To the extent that any of those prescriptions are true, they're only true in the narrowest sense. There's this fiction that there are arbiters who can grant people permission to say nigger and set the rules around how they say it.
But there are no rules. There are only contexts and consequences.
When Asian folks or Latinos or white folks ask why they can't say it but black people can, the question misses the point. Anyone can say it — that doesn't mean there won't be fallout for doing so. As we saw this week in the Carmona case, even black people can't say nigger to other black folks without consequence. (Hell, there are even spaces where not saying it will earn you a side eye.)
Wasn't it more along the lines of asking how to talk to her friends about it?Girl asked if white people can use the n-word, instead she got a lesson in empathy.
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How so?no right to use the word until reparations are paid? ya oversteered a bit there
Yep. And that way of answering this type of question is more deliberate than it might seem:He addressed the question. He just didn't say yes Coates is giving you a pass or no, Coates is not giving you a pass. What he provided was far more useful than that.
I assume she was nervous and ended up rambling. They likely talked about reparations in the full talk since his new book has a chapter on it.no right to use the word until reparations are paid? ya oversteered a bit there
I don't like the word nor do I use it.
I used to get on all my white friends way back when for using it, those that didn't stop aren't around anymore. Bye bye.Sounds about right.
Not saying nigga isn't something just white people should practice. If you're not black, don't say it.
This whole notion that non-black PoC have a pass is absurd.
She asked how to talk to her friends about it. He provided multiple analogies, explained them and offered insight into how white privilege shows itself in this particular area.He didn't really address the question through anything other than implication, and the implication is something I don't think many in this thread would agree with?
By making comparisons to "bitch", he notably didn't say "The B Word" or anything. He simply said he had no desire to say it outside of the context of talking about the word itself and quoting his wife. The "N word" is treated differently as it is objected to even in the form of quotation or talking about the word, and not addressing that difference misses the initial point entirely. It is most definitely not the same as bitch or honey, hell me writing "The B Word" is goofy as shit and we all know that's because we judge these words differently.
It can be either depending on the context and who you say it to.Due to the emphasis on context I feel like you could read his answer as "Yes, it's okay to say it" or "No, it's not okay to say it".
He was making a simple comparison to illustrate a point. He never said the words "Bitch" or "Honey" were literally the same as the n-word. He made the comparison to express that the meaning and impact of words change based on the context and the relationships between the individuals using them. He has a relationship with his wife and because of it it is okay for her to call him honey where as it is not okay for me to do so cause we lack that relationship. This rule extends to the n-word.He didn't really address the question through anything other than implication, and the implication is something I don't think many in this thread would agree with?
By making comparisons to "bitch", he notably didn't say "The B Word" or anything. He simply said he had no desire to say it outside of the context of talking about the word itself and quoting his wife. The "N word" is treated differently as it is objected to even in the form of quotation or talking about the word, and not addressing that difference misses the initial point entirely. It is most definitely not the same as bitch or honey, hell me writing "The B Word" is goofy as shit and we all know that's because we judge these words differently.
He didn't really address the question through anything other than implication, and the implication is something I don't think many in this thread would agree with?
By making comparisons to "bitch", he notably didn't say "The B Word" or anything. He simply said he had no desire to say it outside of the context of talking about the word itself and quoting his wife. The "N word" is treated differently as it is objected to even in the form of quotation or talking about the word, and not addressing that difference misses the initial point entirely. It is most definitely not the same as bitch or honey, hell me writing "The B Word" is goofy as shit and we all know that's because we judge these words differently. The nature of it in the context of quotation (as in a song) was at the heart of the initial question, even if his overall sentiment was agreeable and reasonable.
Due to the emphasis on context I feel like you could read his answer as "Yes, it's okay to say it" or "No, it's not okay to say it".
He was making a simple comparison to illustrate a point. He never said the words "Bitch" or "Honey" were literally the same as the n-word. He made the comparison to express that the meaning and impact of words change based on the context and the relationships between the individuals using them. He has a relationship with his wife and because of it it is okay for her to call him honey where as it is not okay for me to do so cause we lack that relationship. This rule extends to the n-word.
Well yeah, but all that illustrates is that you shouldnt use the word on your own in casual conversation. The initial question was referring to people that use the word within the context of quoting another individual, which is something that went unadressed and, notably, is something that very much sets it apart from the words he used in comparison. Again, even though he said the relationships were not there for him to use honey and bitch, he still said the words during this discussion and when quoting his wife, which is what makes using those words as examples less than optimal for addressing the initial question.
I believe he used other arguments to establish the sentiment that many share, don't say nigga.
I don't agree with you final assertions. You don't have to use a 1 to 1 comparison for your analogy to make sense. Either way you walked away understanding what was meant there. Are attempting to call him a hypocrite because he said the word Bitch but then said he has no compulsion to say the word? I feel that's an odd thing to take umbrage with if so.Well yeah, but all that illustrates is that you shouldnt use the word on your own in casual conversation. The initial question was referring to people that use the word within the context of quoting another individual, which is something that went unadressed and, notably, is something that very much sets it apart from the words he used in comparison. Again, even though he said the relationships were not there for him to use honey and bitch, he still said the words during this discussion and when quoting his wife, which is what makes using those words as examples less than optimal for addressing the initial question.
I don't agree with you final assertions. You don't have to use a 1 to 1 comparison for your analogy to make sense. Either way you walked away understanding what was meant there. Are attempting to call him a hypocrite because he said the word Bitch but then said he has no compulsion to say the word? I feel that's an odd thing to take umbrage with if so.
I think he addressed the question fine. The person was asking for the language to explain to their friends that they shouldn't use the word and it's never okay to whether you quoting a line in a movie or singing a song. He provided her with that language
Lack of consistency is why it makes it difficult to apply universal blanket rules to vocabulary. The best anyone can ever do is consider the context and never expose anyone to language that they are not comfortable hearing or being referred to as.Same. I grew up in NYC. I have a black Dominican/ American black father and a Bahamian/ America mother. I grew up with plenty of Dominican and Puerto Rican friends that say nigga daily. It's something I've never thought of as a problem as far as other minorities goes. Any other minorities though, and we have a HUGE problem. It's a weird dichotomy. I refer to the old Blackish bit though.
EDIT: then again, it also may be an issue as to where you grew up in NY. I knew a few Chinese and Mexicans that let it fly, but somehow I feel like they had the same experiences I did. Damn shit may be a regional thing. No consistency.
no right to use the word until reparations are paid? ya oversteered a bit there
Well said.Lack of consistency is why it makes it difficult to apply universal blanket rules to vocabulary. The best anyone can ever do is consider the context and never expose anyone to language that they are not comfortable hearing or being referred to as.
Two black people interacting does not mean one would be assumed comfortable being called the n-word.
Two gay people interacting does not mean one would be assumed comfortable being called the f-word.
And so on and so forth.
Holy shit that last part was mind blowing. He basically said that white people should try not to use the n-word when singing along a song just to see a tiny bit what it means to be black; that black people go through life seeing white people do things that they cannot do becuase they are black.
Man I love reading/hearing this man. He makes so much fucking sense. And I just discovered he has a new book out.
Thanks for sharing op, odds are I probably would have missed this video.
but why would you want to sing the song that badly?I don't think it's a good answer to the question. Singing along means repeating the words. What are you supposed to do? Just stop in the middle and stay silent or replace it with "N-word"? That's absurd. Singing along is quoting words.
It's a good answer to using the N-word in situations where you aren't quoting anything.
So if you were singing along to this Guns n Roses song:I don't think it's a good answer to the question. Singing along means repeating the words. What are you supposed to do? Just stop in the middle and stay silent or replace it with "N-word"? That's absurd. Singing along is quoting words.
It's a good answer to using the N-word in situations where you aren't quoting anything.
You would sing "niggers"?Police and niggers, that's right
Get outta my way
Don't need to buy none of your
Gold chains today
Now don't need no bracelets
Clamped in front of my back
Just need my ticket 'till then
Won't you cut me some slack
I don't think it's a good answer to the question. Singing along means repeating the words. What are you supposed to do? Just stop in the middle and stay silent or replace it with "N-word"? That's absurd. Singing along is quoting words.
It's a good answer to using the N-word in situations where you aren't quoting anything.
Again I do tend to self censor personally, but you're being a bit obtuse here. People want to sing songs they like and crnsoring throws you off. You ever listened to a censored Ying Yang Twins song on Vevo? Singing a song you like is something I feel should be universally understandable. Censoring a word that breaks up huge chunks of a song prevents emersion in the experience.
What are you supposed to do? Just stop in the middle and stay silent