I made a thread before stating that my prev. relationship ended after 14 years, mostly due to lack of intimacy, mental health issues and... this woman at work which made me realize what I want from a SO.
Due to the last 14 years being in a relationship I am, without a better word, rusty when it comes to reading tells and whatnot.
Some bullets (we all love em don't we)?
God damnit. I suck at this.
Due to the last 14 years being in a relationship I am, without a better word, rusty when it comes to reading tells and whatnot.
Some bullets (we all love em don't we)?
- She and me has known each other for... 7 years (I am a consultant and has helped her employer and now I am full time there since 2 years)? Nothing whatsoever has happened physically or mentally between us during this time, we barley spoke to each other. Then one Christmas morning we just clicked? Yes. We started talking, and by talking, I mean spent all days talking and all night working since we got no work done during day time. One day we talked 6 hours.
- Chatting... we chat and chat and chat... when we don't talk.
- Still, after the initial talking, we are still talking hours when we meet, take 3-hour lunches and talk talk talk talk.
- She has a husband... which their relationship is not in a good state, like mine (- mental health issues) before the breakup. She feels no attraction and so on. I have given advice that she should reconsider her relationship but that she should give one last shoot but she has to also the put time and effort into it.
- I confessed to her that I have quite low self-esteem when it comes to reading signs from other women since I don't expect it since why would they feel for me? She stated that she was very surprised that I thought like that since I have personality, intellect, reasoning, looks and so on. She even said, "You can get whoever you want".
- Regarding my ex. she has stated that "Many would love to switch places with her," and "She doesn't know how good she has had it".
- Another important part is her personality, where she has said she has never let anyone, not her husband, so close to "herself". And that I have made a huge impact on her life and personal development since I have talked and given advice.
God damnit. I suck at this.