So about a year and a half ago I remember one of my co-workers talking about how much they were going to beat their kids when they acted up. I remember thinking how fucked up that was, but despite that, a couple other workers agreed with her since "My parents did it to me and I turned out fine". You know, that general sentiment.
As someone who has been a victim of this and lived in constant fear of it whenever I did something that might be wrong, and even witnessed this go "too far" with a sibling of mine, I am 100% against "beating" your kids for any reason. Fuck that. Even if it's a spanking. But you would might be surprised to find many people around my age thinking it's okay to do that because that's how they were raised. And it's exceptionally hard to talk someone out of that mindset because they were taught from a young age that that was how you dealt with children who broke your rules.
It's been so normalized and it's bizarre because it's you, a parent, causing harm upon your child to get your anger out. How is that acceptable now? There really hasn't been a movement around not hitting your kids because they knocked over a vase or got a bad grade in a class. It's not worth the anxiety for that kid to deal with later. But, in the moment, I'd assume parents aren't considering that.
What do y'all think? Is physically reprimanding your kid by hitting them child abuse?
EDIT: And feel free to elaborate a little. I didn't expect so many yeses because of how normal I thought this was. Which is very fucked up in of itself. But.... oh well.
As someone who has been a victim of this and lived in constant fear of it whenever I did something that might be wrong, and even witnessed this go "too far" with a sibling of mine, I am 100% against "beating" your kids for any reason. Fuck that. Even if it's a spanking. But you would might be surprised to find many people around my age thinking it's okay to do that because that's how they were raised. And it's exceptionally hard to talk someone out of that mindset because they were taught from a young age that that was how you dealt with children who broke your rules.
It's been so normalized and it's bizarre because it's you, a parent, causing harm upon your child to get your anger out. How is that acceptable now? There really hasn't been a movement around not hitting your kids because they knocked over a vase or got a bad grade in a class. It's not worth the anxiety for that kid to deal with later. But, in the moment, I'd assume parents aren't considering that.
What do y'all think? Is physically reprimanding your kid by hitting them child abuse?
EDIT: And feel free to elaborate a little. I didn't expect so many yeses because of how normal I thought this was. Which is very fucked up in of itself. But.... oh well.
