Black Culture Community. Just easier to say black community ha
Thank you! I still couldn't work out the other 'C'. I am not a clever man.
Black Culture Community. Just easier to say black community ha
No. They made a comment specifically about society's tendency to accept the word of cishet white men as truth without scrutiny. As opposed to the word of the rest of us, that need 4 or five peer reviewed academic studies before even being considered.I wasn't talking about misogynists though. You made a snide comment specifically about cis white men. That has the potential to get more than just mysogynists riled up.
Seeing as a lot of girlgaf left because the owner perved on them and more.How was Gaf a gamergate hive? Anyone who argued in favor of it catched an instant ban.
Did you ever take a step back and read what you are posting? Jesus, almost every post from you is a straight up dismissive strawman rhetoric. Your behavior is the prime example of how discussions turn sour or why discussions don't even start to begin with. It's very ironic, considering in the TOPIC you post in."Stop critizing those white dudes, some of them are dehumanizing women by accident, after all" is what I'm reading here.
Because, in dangerous situations, including sexual assault, it's not uncommon for your body to seize up completely until the danger passes. This has happened to me personally.Asking why someone didn't leave is not blaming the victim for what happened. It's trying to understand the mind of the victim and the situation.
Looking on it again, yeah that's definitely another possible meaning for it.maybe I'm wrong but it read to me like Wein was agreeing with Persephone, adding that the person she quoted was revising history.
We don't really know for sure until the person posts back.I think you read that post wrong. They agree with the statement.
She didn't respond to that part (though certainly there were a lot of gamergaters too), but the part in which the post said it was the opposite (implying that it was all perfect).How was Gaf a gamergate hive? Anyone who argued in favor of it catched an instant ban.
How was Gaf a gamergate hive? Anyone who argued in favor of it catched an instant ban.
gamergate is born from a wilful ignorance and desire to sow discord and hatred in the first place, it's not a real prideful movement where people stand on their principles. i would wager that the vast majority of supporters on gaf weren't the ones posting so obviously. or they were using their burner accounts to do soHow was Gaf a gamergate hive? Anyone who argued in favor of it catched an instant ban.
It sounds like we're in agreement that harsher consequences are needed, then.Oh, I'm not disagreeing with you at all. I'm just pointing out that the mission statement of the site means fuck all to people who aren't here to adhere to it.
Even before the site was up the lifeboat minority discord groups were being f'd with. People have been in the fire, and are just not having it anymore.
And without the proper enforcement here of this code of conduct, it doesn't make any sense to actually give a damn.
I'm just being pragmatic. It doesn't do any good to argue about whose responsibility it is. Outright banning ignorant (but not malicious) people isn't going to make them disappear from the world. It isn't going to make things better for women and minorities. At some point, someone needs to engage with these people if we want to improve our world.It ain't the job of minorities and women to educate or tolerate that on here though? It doesn't matter if they didn't 'intend' to push them away.
The end result is that they are pushed away.
Ah yes, Gaf, where people were always insta-banned for saying complaining about "politics in video games"
1. You don't know what a strawman is. Stop using the term.Did you ever take a step back and read what you are posting? Jesus, almost every post from you is a straight up dismissive strawman rhetoric. Your behavior is the prime example of how discussions turn sour or why discussions don't even start to begin with. It's very ironic, considering in the TOPIC you post in.
Did you ever take a step back and read what you are posting? Jesus, almost every post from you is a straight up dismissive strawman rhetoric. Your behavior is the prime example of how discussions turn sour or why discussions don't even start to begin with. It's very ironic, considering in the TOPIC you post in.
https://www.resetera.com/posts/3046506/
I will never understand what was so heinous in that post it could warrant a warning, let alone 3 day ban.
The owner being a shitbag doesn't make something a hive.Seeing as a lot of girlgaf left because the owner perved on them and more.
Can't really say much to that, just the idea that it was a gamergate hive seemed too weird to me when all the mods took such a hard stance against it.Maybe, but it was still full of insidious sexism that was let slide. Meanwhile GirlGAF was getting banhammered left and right for no reason.
Because, in dangerous situations, including sexual assault, it's not uncommon for your body to seize up completely until the danger passes. This has happened to me personally.
Because women are socialized to coddle men's egos, so clearly saying "no" and potentially hurting their feelings isn't an option to many of us.
Because if you're a woman who is being harassed by a man, chances are he's bigger and stronger than you, and clearly rejecting his attempts could get you killed.
Sigh.
gamergate is born from a wilful ignorance and desire to sow discord and hatred in the first place, it's not a real prideful movement where people stand on their principles. i would wager that the vast majority of supporters on gaf weren't the ones posting so obviously. or they were using their burner accounts to do so
Misogyny discourages women from posting but people don't seem to get half as upset about that as they do sarcastic jokes about cishet white men :/
I think it's the intent behind it. Many of those who make misogynist posts that discourage women from posting have no idea they're doing it (not all, obviously). You know exactly what you're doing with snide comments like that. It seems as if you're just trying to get white dudes riled up. That's... not helpful.
If theres one thing I care about its protecting the feelings of misogynists
https://www.resetera.com/posts/3046506/
I will never understand what was so heinous in that post it could warrant a warning, let alone 3 day ban.
You literally made up a "quote" he supposedly said as paraphrasing instead of actually discussing anything, so I very much would like you to consider following your own point number 2, because that's what you actually don't do.1. You don't know what a strawman is. Stop using the term.
2. Argue my points, not my argumentation.
There's people in this thread that openly cheered GAF going down because they viewed it as a victory against the radical SJW feminist agenda they had been fighting against (their exact words, in some cases).
That's the issue. This is a new URL and a new server. It's not a new community. We've heard the same tired crap over and over. We've seen a bunch of angry dudes presenting themselves as rational or unbiased or just asking questions "argue" the same bullshit talking points at minorities, women, the LGBT community etc. for years. It's the same damn thing. People shouldn't be expected to treat this like a new thing that needs to be preciously explained to every "new" poster, in every thread and tolerated to the ends of the earth. We don't have amnesia.
If the forum stands for anything it's supposedly stands for, then this has to be addressed.
If someone wants a "free speech" community where you can say whatever alt-right drivel you want with no consequences, you can go to Reddit or Twitter or Tumblr or Facebook or the many other Silicon Valley libertarian garbage bins where there's no moderation or repercussions for being a bigoted sack of shit.
We have a bunch of people here that are proud of hating women, minorities gay / queer / transgender folk and many other marginalized groups. This forum cast a wide net. I think think that was a good idea for the health of it. But sometimes you pull in a bunch of garbage, and you have to sift through it. It's time to care about sifting a little more.
Insecurity is the word and it's exhausting having to untangle arguments that guys are making on behalf of themselves from actual social dynamics... I feel this is why dudes take a lot of conversations about society very personally and the age old of problem of having to tip toe around that and appease guys to get anything said or accomplished just undermines the conversations from the start.
The constant appeal to legal definitions and searching for loopholes within them like a lawyer defending their client at all costs, the hand wringing of hypothetical false claims by bitter women that will ruin the man's livelihood or allusions to which hunts are arguments from within and to deconstruct those arguments is to deconstruct the person and the eventual claims of male victimization cauterizes the conversation all together. After that it's all pity parties and claims of echo chambers. All because of insecurity.
What I've seen is absolutely inexcusable for this forum and why we made the move from GAF in the first place.
The whole reason why we left the other forum is to get away from this toxic behavior. Defending assaulters/sexual assault now masquerades as "just asking questions" "just voicing an opinion" "fighting against the echo chamber".... (This is) a gaming forum that was created specifically to protect and empower women and victims of sexual abuse/assault, and it needs to be treated as such.
It's clear to me now that a lot of people made the switch here, not because they want to follow the rules or care about women/sexual assault victims, but because NeoGAF died and discussing games is #1 to them, above all else. And some are even bitter about GAF now being what is is, and why it is.. a ghost town.
We'll have to agree to disagree. We're too far apart if you see the site as too lenient
The reason no-one gives examples is because you're asking them to put themselves in the position of highlighting an opinion that moderation has a vested interest in not being highlighted. But in the interest of opacity, here is an example
https://www.resetera.com/posts/3046506/
I will never understand what was so heinous in that post it could warrant a warning, let alone 3 day ban.
It is the internet rhetoric which was keeping young women out of gaming, not the industry itself.
If anything, the prevalence of sexism claims is leading to less women in the industry and fewer women in computer science.
I was saying snarky comments that are dismissive of other people's comments ("sexism didn't exist on GAF because a cishet white male said it didn't"), do not contribute to discussion and discourage people from posting.
ofc the reason was the site owner didn't like anyone saying you should believe women and naturally a large amount of women happen to hold that viewpoint. gaf became a safe space for tyler malkaMaybe, but it was still full of insidious sexism that was let slide. Meanwhile GirlGAF was getting banhammered left and right for no reason.
I understand that some people genuinely don't know, and even I, who have considered myself a feminist since I learned of the word, thought "if a dude assaulted me I'd just kick him in the balls!" before it happened to me and my body froze and my mind dissociated until it was over. But you (general you) have to understand that women and minorities are simply exhausted of answering the same questions over and over again. Imagine if someone came to your job and asked you the most basic shit about it and you had to stop everything you're doing to explain it to them in excruciating detail. And then someone else comes the next day and does the same thing. And then the following day. And then the following. Again. And again. And again.I'm sorry that happened to you. Honestly, it would be much better to tell people that who have those kinds of questions. It might sound simple to you, but maybe its over their heads. When I see those questions I constantly see smart aleck responses and "victim blaming" being thrown around. Some people simply need to learn about the situation.
I'm sorry that happened to you. Honestly, it would be much better to tell people that who have those kinds of questions. It might sound simple to you, but maybe its over their heads. When I see those questions I constantly see smart aleck responses and "victim blaming" being thrown around. Some people simply need to learn about the situation.
This is how I felt on Gaf as wellDo you know WHO was saying GAF was a progressive haven? IT WAS CISHET WHITE MEN. Women and minorities on GAF were well aware of all the bullshit but cishet white dudes kept telling us to be grateful for how ~tolerant GAF was.
It sounds like we're in agreement that harsher consequences are needed, then.
And again, the mission statement/forcing users to read and agree to conditions before they post is a way of removing the excuse that they didn't know what they were doing, therefore justifying swift action from the mods.
@Or as psychowave put it. I still don't know how to turn usernames into notifications.
Hey OP get off your high horse.So one of two conclusions exists. Either we don't need such people,
Put an @ in front of their username and a prompt should pop up. Hope that helps!Just bear in mind that unfortunately loops into the situation where a burden is seemingly placed upon victims to explain the abuse they've received to people. That can mean reliving it, and otherwise bringing the stress it caused back up, which is not a comfortable process, and for some, is honestly damaging. At the very least, it often gets tiring, and for many, they've simply had enough. It's not an easy issue to, however you slice it.
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Or as psychowave put it. I still don't know how to turn usernames into notifications.
Actually, let's talk about my argumentation:You literally made up a "quote" he supposed said as paraphrasing instead of actually discussing anything, so I very much would like you to consider following your own point number 2, because that's what you actually don't do.
In this topic we discuss how to discuss better. And I'm pointing out your aggressive line of "reasoning" isn't a good way to accomplish that, let alone considering the topic at hand.
1 person arguing with you is fine , not everyone thinks the same so opinions will clash, but when 5 plus people start multi quoting it's becomes hectic and usually ends in a ban, I tend to stay out of 1 to 1 discussions until I'm certain my input will actually add value to something. Dogpiling is something that almost always ends with a ban when it can be easily averted
It's the dogpilling that is fucking disgusting if you ask me , I've been a lurker for a long time and only just made an account this weekend , but boy... it's so unfair. I've seen pages of just 1 person being quoted , and they end up with a ban in the end because they can't keep up with all the multi quotes.
Put an @ in front of their username and a prompt should pop up. Hope that helps!
At what point do we need to coddle posters who refuse to do anything such as read the thread over before posting? For example, usually threads on the first few pages actually take arguements in good faith and arguements happen. Then a new person comes in defending an opinion without knowing all the context, rinse and repeat. It's a cycle at this point. Or even not reading the OP article, to the point where mods had to remake a thread saying 'Read the OP'.I'm just being pragmatic. It doesn't do any good to argue about whose responsibility it is. Outright banning ignorant (but not malicious) people isn't going to make them disappear from the world. It isn't going to make things better for women and minorities. At some point, someone needs to engage with these people if we want to improve our world.
I totally understand if you don't want to or are too tired to. I can't even imagine how it must be for women and minorities. I'm just saying we shouldn't get in the way of those who do choose to engage them — because engaging them is the only way we move forward as a society.
Straight saying "Wait for all the facts" might be seen as disrespectful, sure, but it can be neutral. Questioning both sides is totally a ok thing to do and it's open to discussion."Wait for all the facts" isn't being neutral. It is a statment that inherently impugns the integrity of the accuser. If you're waiting for all the facts before commenting then you're not saying shit until you have said facts. Or you're giving your opinion on the facts as they currently stand. Either way, as you said, discussion forum, everyone has eve4y right to comment on whatever you said.
You can take an accusation serious but still wait for all the facts to come out to have an opinion. Saying "I'm not sure I believe the victim" might be seen as taking the assaulter side but you can say " These are some serious allegations. Let's see how X will respond or if anything comes out of this" f.e."I'm not sure I believe the victim" and "I'll wait for more evidence" is dismissing the accusation, and the victim. It's a big part of the reason for why people don't step forward with their stories.
The post has a really common argument structure that is often used in dismissing systematic issues.https://www.resetera.com/posts/3046506/
I will never understand what was so heinous in that post it could warrant a warning, let alone 3 day ban.
How was Gaf a gamergate hive? Anyone who argued in favor of it catched an instant ban.
Do you know WHO was saying GAF was a progressive haven? IT WAS CISHET WHITE MEN. Women and minorities on GAF were well aware of all the bullshit but cishet white dudes kept telling us to be grateful for how ~tolerant GAF was.
It was pretty noticeable on the gaming side, especially with those big thread blow ups for Pewdiepie and Jontron. And whenever there was a thread about the latest Anita Sarkeesian video.