Wasn't prepared for the feels on this chilly Monday evening but you've stoked warmth in my heart with this one Xaszatm, thank you. Same to other people posting in support. Anyone observing the threads over the past few months will know what this one is referring to, and I'm sure many have seen the frustration from trans and non-binary people in that regard. Certainly my own is well documented.
70yo trans folk are showing more tact, humility and grace around these issues than whichever hyper-social personality is winning this years 'ally award' from the cis crowd. Personalities that hold apologies hostage behind dollar revenue or slate the communities they claim to protect if one of their clique is criticised. Then people have the gall to suggest we're the ones putting them on pedestals or deifying them while they rush to deflect any whiff of criticism coming their way.
You have people worrying over rich, influential and immensely popular personalities like they've taken a rubber bullet to the larynx. While telling the trans and non-binary people they've actually hurt they're being overly sensitive, they don't get comedy, they're being ridiculous, that it's not actually transphobic, that they're fun-hating robots, looking for a reason to be upset or innumerable other one-line dismissals that keep them on the nice side of the banhammer.
That's without even delving into they/them threads or wider trans discussions in general, which follow the same course.
I don't know what the solution is, but moderators posting acknowledging the issue and expressing a wish for a better tomorrow might want to discuss how to remedy it as it's not uncommon that I've been fighting the same frustrations mentioned above in threads while staff members post around the periphery.
70yo trans folk are showing more tact, humility and grace around these issues than whichever hyper-social personality is winning this years 'ally award' from the cis crowd. Personalities that hold apologies hostage behind dollar revenue or slate the communities they claim to protect if one of their clique is criticised. Then people have the gall to suggest we're the ones putting them on pedestals or deifying them while they rush to deflect any whiff of criticism coming their way.
You have people worrying over rich, influential and immensely popular personalities like they've taken a rubber bullet to the larynx. While telling the trans and non-binary people they've actually hurt they're being overly sensitive, they don't get comedy, they're being ridiculous, that it's not actually transphobic, that they're fun-hating robots, looking for a reason to be upset or innumerable other one-line dismissals that keep them on the nice side of the banhammer.
That's without even delving into they/them threads or wider trans discussions in general, which follow the same course.
I don't know what the solution is, but moderators posting acknowledging the issue and expressing a wish for a better tomorrow might want to discuss how to remedy it as it's not uncommon that I've been fighting the same frustrations mentioned above in threads while staff members post around the periphery.
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