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Can we please stop using the word "boys" to address the room?
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"hey guys"
i use this often out of the office
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i've never heard 'boys' used in any setting apart from being around marines and would certainly never use it myself in any context
i use this often out of the office
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i've never heard 'boys' used in any setting apart from being around marines and would certainly never use it myself in any context
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Guys is gender specific.
Me too.
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I've had women and trans women insist to me that "dude" isn't actually gendered when I asked, so idk.
Well I can understand if it's a room full of guys otherwise I just use "folks". Surprisingly, on a tangent, I have always found how the meme "Good boy" to refer to dogs a touch irksome. Surely there are "Good girls" out there too.
For two months now I've been volunteering in a primary school in a teaching assistant capacity, whenever I want the kids to listen to me, I always use 'guys'. Teacher and official teaching assistant have never pulled me up on it and use it themselves to mean everybody.
Ya'll
My peeps
Homies
Peepz
Etc
I agree with the OP.
I'll try to make sure I stop using gender specific ones.
y'all will always sound too immature to me :\
I pretty much say stuff like "OK everyone" when I want to address room full of people.
I pretty much say stuff like "OK everyone" when I want to address room full of people.
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One trans friend of mines says they don't mind guys and dudes, another says it makes them feel excluded.
I think the latter is enough for our consideration.
I try not to do it even to the point of avoiding "Boy, I wish I had preordered that game" or whatever, even though that's not addressing anyone in particular. I also try to use "they". I hope these efforts help.
My wife calls other women "dude" so I don't know. Maybe the usage is evolving.
I always thought of it as just a saying. Most girls I know enter rooms (and online parties) saying things like that and "What's up, guys." I don't mean to sound rude or anything but is that really something that bothers people? Never though anyone would feel excluded by a regular saying.
I don't doubt that but majority of the time I have spent on IMGUR on cat and dog posts, it's almost always "He's good boy" in the comments.
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I don't like it.
Trans people I know don't like it.
It makes us feel excluded sometimes.
You will probably meet people who feel this way about you using it and won't ever tell you.
You can take that as you want to.
I hate "y'all". I'd rather be called an insult than "y'all".
i do say "you guys" sometimes out of habit
it's easier on the internet to moderate your speech to be inclusive. when talking in real life, sometimes you'll speak out before fully thinking it through
but that will probably pass over time
it's easier on the internet to moderate your speech to be inclusive. when talking in real life, sometimes you'll speak out before fully thinking it through
but that will probably pass over time
Bring it up with the person saying it? If someone feels excluded then they should speak up or ask someone to speak for them if they cannot.
It's hard to keep track of.
I use both guys and dudes to call my family - and that consists of my wife and three daughters. I've always considered those words (mostly) gender neutral.
I'd sooner stick with something a little more colloquial than referring to a room of people as fellow human beings.
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It is "you guys" where I live, whether talking to men or women or cats.
I refuse to use "y'all".
I refuse to use "y'all".
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It's not that hard.
Is the word rooted in gender specificity?
That's it.
I think it honestly depends on the crowd. It's important to know your friends, yea?
edit - I prefer y'all though
Idk if I want to play this game. There's no standard. I know too many women that use the same gendered "guys!" to their friends. I hear a lot of "bruhs" too when referring to men and women.
So yeah, I'll just let others correct me if that occurs and adjust on the fly.
So yeah, I'll just let others correct me if that occurs and adjust on the fly.
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