Reminds me of being really young and dating (no offence). Everything is heightened, senses, emotions, staring at a phone just willing someone to text. It really isnt healthy, it messes up your chances with anyone (investing so heavily in their texts on your end, when theyre just sending them casually), it piles the pressure on the whole situation and it never, ever ends well.
I remember when I 1st tried online dating years and years ago, I used to correspond with someone with a message from her like once a week. It was like a letter almost, and I looked forward to it so much. It's laughable when I look back. These days I have tinder, POF, bumble, okcupid and whatsapp all buzzing away, a few contacts on each, sometimes I'll reply a lot, often I just dont bother. Im super picky and I dont have that youthful feeling of it having such earth shattering importance any more.
My 3 main points here are
1/ text-obsessing never works well, and ends in tears, your texts wont be irreverent and fun when you're applying so much pressure to it. People smell the desperation and run a mile.
2/ this lesson can never ever be learned from reading other peoples stuff, you only figure it out through heartache and fuck ups.
3/ you become instantly more attractive when you dont instantly reply, throw yourself at their mercy, and let them know you're theirs if they want you. A certain level of aloofness (not unattainability) is infinitely more desirable than instantly professing your desire for them. People go oh..right, and back up.