So, I don't post a lot, but I lurk a ton. I kind of need some guys point of view on my situation, since I've talked about it only to girls for now. But girls opinions are welcome too ;)
I've been seeing girls for a year now, after a horrible breakup where I was cheated on in one of the worst ways possible after a 7 year relationship .
A little more than 2 months ago I met this amazing girl on happn, the problem is she lives in Paris and I live in the south of France . We instantly clicked and started playing hangman as a way to know each other instead of the usual boring conversations :) and we're still playing to this day...
After a week she offered to take a train to come spend the weekend at my place, I said of course.
The weekend went amazingly, too much maybe, we got drunk, talked, kissed and fucked all weekend. At the end of the weekend, we realized that we REALLY liked each other but agreed that we didn't want a girlfriend/boyfriend.
The next weekend I had a trip planned to Paris but with another girl, a friend from college though I admit the situation was a bit ambiguous. I couldn't go to see her so she was a bit bitter about that but eventually understood though her friends told her I was probably a fuck boy. Nothing happened with the other girl.
She came back the week after, then I went to Paris to see her, and she came back again a few weeks ago and stayed at my place more than a week, in part due to the train strikes currently happening in France. The end of her stay was very heavy in feelings because she had to leave but we both didnt want to, especially since we knew we wouldn't be able to see each other for more than a month because of those fucking strikes and we short on money...
AND ALSO because I started to ask what she wanted from me since we both like each other a lot, but she doesn't want to put a label on it for now. I said that if she wanted to be a couple I was ok, that if she wanted to be in an open relationship I was ok too due to the distance etc... but that I didn't like to be in this gray area for too long.
She asked that I give her time, I said ok.
Last week I was in Barcelona with some friends and one night I was out partying and I was drunk and became kind of needy via texts, asking her to not forget me and if she still wanted me etc... she didn't like that .
We talked about it later and I said that it was the alcohol, the distance and this gray situation that was fucking with my mind.
NOW IS THE REAL IMPORTANT PART
She said to me that I should see other girls, that it was ok as long as she didn't know. I said that I didn't really wanted to right now, but if it should happen we should be open and sincere about it. She doesn't agree, she says it wouldn't be healthy, that every curiosity is not good to have and every truth should not necessarily be told, at least for now. That she is just being realistic...
So guys, does this mean that she is seeing other guys? She always told me that she wasn't really looking for guys, that she didn't want to see any other guys, that she was ok with a sex toy. But she parties A LOT and has a very active life with many friends, while mine is kind if boring right now and I'm trying to rebuild it but can't manage for now, which makes me insecure in this situation I think ....
After all that I thought she didn't really like me, but she said she was acting weird because she's kinda lost, being between jobs, and she finds she likes me too much for this stage of the "relationship", and then she asked me if I was seeing us living together, because she was thinking a lot about coming to study or work in my city for at least a year to see what happens...
But this part about seeing other people is torturing me.... I think I'm in love with her, she's on of the coolest girls I ever met, and when we're together she really makes me feel liked or loved, even more so than girls I spent years with... She's the best fuck I ever had and she really loves my dick, even though I had a few times I couldn't get it hard due to performance anxiety because I like her too much I think...
So what say you era?
Sorry for the novella but I think every detail counts. If I get at least one piece of advice it would have been worth it ;)