Only first name, so I think I'm okay with it... Not that I would have been super successful using the platform so far.
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Likely because they're hemorrhaging users to Tinder-style phone apps. I don't see OKC sticking around for much longer.
Alright boys here where I'm at...started talking to this really cute girl since yesterday we've gone back and forth every hour getting to know our similar interests I didn't get back to her for.about 4 hours today she messaged me in the morning I didn't get back to her till about 2 havent heard back since...does that usually mean the convos done or should I wait a few days before following up
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I have finally started talking to girls, one of my best friends convinced me. Went to a Christmas party in downtown Toronto yesterday, spoke to some cute girls from work (they work in different teams) and it was nice. I really have to take baby steps, but it's good that I am making progress.
Is local holes a scam? I'm leaning towards yes, but on POF I see pics of women with text on them that says local holes.
Yay, my laptop keyboard is fixed, so I'll be able to actually type shit longer than a sentence now. Replying to these threads on my phone isn't too bad, but it is a little irritating.
Punctuation, dude. It's hard to follow this without it. So from what I understand, she messaged you in the morning, you messaged her back at 2, and you haven't heard back since. We don't know what timezone you're in, so for all I know, you've been waiting for like 40 minutes. In any case, if you've been messaging each other a bunch and she seems to reply a fair bit, wait a while (I don't know, like a day?) and if she doesn't get back to you, send her another message. Maybe she saw it and forgot to reply, maybe she hasn't seen it, so just send another casual message after a day or so. If there's no reply again after that, don't worry about it and let her get back to you if she wants to.
Great to hear mate, keep making progress and remember to have fun!
What is local holes? I have never heard of it and I'm not googling that shit.
There's a very real chance that you did catch her off guard, my first girlfriend did that and I froze up when she said it haha. If everything is still chill between you two, then don't sweat it too hard and keep on doing what you're doing. She'll say it if and when she's ready to say it.
Punctuation, dude. It's hard to follow this without it. So from what I understand, she messaged you in the morning, you messaged her back at 2, and you haven't heard back since. We don't know what timezone you're in, so for all I know, you've been waiting for like 40 minutes. In any case, if you've been messaging each other a bunch and she seems to reply a fair bit, wait a while (I don't know, like a day?) and if she doesn't get back to you, send her another message. Maybe she saw it and forgot to reply, maybe she hasn't seen it, so just send another casual message after a day or so. If there's no reply again after that, don't worry about it and let her get back to you if she wants to.
Great to hear mate, keep making progress and remember to have fun!
What is local holes? I have never heard of it and I'm not googling that shit.
There's a very real chance that you did catch her off guard, my first girlfriend did that and I froze up when she said it haha. If everything is still chill between you two, then don't sweat it too hard and keep on doing what you're doing. She'll say it if and when she's ready to say it.
Are you just messaging her? If you haven't, you should just ask her out. Girls will get bored of messaging while at the same time, other guys will be asking them out.
I was just trying to get to know some of her interests before going for it she was replying every hour not really holding a full conversation but genuily seemed interested she just hasn't answered back and I felt I was following up normally I just haven't heard back since wasn't sure if that's a sign or not
Well I don't know where you met her but the thing is if it's tinder or whatever she's probably talking to a lot of other guys who she's interested in too. So unless you push for an actual meetup she'll likely to get bored / occupied with other things and stop replying. You won't really get to know a girl via messages alone. I don't know if you've been out with many girls that you've met online, but you quickly realise that the online messaging portion of your communication doesn't really give you that much of an indication of who they are. All you need to do is use that online messaging period to quickly figure out if there are ways in which you can relate to the girl (if you like the same type of movies, books, music, etc) then lock in a date - the only reason you need to do that former part is to ensure you have something to talk about / relate over when you meet, so as a worst case scenario it's just a friendly conversation, and not super awkward.
It's not really a sign of anything. If you just message a girl for a lengthy period of time, most of them will end up in stagnant conversations that don't really get anywhere, until someone just drops off and stops replying, or they'll be more engaged with a similar conversation with someone else that actually locks in a date.
As for the timing of her responses. It seems normal to me.
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I went away for Christmas the other day, leaving the girl I've been dating back in Brighton. We messaged a few times, but hadn't spoken to her in a couple of days. I was kind of doing this deliberately, just to give her some time to herself.
I called her last night, while I was longboarding in the park. She was crying a little when she picked up, she said she gets upset at Christmas, because it reminds her of things she doesn't have, and memories from the past. She doesn't have a family, her mother died of cancer when she was young, and she walked in on her father slitting his wrists when she was a little older.
I ended up longboarding around while using my headphones to talk to her for about two and a half hours. It was nice to talk to her. She said she was worried she was getting emotionally attached to me. Before I knew it I had been all around town on my long board, 15 miles or so.
She said I cheered her up. I didn't really do anything, I just listened to her and talked about my sister quite a bit. I'm glad she ended up feeling a little better though. I think it's a good sign if I can cheer her up without explicit effort.
I called her last night, while I was longboarding in the park. She was crying a little when she picked up, she said she gets upset at Christmas, because it reminds her of things she doesn't have, and memories from the past. She doesn't have a family, her mother died of cancer when she was young, and she walked in on her father slitting his wrists when she was a little older.
I ended up longboarding around while using my headphones to talk to her for about two and a half hours. It was nice to talk to her. She said she was worried she was getting emotionally attached to me. Before I knew it I had been all around town on my long board, 15 miles or so.
She said I cheered her up. I didn't really do anything, I just listened to her and talked about my sister quite a bit. I'm glad she ended up feeling a little better though. I think it's a good sign if I can cheer her up without explicit effort.
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Damn, that's terribly sad. It shows how much she likes you and enjoys talking/being with you if you can cheer her up without even trying outright hard. And about her getting emotionally attached to you, I would bet that she is already. What was your response to her when she said that? Your response (if you were given a chance to respond that is) is pretty important to something like that.
It is sad, but a lot of the girls I've dated tend to have been through trauma like that, my ex was an orphan too. I find it makes them more interesting people. This particular girl has been working and taking care of herself since she was 16 years old. She's stronger and generally more interesting to me than most women.
As for the bolded, I don't remember. I think I just told her not to worry, and that I like spending time with her. I told her I'd give her a call on Christmas day - she said 'You know you can call me whenever you want Joe' and generally seemed pretty happy to be talking to me.
We talked about a lot of things. She was saying she wished she was with me, and I reciprocated those feelings. She spoke about children, how many she wanted, and asked me questions related to things like that. Where she wanted to live, what kind of life she wanted to have. She asked me if I had children, would I want to stay at home and look after them, or whether I'd expect my partner to. I guess those are pretty serious questions - in general we want the same things. I imagine talking about Christmas just got her thinking about family.
In the end I kind of got tired and ended the conversation, because longboarding for two and a half hours wears you out and I just wanted to go to bed. I'm going to head back to Brighton on the 27th and she's going to spend a couple of days at my house before we have to go back to work in the new years.
I like spending time with her and I'm having fun doing that at the moment. No big deal if things don't go anywhere long-term but either way I'm having a good time right now.
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Ah yes. Local holes. Up there with SnapFuck and FuckBook as some of my favorite dating sites. I had this really sexy girl I've never seen before pop up out of nowhere while I was browsing PornHub saying she wanted sexual relations with me. I couldnt talk to her until I signed up though. I cant believe how many women want to fuck me when I havent even created a profile yet on some of these sites. Its amazing.
Uh oh. What did they do now?
(I'm going back on it in a couple weeks)
I bet you can win girls on SnapFuck and FuckBook with South Park gifs
Sign up to find an open hole near you
lol come on, even if it were real what kind of ladies would you find on "local holes"
lol come on, even if it were real what kind of ladies would you find on "local holes"
They're obviously hacking your computer. It's ok though because they have good intentions; they just wanna fuck.
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So do you specifically search out for girls with troubled pasts? Or is it just a coincidence that most of your past relationships were with people with a traumatic past? Curious because if it's the former, that seems like a fairly creepy thing to do unless you yourself have had an extremely traumatic past and that this is just a coping mechanism/trait for you to relate to in a relationship.
It's just odd to me that you said women with a bad upbringing are "generally more interesting" than those without.
Personally that was one main reasons for why I ended my last one. We stomached eachothers hobbies but didn't really like them, and we had almost no common ground except for tv shows.
In general I just find that people that have been through hard times are often stronger and more, relatable people, for me. I'll pm you more details since you asked but won't post here.
The only thing I actually look for in a girl is that she's attractive and plays video games.
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Find your local hole.
Such local hole density in N.A. and Russia, perhaps I should relocate
Here's advice I gave to a lady friend yesterday, that might help some of you:
Don't try to validate your existence or seek happiness in others. Love yourself and love what you do before you attempt anything serious with others. Having self confidence, structure and general positive vibes is what makes you attractive above a lot of things. When you feel good about yourself, people will eventually gravitate towards you.
Anyway, said "lady friend" and I have a lot of history. I get the impression she's in love with me. She's cool. Sweet young woman. But she's got far too much personal drama. Plus, she's got a bad case of anxiety. I just can't deal with that shit. All she does is complain about the same stupid problems, most of which are easily fixable. She moans about being lonely, yet her desperation for attention leads her to hang out with less than favorable people, or those who are just as unstable be as she is. It's not a good look.
Yesterday I told her what she needs to do to get her life on track. She has a strong victim complex, so naturally she shut down and accused me of "scolding" her and being insensitive. This is nothing new. At this stage of my life, I'm even more brutally honest. I'm straight forward and get right to the point. I don't sugar coating anything. On Wednesday, I'll be 29. I'm too old for juvenile bullshit. I just refuse to deal with it.
Don't try to validate your existence or seek happiness in others. Love yourself and love what you do before you attempt anything serious with others. Having self confidence, structure and general positive vibes is what makes you attractive above a lot of things. When you feel good about yourself, people will eventually gravitate towards you.
Anyway, said "lady friend" and I have a lot of history. I get the impression she's in love with me. She's cool. Sweet young woman. But she's got far too much personal drama. Plus, she's got a bad case of anxiety. I just can't deal with that shit. All she does is complain about the same stupid problems, most of which are easily fixable. She moans about being lonely, yet her desperation for attention leads her to hang out with less than favorable people, or those who are just as unstable be as she is. It's not a good look.
Yesterday I told her what she needs to do to get her life on track. She has a strong victim complex, so naturally she shut down and accused me of "scolding" her and being insensitive. This is nothing new. At this stage of my life, I'm even more brutally honest. I'm straight forward and get right to the point. I don't sugar coating anything. On Wednesday, I'll be 29. I'm too old for juvenile bullshit. I just refuse to deal with it.
I'm wondering that too
-PXG- if she has severe anxiety, that might explain the "victim complex" amongst other things. In any case, if you don't want to date her, that's understandable too. I wouldn't date someone who rolls with crowds that I find unfavourable either.
Right okay, I'm posting from my phone. I was talking to my brother this morning since he rang to ask how I've been getting on since the breakup and I told him that I've been fine. Long story short, he told me to go out to a bar and have a few drinks and just hangout and see if I can meet any girls. Currently at a bar right now, and a good looking girl comes up to the bar where you order drinks and orders a drink, I then just randomly say I'll pay for it with my drink I order. She thanks me, and asks
"You here alone?"
And I say yes, and now I'm sitting with her and her four other friends which are all girls and pretty good looking. Now I'm in the toilet and my anxiety is going through the roof what is even happening
And yes I have to go back out now cause I've been in here way too long. I'm so nervous god help me
"You here alone?"
And I say yes, and now I'm sitting with her and her four other friends which are all girls and pretty good looking. Now I'm in the toilet and my anxiety is going through the roof what is even happening
And yes I have to go back out now cause I've been in here way too long. I'm so nervous god help me
If you see this, just get out there and have fun man. You've no obligation to the group and they want to chill with you, so just enjoy yourself and don't worry about it too much. That being said, I know anxiety is a bitch, so just do the best you can. Awesome to hear you struck up conversation and it's panning out dude, you can do it!!
Also... wasn't there a previous dating OT title about being in the bathroom?
Trust me. No intentions on dating her, EVER. Sweet gal though. Care about and wish her nothing but good fortune.
I'm up getting a drink and all i can say is this is going pretty good despite my anxiety being through the roof
I'll try keep you guys updated whenever I get a chance to come on here lol
I'll try keep you guys updated whenever I get a chance to come on here lol
Two of the five girls (one being who I bought the drink for first) have an apartment together and asked if I wanted to go back to theirs with them for another drink
I said yes but man what the fuck I'm sweating
I said yes but man what the fuck I'm sweating
Get the hell off this site, chill out, and have a fun time, my guy.
I would love to make fun of you but I would also have anxiety. My advice is to continue drinking and/or smoke weed.
I'm an expert so you can trust my advice.
I'm an expert so you can trust my advice.
lol Soul of Miyazaki ... they are just people.
"What is even happening?"
You are just having drinks with some people. A completely normal interaction. Talk with them, try and suss our who is single, make jokes, be cute, get numbers or instagrams or whatever, enjoy the time.
"What is even happening?"
You are just having drinks with some people. A completely normal interaction. Talk with them, try and suss our who is single, make jokes, be cute, get numbers or instagrams or whatever, enjoy the time.