I think this is a very good thread.
I think that there have been a lot of very heartening changes in how games communities handle allegations of abuse in the past few years. Maybe my bubble is just becoming more and more opaque, but I truly get the impression that the reception to those allegations is, by and large, becoming more patient, more credulous, and more compassionate. People who speak out are met with support and belief, and it feels like there's an increased expectation on people in positions in power to take steps to prevent and address abuse. I think it can be hard to understand what the material result of this increased expectation is, given how bound up these issues are in private relationships that aren't made public, but I feel—naively, maybe—that the trend is generally positive. That people are addressing and managing issues of interpersonal abuse with deserved nuance, care, and sensitivity.
That said, I think that there is a serious paucity of nuance and care in thinking, generally, of what comes after. What comes after for the victim of abuse who has made their experience known? What comes after for the peers of an abuser who are made to understand that they have—actively, passively, or through the privilege of ignorance—enabled abuse in their own way? What comes after for an abuser who feels sincere horror and sadness for the violence they've inflicted on another person?
This is not to say that these things are totally unaddressed. They aren't. I think people write and speak very eloquently on these subjects a lot in these moments of collective reflection and testification. However, I think there is a strong tendency to default to outdated and oppressive models of justice in thinking about this 'what comes after.' People who otherwise are against the carceral state, people who agree that all prisoners are political prisoners, and that all political prisoners must be freed, cite (real, horrifying) statistics about the justice system's bone-deep failings of people who experience interpersonal abuse, sometimes to the end of arguing that it would be ideal if abusers were 'adequately' captured and disappeared by the machinations of punitive carceral justice. Even though I absolutely agree that statistics about the underacknowledgement of domestic and sexual abuse are reflective of widespread social problems and the marginalization of women's rights, I don't think carceral justice is the way forward.
I think that thinking complexly, restoratively, about what abuse is and how it impacts a community requires thinking through new models of that 'what comes after' for all parties involved. I don't think this burden falls on any one person—certainly not on the person speaking out about their abuse, as I sometimes see argued. I think it is a collective problem that will require collective thinking. I hope to see more of that thinking, though, because I think it is essential to moving beyond palliative care, to substantially addressing and resolving the problems that cause and enable abuse.