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Tanooki · Jun 25, 2018

I'm going on my first official date today. Told my grandma (who I'm living with for the summer) last night that she won't need to make dinner for me tonight. She asked why, and I told her that I was going out to dinner with this guy I know. Unsure if she was able to read between the lines or not, I just went for it and told her I'm gay. Her only issue with it was that my mom knew before her, lol.

I'm glad that I'll be able to fully be myself this summer, and share my life with my nan in a way I couldn't before.

Now.. back to that date. I'm super excited because this guy seems great, but I'm also nervous af bc of how inexperienced I am. Like, I've never even kissed someone before.. how awkward is it gonna be if he goes in for the kill and I don't know what to do. Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Dragonfly224 · Jun 25, 2018

Lurker finally being brave enough to wish you all a happy pride month :)

crienne · Jun 25, 2018

Tanooki said:
I'm going on my first official date today. Told my grandma (who I'm living with for the summer) last night that she won't need to make dinner for me tonight. She asked why, and I told her that I was going out to dinner with this guy I know. Unsure if she was able to read between the lines or not, I just went for it and told her I'm gay. Her only issue with it was that my mom knew before her, lol.

I'm glad that I'll be able to fully be myself this summer, and share my life with my nan in a way I couldn't before.

Now.. back to that date. I'm super excited because this guy seems great, but I'm also nervous af bc of how inexperienced I am. Like, I've never even kissed someone before.. how awkward is it gonna be if he goes in for the kill and I don't know what to do. Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Dude you got this! My advice? If it gets to that point just start slow, like I'm sure he will too. If it starts to feel awkward, just be honest and say you're new to this whole thing. Speaking for myself, it's kind of hot when someone's basically doing a "teach me what you know" moment. Who knows, maybe it'll be the same for him.

That being said, set your expectations for the date. Just aim for having a good time and don't build up some hope about how the night will end. Enjoy every moment as it happens, if you can, and you'll enjoy the night so much more.

Best of luck!

whitehawk · Jun 25, 2018

I went to pride in Toronto on Saturday, and I kissed a guy for the first time. We were making out and dancing in the middle of the dance floor, I was fucking OUT haha.

Prophet Five · Jun 25, 2018

whitehawk said:
I went to pride in Toronto on Saturday, and I kissed a guy for the first time. We were making out and dancing in the middle of the dance floor, I was fucking OUT haha.

Congrats!

Dany · Jun 25, 2018

whitehawk said:
I went to pride in Toronto on Saturday, and I kissed a guy for the first time. We were making out and dancing in the middle of the dance floor, I was fucking OUT haha.

High five!

whitehawk · Jun 25, 2018

Thanks guys!

#bipride

Sai · Jun 26, 2018

#bipride :] congrats, whitehawk. i'm so happy it went well for you!

KmA · Jun 26, 2018

JCX said:
I've never run into that question. So weird. They might as well cut to the chase and ask "how hung?"

Sis... He said tall...

Anyway! So this past weekend I confessed my feelings to this guy who was sort of becoming my best friend and he didn't reciprocate at all! He's texted me for the past few days trying to see if I'm ok but like... I'm not lmao. I might be the only person who feels this way but I feel like saying thank you after you tell someone how you feel about them just makes me feel worse about myself. Like... Stop thanking me for talking about this its a constant reminder that I was an idiot for falling for you. Anyway he keeps texting me to make sure I'm ok but I just need him to leave me alone for a few weeks. I don't know if I can just go back to just being his friend... This sucks like I literally introduced him to all my friends and now they are all friends with him.

Dany · Jun 26, 2018

The only sfw pictures I took from pride #lawd

TheAbsolution · Jun 26, 2018

whitehawk said:
I went to pride in Toronto on Saturday, and I kissed a guy for the first time. We were making out and dancing in the middle of the dance floor, I was fucking OUT haha.

Congrats! That's the best kind of experience. :)

Gradon · Jun 26, 2018

I'm finally moving in with my partner of 7 and a half years this month. It's incredibly exciting but at the same time I can't help but have a sinking irrational fear in the back of my head that my landlord could be homophobic... I don't know. I guess I'm just worrying too much.

Heroicpiglet · Jun 26, 2018

KmA said:
Sis... He said tall...

Anyway! So this past weekend I confessed my feelings to this guy who was sort of becoming my best friend and he didn't reciprocate at all! He's texted me for the past few days trying to see if I'm ok but like... I'm not lmao. I might be the only person who feels this way but I feel like saying thank you after you tell someone how you feel about them just makes me feel worse about myself. Like... Stop thanking me for talking about this its a constant reminder that I was an idiot for falling for you. Anyway he keeps texting me to make sure I'm ok but I just need him to leave me alone for a few weeks. I don't know if I can just go back to just being his friend... This sucks like I literally introduced him to all my friends and now they are all friends with him.

at least you have the courage to confess :D be strong

Prophet Five · Jun 26, 2018

I got engaged over the weekend. I guess I should point that out lol. We've been together so long that nothing really feels different lol.

lenovox1 · Jun 26, 2018

Milo Rambaldi said:
I got engaged over the weekend. I guess I should point that out lol. We've been together so long that nothing really feels different lol.

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

Tanooki · Jun 26, 2018

The date last night was honestly perfect. For some reason, I wasn't nervous at all and felt so comfortable the entire time. (but idk if that is good. Shouldn't I have had butterflies or something?) He was incredibly sweet and made me laugh a lot. I just wanted to snuggle into him by the end of the night and keep talking until we fell asleep. The bad thing is that we kinda live far.. he's about an hour north of me. I don't drive, and he can't stay at my house, so it makes things really difficult. I wasn't able to focus at all at work today trying to figure out how to make this work. I can take a bus to a city that's only 20 minutes away from him, which isn't as bad. I don't know, though. He told me we will worry about that if it gets to the point where we want to see each other more frequently. I've been so nervous about this all day, it's like a pit in my stomach. I know I'm working myself up way too much and overthinking everything, lol. Really need to stop that. (Also, thanks for the advice sqwarlock)

On a good note though, I'm going to be spending this upcoming weekend with him at his place/hometown!

Congratulations to Milo Rambaldi and Gradon! Those are huge milestones!

whitehawk said:
I went to pride in Toronto on Saturday, and I kissed a guy for the first time. We were making out and dancing in the middle of the dance floor, I was fucking OUT haha.

Yassss! Living your best life.

Sophie · Jun 27, 2018

Milo Rambaldi said:
I got engaged over the weekend. I guess I should point that out lol. We've been together so long that nothing really feels different lol.

Aww, congratulations~

Dany · Jun 27, 2018

Milo Rambaldi said:
I got engaged over the weekend. I guess I should point that out lol. We've been together so long that nothing really feels different lol.

YES! CONGRATSS

Prophet Five · Jun 27, 2018

Thanks, everyone. We've known each other since we were 17, got together at 21, and now engaged at 32. I think I found a keeper.

JCX · Jun 27, 2018

Milo Rambaldi said:
I got engaged over the weekend. I guess I should point that out lol. We've been together so long that nothing really feels different lol.

Congrats!!!

whitehawk · Jun 27, 2018

Milo Rambaldi said:
Congrats!

Dany said:
High five!

TheAbsolution said:
Congrats! That's the best kind of experience. :)

Tanooki said:
The date last night was honestly perfect. For some reason, I wasn't nervous at all and felt so comfortable the entire time. (but idk if that is good. Shouldn't I have had butterflies or something?) He was incredibly sweet and made me laugh a lot. I just wanted to snuggle into him by the end of the night and keep talking until we fell asleep. The bad thing is that we kinda live far.. he's about an hour north of me. I don't drive, and he can't stay at my house, so it makes things really difficult. I wasn't able to focus at all at work today trying to figure out how to make this work. I can take a bus to a city that's only 20 minutes away from him, which isn't as bad. I don't know, though. He told me we will worry about that if it gets to the point where we want to see each other more frequently. I've been so nervous about this all day, it's like a pit in my stomach. I know I'm working myself up way too much and overthinking everything, lol. Really need to stop that. (Also, thanks for the advice sqwarlock)

On a good note though, I'm going to be spending this upcoming weekend with him at his place/hometown!

Congratulations to Milo Rambaldi and Gradon! Those are huge milestones!

Yassss! Living your best life.

Thanks everyone, it means a lot! I've had a hard time forgiving myself for not accepting myself for so long, but I'm trying to look at the bright side of it all.

I also may have hooked up with him that night ;)

TheAbsolution · Jun 27, 2018

Milo Rambaldi said:
I got engaged over the weekend. I guess I should point that out lol. We've been together so long that nothing really feels different lol.

Damn, so much good news in this thread recently. Congrats! :)

Prophet Five · Jun 27, 2018

TheAbsolution said:
Damn, so much good news in this thread recently. Congrats! :)

Thanks! :D

I'll post a picture of the ring at some point. It's being resized now because, apparently, we're both bad at sizing. There's a joke in there somewhere.

JCX · Jun 27, 2018

I had a magical first NYC Pride! Didn't go out with specific plans, but ended up running into a bunch of people and had what was one of the best days of my life!

Pekola · Jun 27, 2018

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Gradon · Jun 27, 2018

Tanooki said:
The date last night was honestly perfect. For some reason, I wasn't nervous at all and felt so comfortable the entire time. (but idk if that is good. Shouldn't I have had butterflies or something?) He was incredibly sweet and made me laugh a lot. I just wanted to snuggle into him by the end of the night and keep talking until we fell asleep.

I'd say that's perfectly normal. The fact you felt that comfortable is a great sign and what you say after that proves you had a great time. :) I'm happy for you.

Tanooki said:
The bad thing is that we kinda live far.. he's about an hour north of me. I don't drive, and he can't stay at my house, so it makes things really difficult. I wasn't able to focus at all at work today trying to figure out how to make this work. I can take a bus to a city that's only 20 minutes away from him, which isn't as bad. I don't know, though. He told me we will worry about that if it gets to the point where we want to see each other more frequently. I've been so nervous about this all day, it's like a pit in my stomach. I know I'm working myself up way too much and overthinking everything, lol. Really need to stop that.

Me and my partner have pretty much been in a long distance relationship for the entire time we've been together but it was only always an hour and a half train away. If things go really well travelling to see someone is always worth it imo. Travelling isn't really that bad (but then I'm from the UK so I'm not sure what other countries public transport is like) and you get to play any handhelds you may have!

Now I'm incredibly inexperienced in the world of adult dating as I pretty much met my partner at 16 years old and we decided to be boyfriends as soon as we met lol, so I don't really know what advice to offer but I hope it works out the way you want it to. :)

Tanooki said:
Congratulations to Milo Rambaldi and Gradon! Those are huge milestones!

And thank you! I was helping him move his stuff today, I move my stuff on Saturday, our house is cute and it's just such a relieving feeling after 7 years of being together.

Milo Rambaldi said:
It's being resized now because, apparently, we're both bad at sizing. There's a joke in there somewhere.

My fiance just sized my finger with one of those free ring size measurers you can get from jewellers lol. We both did it, "just in case" so it was on record. :')

Vazra · Jun 27, 2018

Ive finally gave up and decided to let people call me daddy. The numbers of conversations calling me daddy have gone up and I have stopped cringing. Is that progress or giving up? Idk but Im done telling people to stop calling me daddy. It was more exhausting than anything

Dany · Jun 27, 2018

Bucket said:
Ive finally gave up and decided to let people call me daddy. The numbers of conversations calling me daddy have gone up and I have stopped cringing. Is that progress or giving up? Idk but Im done telling people to stop calling me daddy. It was more exhausting than anything

We need evidence to confirm or deny their assertions.

BAD · Jun 27, 2018

Prophet Five · Jun 27, 2018

Gradon said:
My fiance just sized my finger with one of those free ring size measurers you can get from jewellers lol. We both did it, "just in case" so it was on record. :')

That's exactly what got us into this mess, lol.

Bucket said:
Ive finally gave up and decided to let people call me daddy. The numbers of conversations calling me daddy have gone up and I have stopped cringing. Is that progress or giving up? Idk but Im done telling people to stop calling me daddy. It was more exhausting than anything

dude same. I was against it at first but the way it turns some guys on I'm like whatever, you do you. Or me, in this case. I don't think I'm a daddy by any means though. It's usually when guys in their 20s figure out that I'm in my 30s. /shrug

Vazra · Jun 28, 2018

Dany said:
We need evidence to confirm or deny their assertions.

Lol I'll take a picture in the morning and put it up here. Bald and bearded = daddy from what Im gathering so far.

Kater · Jun 28, 2018

"Daddy" makes me cringe a little. It's nowhere near as terrible as other terms that come from the same crowd.

"Cummies"

, for example.

Glad to be more middle of the road in terms of looks, not too masculine but also not so feminine either to fit into either stereotype so people are never sure what to call me. I can't be put into a box quite so easily because of that. :3

The Bear · Jun 28, 2018

Bucket said:
Lol I'll take a picture in the morning and put it up here. Bald and bearded = daddy from what Im gathering so far.

I'm nearly bald and I have a beard, but I ain't daddy :thinking:

AliceAmber · Jun 28, 2018

I missed the Tampa pride this year, so I absolutely want to go next year. It's a little early, but any tips for a first timer?

Tanooki · Jun 28, 2018

Gradon said:
I'd say that's perfectly normal. The fact you felt that comfortable is a great sign and what you say after that proves you had a great time. :) I'm happy for you.

Me and my partner have pretty much been in a long distance relationship for the entire time we've been together but it was only always an hour and a half train away. If things go really well travelling to see someone is always worth it imo. Travelling isn't really that bad (but then I'm from the UK so I'm not sure what other countries public transport is like) and you get to play any handhelds you may have!

Now I'm incredibly inexperienced in the world of adult dating as I pretty much met my partner at 16 years old and we decided to be boyfriends as soon as we met lol, so I don't really know what advice to offer but I hope it works out the way you want it to. :)

And thank you! I was helping him move his stuff today, I move my stuff on Saturday, our house is cute and it's just such a relieving feeling after 7 years of being together.

Thanks for sharing your experiences! It's reassuring to hear a success story with a similar obstacle to mine. This weekend I'll be taking a bus to a city close to him, and he will have to drive ~20 minutes to pick me up.. which still isn't ideal, but depending on how this weekend goes, we will work to figure something out. I'm not completely sure what it is he wants, anyway. This will be a very telling weekend.

So, you guys were together for years travelling an hour and a half to see each other? It's got to be so nice being able to share a home now. Congratulations, again! That is really exciting, and will definitely be a relief.

Prophet Five · Jun 28, 2018

Tanooki said:
Thanks for sharing your experiences! It's reassuring to hear a success story with a similar obstacle to mine. This weekend I'll be taking a bus to a city close to him, and he will have to drive ~20 minutes to pick me up.. which still isn't ideal, but depending on how this weekend goes, we will work to figure something out. I'm not completely sure what it is he wants, anyway. This will be a very telling weekend.

So, you guys were together for years travelling an hour and a half to see each other? It's got to be so nice being able to share a home now. Congratulations, again! That is really exciting, and will definitely be a relief.

Spencer and I lived an hour apart for about four years and I had extreme anxiety about driving back then so he'd come over like once a week. We were just friends (with benefits lol) back then and I wasn't out to my super religious mother so every week was an adventure! Everything worked out for us in the end, though!

Vazra · Jun 28, 2018

Kater said:
"Daddy" makes me cringe a little. It's nowhere near as terrible as other terms that come from the same crowd.

It's less cringey than strangers calling me husbear tbh.

And the pic I said I would post

Prophet Five · Jun 28, 2018

You know what really makes me cringe? When someone sends me a message with "woof!" in it. I don't know why it bothers me so much but I hate it.

Vazra · Jun 28, 2018

Milo Rambaldi said:
You know what really makes me cringe? When someone sends me a message with "woof!" in it. I don't know why it bothers me so much but I hate it.

That reminds me of growlr. Then again I seem to attract "pups" so Ive seen some stuff.

Prophet Five · Jun 28, 2018

Bucket said:
That reminds me of growlr. Then again I seem to attract "pups" so Ive seen some stuff.

I've never used Growlr so I'm not sure why I get that sort of reaction. I'm not one of those Grindr guys who gets pissed when people say only "Hey" or tap me or something. But "woof?" No thank you.

Vazra · Jun 28, 2018

Milo Rambaldi said:
I've never used Growlr so I'm not sure why I get that sort of reaction. I'm not one of those Grindr guys who gets pissed when people say only "Hey" or tap me or something. But "woof?" No thank you.

Basically the taps on growlr are woof or some other saved "phrases" by their system. "I would drink your dirty bath water" or something like that is another pre recorded message among others. A mess really

Sai · Jun 28, 2018

i started saying woof at things ironically but now i can't stop :(

Aarglefarg · Jun 28, 2018

Meow?

Bucket said:
Basically the taps on growlr are woof or some other saved "phrases" by their system. "I would drink your dirty bath water" or something like that is another pre recorded message among others. A mess really

...that mess is a fire hazard.

The Bear · Jun 28, 2018

I use "woof!" in Growlr. I take it as "Hey, you are cute/handsome/hot!" type of greet. It's weird seeing it used outside of that platform though.

Prophet Five · Jun 28, 2018

Yeah maybe it's just a bear thing idk but I don't enjoy it at all. Yikes. I'm not a bear or even a cub so idgi.

Tethered Penguin · Jun 28, 2018

I'll do ya'll a better introduction.

"I'd like for us to enjoy a very nice session of sexual intercourse, ending with us clasped, begging for belonging. I'm a bottom btw."

Works every time

~~No it doesn't it s probably why im still a virgin, whatever being that manages the universe i beg of u, pls~~

Vazra · Jun 28, 2018

Tethered Penguin said:
I'll do ya'll a better introduction.

"I'd like for both us to enjoy a very nice session of sexual intercourse, ending with both of us clasped, begging for belonging. I'm a bottom btw."

Works every time

~~No it doesn't it s probably why im still a virgin, whatever being that manages the universe i beg of u, pls~~

I just want someone who is not filled with bees and wont stab me on my sleep

Kater · Jun 29, 2018

Bucket said:
It's less cringey than strangers calling me husbear tbh.

And the pic I said I would post

You look as stunning as ever. :*

"Husbear"... Never heard that one. Not as bad as what I mentioned in my earlier post. Still unfortunate, however.

Shiloh · Jun 29, 2018

Bucket said:
It's less cringey than strangers calling me husbear tbh.

Strangers calling you that?! Wow... Yeah I would run away from those folks right quick.

Vazra · Jun 29, 2018

Kater said:
You look as stunning as ever. :*

"Husbear"... Never heard that one. Not as bad as what I mentioned in my earlier post. Still unfortunate, however.

Thanks. You would be surprised with all the stuff out there people calling all these made up to words. Still not as annoying as bussy tho

Shiloh said:
Strangers calling you that?! Wow... Yeah I would run away from those folks right quick.

I get strangers saying that then we have the Facebook people falling in love with a 5 minute chat and making a whole movie in their mind about a love story when I dont even know where they live and what they do. There is a lot of problematic stuff and my Facebook sometimes feels like grindr with some people sending unrequested nudes or trying to videochat me. Im used to it but it would be better if guys actually didnt act so damn thirsty

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