Yeah, i thought i read he was in the library.This particular place is not meant for quietness. But I get you, that information is in like a second paragraph and ain't nobody got time for all that reading
if you are talking loudly on the phone, for a long time (not an important emergency conversation) in a public space, you're an ass hole.
Thread seems wrapped up, good that in retrospect you see that you could've handled it differently OP.
I mean, what are you considering a public space? A bus or a train where you're in close proximity sure but are you suggesting that speaking on the phone in public makes you an arsehole except for emergencies?
Nah i was thinking more train, bus etc, not like a park or on the street. Close proximity only.
I see this practically every day. Some ass hole having an hour long conversation about something totally incidental.
I sat next to a woman on the overground train this morning who had a conversation for 50 mins about what dress to wear to a wedding and the correct spelling of the word suede.
SPOILERS: even after the discussion and asking siri, she got the spelling wrong.
I was actually wearing noise cancelling headphones and playing my switch and i could still hear her shouting down her phone.
I really don't know why people behave this way. It's like knowing how to behave in public is a forgotten skill.
An asshole and kind of a coward too. Looked to drum up a scene of people to be on your side and when nobody went along with you, you ran away and whined about it on the internet.
I mean, I've definitely experienced the absolutely obnoxiously loud phone conversations by someone standing within a metre of me on a crowded train, but unless it is hugely loud I don't quite see how a phone conversation differs from two people having a conversation tbh. It can be over absolutely inconsequential stuff, but if you're sitting on a train for 50 mins why not use that time to do the boring shit, or chew the fat with someone on the phone.
I disagree with most in this thread and think the OP did nothing wrong.
People that are that oblivious to social norms and inconsiderate of others need to be called out. If you're in a public space playing anything on a speaker for a length of time you should be wearing headphones. Not to mention if you're in a space designated as a low-key study area. And even if it was a lounge area, if the people around you are quietly studying, be considerate and go somewhere else. Pick up on social cues instead of being self-absorbed.
For those saying he shouldn't have been confrontational and politely asked them to turn down their video, confrontation can be very subjective. Many people wouldn't politely ask someone to turn down their speaker because that in itself has the potential to be confrontational. If someone is already that oblivious, who knows how they're going to respond to a request like that. Have none of you ever been in a theater where assholes are loud and obnoxious but everyone just sits there and says nothing? And then when somebody speaks up the other person becomes aggressive?
I think there's a 50/50 chance that people in there were either too afraid to speak up and didn't want to be confrontational (thus not agreeing with you when you made the scene in order to stay out of it), or they genuinely weren't bothered.
You made the right call OP.
But how was the attempt to bring in others in the room to make a point of how irritating their behaviour was not-confrontational?
Many people have said that the ones watching the video were out of order, but I don't understand how standing up and making a point of calling someone out on the way out of the room is less confrontational that politely asking them to turn it down.
Lmao. You're not wrong.An asshole and kind of a coward too. Looked to drum up a scene of people to be on your side and when nobody went along with you, you ran away and whined about it on the internet.
It definitely is confrontational. My point is, people are telling the OP not to be confrontational by politely asking them to turn down the volume, but for many people even doing that is too confrontational because you don't know how the other person will react. Obviously it would have went over fine in this situation, but I still think that people who aren't picking up on social cues and respecting others should be called out.
I was with you till you said....I had to get going....If you are leaving then why are you trying to die on a hill?
It wasn't the best manner to address it yeah, but I don't think OP was an asshole.
They were in a public place, others shouldn't need reminders to act politely. People can be too timid to ask directly so saying that's the only way of acting in that situation is a bit reductive.
it seems you already knew.