Of course it is.
You can have preferences, but to say you would never date someone just because they're bi is absolutely bigotry.
You can have preferences, but to say you would never date someone just because they're bi is absolutely bigotry.
HIV is rampant in the gay community still, but not the lesbian community.Men feeling the opposite is very, very interesting
Anybody have thoughts/theories on that?
This co-opting of progressive "love whoever you want" thinking for the purpose of justifying biphobia (and transphobia, for the matter) is some seriously gross stuff.You can be as discriminatory as you wish when it comes to your love life.
It just doesn't really matter whether or not it makes you a bigot.
Trying to make the decision for others (by making certain types of relationships illegal or judging others for their relationships) is an actually relevant form of bigotry that matters.
What image would that be?
Nope, but some will try to frame it that way.
MSM as a whole have much higher HIV rates than straight people/queer women, but that's to be expected given the both nature of transmission and the fact that the disease first cropped in in gay male communities. Can't speak for other STIsThis is pretty interesting. I think the general thought is that bisexual men are either secretly 100% gay or have a higher STD rate than heterosexual men (btw can anyone provide some data on that?).
How does any of that allow you to arrive to the conclusion that it isn't bigoted? You've done nothing to actually show that it isn't bigoted. And yes, if you for example say that you find black people or asians unattractive and don't date them, case closed, you're a bigot.It's not a non-sequitur.
Here, I'll logic this out for you.
1. Who you date is subjective, based in part by who you find attractive.
2. A person may not find someone else attractive for a multitude of arbitrary reasons
3. Being bisexual is an arbitrary reason
Therefore, not dating a person who is bisexual is based, in part, from a subjective lack of attraction.
Unless you'd like to argue that being attracted or not being attracted to someone constitutes bigotry. I'm all ears for that one.
The status of being a bigot doesn't really mean anything. Like, ok, congrats you're a bigot. You still shouldnt date anyone you don't want to.
Gay sex does nothing for me, and imagining my partner in that position would be a turn-off.
It's not a non-sequitur.
Here, I'll logic this out for you.
1. Who you date is subjective, based in part by who you find attractive.
2. A person may not find someone else attractive for a multitude of arbitrary reasons
3. Being bisexual is an arbitrary reason
Therefore, not dating a person who is bisexual is based, in part, from a subjective lack of attraction.
Unless you'd like to argue that being attracted or not being attracted to someone constitutes bigotry. I'm all ears for that one.
That's a very different question I think. Not to boil transgender people down to just sexual beings, but it's hard to call someone a bigot because they aren't attracted to post-op genitalia.
What are you talking about? What kind of relationships are being made illegal?
Why would you be dwelling on that, though?Gay sex does nothing for me, and imagining my partner in that position would be a turn-off.
Did she actually tell you that? That would bother me.My wife is bisexual and is actually more attracted to the female body then a males and it doesn't really bother me at all really.
It's natural to wonder about the past.
Prior to Loving v Virginia interracial marriage was illegal. That's a harmful form of bigotry.
You disapproving of other people dating a bi or trans person is terrible and should actively be discouraged.
You yourself not being interested in dating someone who is any sort of category is bigotry. But it simply doesn't affect anyone to any reasonable extent.
If that bigotry manifests itself in other problematic ways then it becomes a real problem.
So I guess being a bigot is alright, seeing as how I'm sure I'd be hard-pressed to find anyone here denying the fact that everyone should have the right to choose who they share their life with, based on whichever criteria they so wish.
Calling people who prefer not to date bisexual people bigoted can only be called a misplaced desire to label anyone and everyone. It's clear the matter is a bit more complex than that.
Here's the bottom line: You do not impinge on anyone else's life by refusing to date them, for whatever reason. I'd be a racist for hurling slurs at Asian people, but I wouldn't be a racist for preferring black women over Asian women.
It's insecurityI almost wonder if this often stems from a place of insecurity. Is it often because they find homosexual acts repulsive? Or is it often because dating a bisexual person, for some people, may mean "competing" with both genders, and results in an (irrational) fear of there being a higher chance of getting cheated on or something..?
For me, personally, I wouldn't really mind dating a bisexual dude, no. Sexuality's a pretty small part of someone, anyway.
Okay, but people shouldn't disavow themselves of all responsibility for it. It's worth a moment of personal reflection.
I imagine that for most monog people, imagining their partner with their past partners would also be a turn off, and yet people still get along fine without exclusively dating virginsGay sex does nothing for me, and imagining my partner in that position would be a turn-off.
This co-opting of progressive "love whoever you want" thinking for the purpose of justifying biphobia (and transphobia, for the matter) is some seriously gross stuff.
So I guess women should watch more gay porn to get over their hang ups then
That's not good logic because none of that had anything to do with the question at hand, what acts count as bigoted. It's absolutely a non sequitur because it fails to address the question. I get that you're probably relying on a nonexplicit axiom about preference somehow needing to be free from accusations of bias, but that's literally just begging the question.
Great comment tbh.No. But it is bigotry to assume bisexual individuals are more promiscuous and likely to cheat. If you base your reasoning on these types of inaccurate stereotypes, then it looks a lot like bigotry.
Men feeling the opposite is very, very interesting
Anybody have thoughts/theories on that?