Some of you should really refrain from accusing others of being or speaking like rapists. It's clear to me that they're saying that body language goes a long way in telling whether a person is consenting or not. Sure, you can verbalize it, but most of the time sexual consent is conveyed through body language. It quickly becomes clear when the person is physically apprehensive, at which point it's our responsibility to cease contact. I understood this perfectly from the posters that are being piled on.
I literally gave them an out, a chance to explain themselves. "Surely you didn't mean <rapey, creepy thing>, but instead you meant to say <something about affirmative, enthusiastic consent>, right?"
And their answer was to say "well not really" and double-down on their gross, rapey rhetoric. So yeah.
Typically the girl pulls down her own panties or puts her hand on your genetials and starts stroking or something of that manner. There are non verbal queues. They do exist.
No one said otherwise. The problem arises when you have people arguing that if there is no struggle/not saying "no" is the same as consent.
(I do like how you describe "typical" sex encounters with women, though, like all sex acts or encounters start out that way or something... lol)