; I've got nothing bad to say about her. But I don't think we were really a match, especially when logistics were involved - some distance, some financial worries on her part, and I think she was emotionally progressing much faster than I was.)

Subpar Scrub · Dec 17, 2017

LookAtMeGo said:
Super swiping is like the equivalent of doing the gun finger with both hands.

You say that as if you have a problem with my signature move? It's infallible.

Cyborg009 said:
I kind of wanted to know if anyone had experiences with this.

What do you mean experiences? Whether people have used it or had someone superlike on them?

I usually superlike by mistake. I don't really care much for it and some people find it weird. I might use it if I use up my free swipes for the day and the last girl on the feed looks cool.

artsi · Dec 17, 2017

I haven't posted for a while, but just a quick (happy) status report.
Things are going well with the girl who I met almost 3 months ago, the one who super liked me and stuff. We agreed for an exclusive relationship some time ago and things are stable again in my dating life.

There's just one problem, we both bought neon colored Switches recently and mess them up every time :(

LookAtMeGo · Dec 17, 2017

Shit. Sorry to hear that Artsi. I hope you get that switch problem figured out soon.

Quantum Leap · Dec 17, 2017

I really have to buy the gray joycons soon.
The bright ass colors clash in my living room.

Deleted member 9838 · Dec 17, 2017

Girl I've been friends with and sorta semi dating seems a little mad at me but I'm not sure :/

Can I have some advice? I'll go into more detail in a momemt.

kristoffer · Dec 17, 2017

It's your fault, apologize, make her feel like she's really understood, and do something nice for her.

Alwayscrazybacon · Dec 17, 2017

Widdle Puppy said:
Girl I've been friends with and sorta semi dating seems a little mad at me but I'm not sure :/

Can I have some advice? I'll go into more detail in a momemt.

Well it's been over an hour and a half. What's the details?

Jintor · Dec 17, 2017

got a kiss woooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Deleted member 33533 · Dec 17, 2017

Here's a question: Christmas is coming up. Do you typically get a Christmas gift for the person you're dating but not in a relationship with? I imagine it should be something cheap and casual so as not to be too eager but nothing at all would seem too cold. I just realized I've always been single this time of year so I never had to think about it.

Deleted member 24907 · Dec 17, 2017

SuperiorTrashTalk said:
Here's a question: Christmas is coming up. Do you typically get a Christmas gift for the person you're dating but not in a relationship with? I imagine it should be something cheap and casual so as not to be too eager but nothing at all would seem too cold. I just realized I've always been single this time of year so I never had to think about it.

I would say go cheap and casual but get something that gives you both an activity to do.

LookAtMeGo · Dec 17, 2017

Eatin' Olives said:
I would say go cheap and casual but get something that gives you both an activity to do.

Like sex dice

Deleted member 24907 · Dec 17, 2017

LookAtMeGo said:
Like sex dice

Especially sex dice

Quantum Leap · Dec 17, 2017

Great had to buy my first Plan B One Step today ;_;

Deleted member 33533 · Dec 17, 2017

Well, I had no idea what sex dice were but I guess I do now... Not really the type of gift I'd go for though haha

Jzeero said:
Great had to buy my first Plan B One Step today ;_;

Interesting Christmas gift, not sure about that though....

Crossing my fingers for you

Faust · Dec 17, 2017

So many boring girls :/ The last couple have all been *insert generic woman*, none have any real interests, no strong interests, they apparently all sit at home and then occasionally eat with their friends and that's it.

Alwayscrazybacon · Dec 17, 2017

Faust said:
So many boring girls :/ The last couple have all been *insert generic woman*, none have any real interests, no strong interests, they apparently all sit at home and then occasionally eat with their friends and that's it.

Just focus on being interesting yourself, if you're not feeling it with a girl then just move on.

Faust · Dec 18, 2017

Alwayscrazybacon said:
Just focus on being interesting yourself, if you're not feeling it with a girl then just move on.

I have... I'm not worried about being interesting, I'm just shocked at the amount of people who seem to have little to no hobbies and nothing they particularly care about. I'm not saying you have to be the most interesting person alive but when you can't find a single thing you actually care about it's pretty awkward.

Kickmaster Kim · Dec 18, 2017

I wish I could complain about something like that.

Hamoody · Dec 18, 2017

All went well today, as I went to Star Wars with a girl I liked for the past month.

Also thinking of getting her Star Wars Battlefront 2 (2005) on Steam. (She's a huge Star Wars fan).

vegohead · Dec 18, 2017

Oh my god, I just had the best encounter with a tinder girl in awhile. Randomly super like a girl on tinder and poke fun at the fact she has no bio and only one photo. She replies, and goes straight for flirtatious talk after a few messages. I end the conversation with her (was pretty late) by asking if she was willing to switch to texting via cell. I thought decided to ghosted me, cause she didn't reply this morning and afternoon so I sent her a ghost gif, which is what I do nowadays as a goodbye joke. She then texted me on my phone a little while after that gif and told me she's just getting use to the app and doesn't check it regularly.

But right after, she went straight to business and asked me if I wanted to do anal with her, which caught me totally off guard. She said that her boyfriend wasn't into it and she wanted to do it with another guy. I guess she's in a open relationship or something, cause he's okay with it from what she said. What really made this awesome, was when I then asked her for an additional photo of her (because it sounded like a catfish was coming my way). And she sent one of the hottest nudes I've seen, with the words "Hi my name!" on her right butt cheek. I was instantly sold, but my main concern was that the boyfriend would be there during the act but she told me he wouldn't be there unless "I wanted him there".

So hyped for this Wednesday night, hope she's real and doesn't murder me. Besides her, I've been speaking with multiple women due to tinder gold, and the REL rule has been helping tremendously. Thanks Era.

Alwayscrazybacon · Dec 18, 2017

How did she write on her own butt? Seems too good to be true.

vegohead · Dec 18, 2017

Alwayscrazybacon said:
How did she write on her own butt? Seems too good to be true.

She wrote it with a black marker, I guess looking at the mirror. Yea, even if she's not real, that was a fun interaction. I had something similar with a girl who wanted me to be her money pig. Alotta interesting women around Baltimore.

Beren · Dec 18, 2017

Well, uh... have fun.

Let us know how that one goes.

Addie · Dec 18, 2017

vegohead said:
She wrote it with a black marker, I guess looking at the mirror. Yea, even if she's not real, that was a fun interaction. I had something similar with a girl who wanted me to be her money pig. Alotta interesting women around Baltimore.

Money... pig?

vypek · Dec 18, 2017

Addie said:
Money... pig?

Yeah. I need this explained as well. Is it like a "piggy bank"? Did she want him to finance her life?

LookAtMeGo · Dec 18, 2017

Its derogatory for sugardaddy

Notaskwid · Dec 18, 2017

Glad you solved your problems Advc
You seem to finally have your head in the right place, now keep it going!

LookAtMeGo · Dec 18, 2017

LookAtMeGo said:
Its derogatory for sugardaddy

Also congrats on getting murdered.

Subpar Scrub · Dec 18, 2017

LookAtMeGo said:
Also congrats on getting murdered.

On the bright side, the triad boss who gets his kidney will be very thankful this Christmas.

Messofanego · Dec 18, 2017

vegohead said:
Oh my god, I just had the best encounter with a tinder girl in awhile. Randomly super like a girl on tinder and poke fun at the fact she has no bio and only one photo. She replies, and goes straight for flirtatious talk after a few messages. I end the conversation with her (was pretty late) by asking if she was willing to switch to texting via cell. I thought decided to ghosted me, cause she didn't reply this morning and afternoon so I sent her a ghost gif, which is what I do nowadays as a goodbye joke. She then texted me on my phone a little while after that gif and told me she's just getting use to the app and doesn't check it regularly.

But right after, she went straight to business and asked me if I wanted to do anal with her, which caught me totally off guard. She said that her boyfriend wasn't into it and she wanted to do it with another guy. I guess she's in a open relationship or something, cause he's okay with it from what she said. What really made this awesome, was when I then asked her for an additional photo of her (because it sounded like a catfish was coming my way). And she sent one of the hottest nudes I've seen, with the words "Hi my name!" on her right butt cheek. I was instantly sold, but my main concern was that the boyfriend would be there during the act but she told me he wouldn't be there unless "I wanted him there".

So hyped for this Wednesday night, hope she's real and doesn't murder me. Besides her, I've been speaking with multiple women due to tinder gold, and the REL rule has been helping tremendously. Thanks Era.

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Enjoy lol

Alek · Dec 18, 2017

Yep, there's no way I'd meet up with that girl. I mean, I'm not looking for hookups generally so that's a big factor, but the way you described that interaction just seems too good to be true for people looking for that type of thing.

I'd suspect she may be looking to rob me, or something like that. I've heard of girls doing that on Tinder, with their partners. Be cautious at the very least Vego.

Vern · Dec 18, 2017

What is the REL rule?

Alek · Dec 18, 2017

Vern said:
What is the REL rule?

Relate - talk briefly about a common interest, show them that you're a normal human being, a decent guy that they can relate to
Escalate - make your intentions clear, clarify what you / they want out
Lockin - Lock in a date to meet up

DatingEra - This isn't like one of your animes

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