Note: This is based on personal opinions and while I am asexual, my experiences and opinions do not necessarily speak for the Asexual Community.
I wanted to make this thread because I wanted to talk about how asexual discrimination occurs. There is usually confusion at the idea and I wanted to give a personal view into why I think it occurs as well as some examples I have experienced.
1. Refusal to acknowledge Asexuality as an orientation
Let's start this by defining what Asexuality means. Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to others, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity. It is not a choice (i.e. celibacy or abstinence) but an orientation.
Now, I'm fine with most people initially not familiar with asexuality. After all, only 1% of the world is asexual according to statistics (though people guess the number might be higher). What is significantly less cool is people then trying to find anything to say I'm not asexual. The most common I hear is "Oh, you just haven't met the right person yet." Which is annoying to me because I'm like 99% positive I won't suddenly grow a boner at one person. But there's a lot of things thrown out such as me being gay or bi and not admitting it, saying I'm just trying to justify my virginity (which is...lol I lost that years ago), or implying I'm mentally or hormonaly imbalanced. There is just this refusal to believe that someone can just not be sexually attracted to things.
2. Romance
I don't think people realize how sex plays an important roles in romance and relationships. Even the option to not have sex plays into it. What people don't understand is that asexuality is a spectrum and while people like me are also not interested in romantic interaction, asexuality doesn't necessary preclude romantic interest. Early on before I realized I was aromantic as well as asexual, my lack of a sexual drive was discriminated against. There were those who believed I was lying to them that I cared for them or that I didn't truly love them because of my lack for sexual interest. And as a guy I was incredibly lucky. I know many of my women asexual friends who have horror stories about men who refuse to understand asexuality.
These were but a few examples from personal experience. If any asexual members of Era want to discuss their own discrimination please fill free to.
I wanted to make this thread because I wanted to talk about how asexual discrimination occurs. There is usually confusion at the idea and I wanted to give a personal view into why I think it occurs as well as some examples I have experienced.
1. Refusal to acknowledge Asexuality as an orientation
Let's start this by defining what Asexuality means. Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to others, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity. It is not a choice (i.e. celibacy or abstinence) but an orientation.
Now, I'm fine with most people initially not familiar with asexuality. After all, only 1% of the world is asexual according to statistics (though people guess the number might be higher). What is significantly less cool is people then trying to find anything to say I'm not asexual. The most common I hear is "Oh, you just haven't met the right person yet." Which is annoying to me because I'm like 99% positive I won't suddenly grow a boner at one person. But there's a lot of things thrown out such as me being gay or bi and not admitting it, saying I'm just trying to justify my virginity (which is...lol I lost that years ago), or implying I'm mentally or hormonaly imbalanced. There is just this refusal to believe that someone can just not be sexually attracted to things.
2. Romance
I don't think people realize how sex plays an important roles in romance and relationships. Even the option to not have sex plays into it. What people don't understand is that asexuality is a spectrum and while people like me are also not interested in romantic interaction, asexuality doesn't necessary preclude romantic interest. Early on before I realized I was aromantic as well as asexual, my lack of a sexual drive was discriminated against. There were those who believed I was lying to them that I cared for them or that I didn't truly love them because of my lack for sexual interest. And as a guy I was incredibly lucky. I know many of my women asexual friends who have horror stories about men who refuse to understand asexuality.
These were but a few examples from personal experience. If any asexual members of Era want to discuss their own discrimination please fill free to.