I'm trying to figure all this out. I went into his Discord and read some messages. It looks like he made a whole lot of purchases for himself in the Brawlstars game but then he started buying Nitro subscriptions for discord and basically handing them out to people. Then it looks like he has been arranging competitions in Brawlstars with people on his Discord and somehow he has been awarding the best player or player with the highest score with Brawlstars Gems, which is the in game currency.
this shit is no accident
This one got me so good I'm howling
It sounds like the old phone that was given to their son wasn't wiped and still had their partners google account on it with unprotected payment info.Hey OP, if you have the time, maybe you can try to explain how this happened or what went wrong in your son using this old phone, so others might not repeat this mistake.
Even for me it is hard to understand how this happens. I would always wipe my old phone from everything, use 2FA with my PayPal and using parenting controls in Google Pay. But that seem obvious to me at least, so are there other ways around?
I guess I should rephrase. If someone asked me, I would probably say yes because to say no would be a massive dick move. I would just never ask in the first place, because that's insane
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Man I can't even imagine taking £10 from
My dad's wallet as a kid. $2000 is crazy. I guess the transactions being instant and over time(?) makes it seem like you're not really spending. Maybe.
ok I had a talk with my son and he said that he was gifting Nitro subscriptions through Discord but to give people Gems in the Brawlstars game they were sharing accounts and passwords
Is he streaming?I'm trying to figure all this out. I went into his Discord and read some messages. It looks like he made a whole lot of purchases for himself in the Brawlstars game but then he started buying Nitro subscriptions for discord and basically handing them out to people. Then it looks like he has been arranging competitions in Brawlstars with people on his Discord and somehow he has been awarding the best player or player with the highest score with Brawlstars Gems, which is the in game currency.
this shit is no accident
The debit card bit makes me think the money is gone. On the other hand maybe the game dev will have pity.
Sorry OP. As an ex kid, kids are morons.
Man this same thing happened to me. I remember that ass whoopin clearly. And I remember how every family member came home one at a time, found out about it one at a time, then came to whoop me, one at a time. It was a long dayWhen I was a kid, I got in trouble for a $500 phone bill from one of the alternate AOL dial-up numbers being long distance, despite that county having the same area code as my own, so it wasn't entirely my fault. But man, this is on a whole different level.
This is amazing. But I'm confused, was it a dog or a porn lineWhen I was in like 1st or 2nd grade a 1-900 number of a cartoon dog was on the label of a t-shirt I was given. I was immediately told to never call 1-900 numbers and explained the cost associated and value of money. So I did what kids do and dug that tag out of the trash and held onto it for a bit. I really wanted to talk to that dog.
One day when no one was around I tried it but hung up immediately when I heard a voice. Called back almost immediately afterwards and listened a few seconds then hung up again. Heart racing, I called a third time and this time listened long enough to get a multiple choice answer to direct the flow of the conversation! That shit was more engaging and interactive than Fallout 4's choices. After selecting an option I immediately hung up and never called back.
Three calls of only a matter of moments on the phone and I was good. Went about my life until the phone bill arrived. By that point I had forgotten I even called the hotline. I knew things weren't good when my mom, while talking to my dad in the kitchen, suddenly lowered her voice to a whisper. And within that whisper I heard the name of the dog.
At that moment I looked down and saw the dog logo on the breast of the shirt. I immediately got hit with dread and took off in a dead sprint towards a back door the opposite side of the house of my parents. My life was over. Time to become a hermit in the woods. No time to grab supplies we will figure it out when we hit refuge.
To this day, I'll never know the super-human abilities my dad had that day. As I reach the door, there stands my dad outside on the other side of the door, Jason Voorhees style. There is no logical explanation behind it, he traveled at the speed of light and was there to bring reckoning upon me. I didn't even try to open the door. I looked down, it was over.
I got a whoopin'. I got grounded. I couldn't watch cartoons, play video games, or really do anything for a month. Even my neighbors that I rode to school with were informed I couldn't do any of the above, so for weeks my life was over.
..yeah, I don't have anything of value to actually add to this thread for ya, OP other than if you have super dad powers go ahead and use them and your kid will never once think about calling a 1-900 porn line during his blossoming adolescence.
People who think kids should be coddled 100% of the time are the worst parents imaginable.man I hope a lot of people in this thread never have kids. destroy a kids whole life over something like this? cancel all social contact he has while the pandemic is going? era is truly amazing.
Where exactly did I say there should be no consequences? People in this thread have argued for a 13yo child to not have social contact for a year+. To pay back 2000 dollars with 18 percent interest. Do the math on that my man.People who think kids should be coddled 100% of the time are the worst parents imaginable.
You do realize that $2000 is make rent or live on the streets for millions upon millions of people right?
Destroy a kid's life by showing him his actions have consequences? Making a kid get a job and showing them the value of money is one of the best life lessons you can ever give.
This kid is 13 and has no respect for his parents, it's time for him to grow up.
People who think kids should be coddled 100% of the time are the worst parents imaginable.
You do realize that $2000 is make rent or live on the streets for millions upon millions of people right?
Destroy a kid's life by showing him his actions have consequences? Making a kid get a job and showing them the value of money is one of the best life lessons you can ever give.
This kid is 13 and has no respect for his parents, it's time for him to grow up.
Okay I didnt see the interest comments that's absurd, but he should absolutely pay the money back. No social contact for a year+ is also crazy, but the son doesnt deserve to have a phone for at least a year imo.Where exactly did I say there should be no consequences? People in this thread have argued for a 13yo child to not have social contact for a year+. To pay back 2000 dollars with 18 percent interest. Do the math on that my man.
I didnt see the shamed online or monthly interest comments."Actions have consequences" exactly, these $2000 were easily available to him through a phone he was given. This is a consequence.
He needs to learn the value of money, but saying he should pay with monthly interest or be shamed online is crazy. Hoepfully he really goes to a child therapist, because they study for that unlike forum users.
I think at 13yo and with the way these apps work, it's not entirely fair to just sum it up like this. It's predatory monetization. It's not like you get the entire bill up-front, it's death by a thousand paper cuts. The payment process is designed to be as smoothly as possible without even a multi-step checkout these days.I mean I feel like most parents would suspect their teenage son has more respect for them then to steal $2000. This must be a hard lesson for OP as well.
These games and apps make it's incredibly easy to make it seem like you're not spending much money at all. I doubt the kid knew he spent even close to that much. That's how those games are designed, and you're seeing their predatory money making tactics work right here.Okay I didnt see the interest comments that's absurd, but he should absolutely pay the money back. No social contact for a year+ is also crazy, but the son doesnt deserve to have a phone for at least a year imo.
I didnt see the shamed online or monthly interest comments.
I mean I feel like most parents would suspect their teenage son has more respect for them then to steal $2000. This must be a hard lesson for OP as well.
I think at 13yo and with the way these apps work, it's not entirely fair to just sum it up like this. It's predatory monetization. It's not like you get the entire bill up-front, it's death by a thousand paper cuts. The payment process is designed to be as smoothly as possible without even a multi-step checkout these days.
He still absolutely deserves blame and consequences, for sure, but this is a complex situation between Discord and Mobage essentially preying on children like him, between the parents just handing him a phone with a linked paypal account, no spending limit and no authentication needed and yes, his failure to just not do it.
To put this into perspective: Sure, y'all never took money from your parents, but they didn't hand you a blank check either.
I think at 13yo and with the way these apps work, it's not entirely fair to just sum it up like this. It's predatory monetization. It's not like you get the entire bill up-front, it's death by a thousand paper cuts. The payment process is designed to be as smoothly as possible without even a multi-step checkout these days.
He still absolutely deserves blame and consequences, for sure, but this is a complex situation between Discord and Mobage essentially preying on children like him, between the parents just handing him a phone with a linked paypal account, no spending limit and no authentication needed and yes, his failure to just not do it.
To put this into perspective: Sure, y'all never took money from your parents, but they didn't hand you a blank check either.
These games and apps make it's incredibly easy to make it seem like you're not spending much money at all. I doubt the kid knew he spent even close to that much. That's how those games are designed, and you're seeing their predatory money making tactics work right here.
I'm not saying the kid doesn't deserve to feel the consequences of his actions, but I think reducing it down to "he doesn't have respect for his parents" is reductive and straight up wrong.
Yeah, I don't agree with a word you said. Life ain't black and white.I think you 2 are taking too much of the blame away from this kid. Yes it's easier than ever to spend a ton without realizing it due to predatory practices of these mobile apps. This kid was buying microtransactions and gifting people Discord Nitro to host tournaments where the winner would get gems.
This was a really elaborate set of decisions this kid made and continued to make. This wasnt a kid getting addicted to summoning this was a kid spending money to host tournaments where the winner would receive prizes.
You underestimate how much this kid knew what he was doing. This wasnt a one time thing where he spent $2000 in a day.
As for the respect, if someone gives you a gift(the phone) and you steal $2000 from them or steal from them at all then I'd say there is a big lack of respect there.
Overall this was an avoidable situation and its shitty it happened. Hopefully OP can get some of the money back, but there is a lesson learned for all parties at least.
I think you 2 are taking too much of the blame away from this kid. Yes it's easier than ever to spend a ton without realizing it due to predatory practices of these mobile apps. This kid was buying microtransactions and gifting people Discord Nitro to host tournaments where the winner would get gems.
This was a really elaborate set of decisions this kid made and continued to make. This wasnt a kid getting addicted to summoning this was a kid spending money to host tournaments where the winner would receive prizes.
You underestimate how much this kid knew what he was doing. This wasnt a one time thing where he spent $2000 in a day.
As for the respect, if someone gives you a gift(the phone) and you steal $2000 from them or steal from them at all then I'd say there is a big lack of respect there.
Overall this was an avoidable situation and its shitty it happened. Hopefully OP can get some of the money back, but there is a lesson learned for all parties at least.
OP I would get him to work and refund the 2000 he took. He needs to understand that money doesn't grow on trees. He is 13 so I doubt he can find many jobs but he should try. Even something that barely gives him back should be done. You need to teach him what he did was bad and he needs to remember it. He will hate it but that's good because he will remember it next time.
Also take away his phone and games. Get him a "dumb" phone that he can use to make phone calls and sms only. Atleast until he gets back the money or for a period of time of your choosing.
umm ... maybe I'm wrong, but when I was 13, $2000 was a monumental amount of money for me. 13 year olds are not that young.Most 13 year olds have no real concept of how much money 2k is or how long that'd take to earn.
For real.Just make sure that any device they're given access to doesn't have saved payment information, or requires a pin to verify purchases.
I can't understand how you can go 30 days without getting a email or app notification from PayPal. I get one for both on everything transaction.
And, yeah, if my kids did that, they would be grounded for at least 6 months.