So is it me, or does no one use protection? When I first started out, so many guys insisted on going raw that I just relented and gave into the pressure. A guy I was with today specifically insisted on no condoms. I declined last week and said OK today lol.
It's just weird that the culture/community is so blasé about STDs.
I'm trying to get back into the habit of using condoms. And I'm on PReP and get tested every 3 months.
I had the ED thing for a while when I first started out. I even asked my doctor about it. They ran some tests on me and saw that everything was fine. They put me on Viagra and Cialis for a while but it didn't work because my problem wasn't physical. I found it to be psychological and I linked mine with porn induced erectile dysfunction (PIED) Complete self-diagnosis. Before I came out, all I did was watch porn. So when I first got with a guy, my body was so used to 2D images that a 3D person wasn't satisfying (that's the theory, which made sense to me). So in essence, I had to "rewire" my brain's chemistry to be turned on my 3D images. And to do that, I refrained from porn, masturbation and having an orgasm (PMO) for a month. And it worked. It's sort of affiliated with the "no fap" thing, but with PIED, you're supposed to do 3 months....but I guess it depends on the severity. One month did the trick for me.
And if you search for it, guys who have done it swear by it, so I figured it couldn't hurt to try. And like I said, it worked for me. But I should warn you that this theory is not exactly scientifically-driven. But there's really nothing to lose here.
Can't really speak to the bottoming stuff (I'm a top).
It's just weird that the culture/community is so blasé about STDs.
I'm trying to get back into the habit of using condoms. And I'm on PReP and get tested every 3 months.
For the other folk in the thread, i wanted to ask, i've had a couple of sexual encounters and it hasn't been that great… i wanted to share my experience and ask for advice, if anyone can share their thoughts it would be great :)
Does anyone feel some kind of pain or unbearable pressure in the colon/lower abdomen while bottoming? i don't know if it's air being pumped in or something like that but it really takes me out of the experience and forces me to stop…
And also, i've tried being a top but i really can't seem to remain hard enough to do it… i don't know if it's some kind of erectile dysfunction or not, but it's a bummer…
Still, after the guy i liked left me, these experiences have been with guys that i don't really know as well as i knew him, so i wonder if there's a psychological component there that might be affecting my ability to have pleasure during sex… Has anyone experienced something like this when you first started your sexual life?
I had the ED thing for a while when I first started out. I even asked my doctor about it. They ran some tests on me and saw that everything was fine. They put me on Viagra and Cialis for a while but it didn't work because my problem wasn't physical. I found it to be psychological and I linked mine with porn induced erectile dysfunction (PIED) Complete self-diagnosis. Before I came out, all I did was watch porn. So when I first got with a guy, my body was so used to 2D images that a 3D person wasn't satisfying (that's the theory, which made sense to me). So in essence, I had to "rewire" my brain's chemistry to be turned on my 3D images. And to do that, I refrained from porn, masturbation and having an orgasm (PMO) for a month. And it worked. It's sort of affiliated with the "no fap" thing, but with PIED, you're supposed to do 3 months....but I guess it depends on the severity. One month did the trick for me.
And if you search for it, guys who have done it swear by it, so I figured it couldn't hurt to try. And like I said, it worked for me. But I should warn you that this theory is not exactly scientifically-driven. But there's really nothing to lose here.
Can't really speak to the bottoming stuff (I'm a top).