I'd hear them out. After all we've been though wouldn't let some kink of theirs ruin our relationship. And hopefully they'd feel the same if I didn't want to do it.
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Your long time SO reveals to you they want to have live sex with someone else in front of you for your entertainment and pleasure. Your reaction?
- Thread starter Sphinx
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That sounds blissful. I love it when it's all about me. I have experienced this in the past, but as the third, not as part of a couple. It was amazing.
Any sex I'm a part of always gets an instant 11 though. It's kinda weird how that works out.
Anecdotally, I can say of my friends and of acquaintances I know that went this route when they were having issues with their relationship, it's always ended in a breakup or divorce. It adds something different for a little but ultimately ends in even more fighting from the people who have told me about it.
Umm this would have to be something you talk about being more open early in the relationship. Because I wouldn't be down for it. But at least she could've been clear up front and broken up earlier. If it just came out of the blue after a while and I was totally committed to being exclusive then I would be pissed. I'd say no you can't do that and keep asking why she wants to, possibly could work it out after long discussion but most likely it would end up being a deal breaker.
I for one find it kind of weird that straight couples are ok with same sex scenarios, but iffy on anything else.
Only if I'm allowed to show her a replay of what she did wrong like analysts with a football game.
This is definitely not a way to fix a flawed relationship lol. If people are suggesting this at that stage the relationship is over and they just want to fuck other people.
exploring a kink like this is Hard mode for relationships and requires more trust and better communication then monogamy. That's a general thing with kink. The more kinky the relationship the more trust is involved and the more communication is required to keep all parties happy
I recently broke up with my girlfriend probably because of something like this
She came out of nowhere asking me if I would be interested in a ménage a trois with another person
I tried to be ok with it, but it really affected how I viewed our relationship
I try to be open minded, always. But some things I just dont feel good about, no matter how open I may be
I respect it. For some couples, it works, and I dont view them as "couples who dont understand about love" or shit like that.
Its just that this is not for me, at all.
I'm still heartbroken about it, thinking that it's my fault for not being capable of doing it
She came out of nowhere asking me if I would be interested in a ménage a trois with another person
I tried to be ok with it, but it really affected how I viewed our relationship
I try to be open minded, always. But some things I just dont feel good about, no matter how open I may be
I respect it. For some couples, it works, and I dont view them as "couples who dont understand about love" or shit like that.
Its just that this is not for me, at all.
I'm still heartbroken about it, thinking that it's my fault for not being capable of doing it
Did the OP just discover NTR doujins or something?
Cause I swear this is one of those plots.
To answer the poll,
I'd be horrified and try to understand where the idea is coming from and try my darnedest to persuade her off this path.
If all else fails...then damn, I'm really sorry but I can't live with that.
Cause I swear this is one of those plots.
To answer the poll,
I'd be horrified and try to understand where the idea is coming from and try my darnedest to persuade her off this path.
If all else fails...then damn, I'm really sorry but I can't live with that.
Pretty much, at that point why not just ask him/her to swing with another couple to make it fair.
Exciting to think about, actually doing it is something else.
That'd be a big no from me, I've done similar in previous relationship's but to be honest that's because I didn't love them and was mainly in it for the sex.
Now i'm married with kids I'd hope my wife knows me well enough to know this isn't something I'd be up for at all.
Now i'm married with kids I'd hope my wife knows me well enough to know this isn't something I'd be up for at all.
I laughed at them when they said that's what they were doing and that it was "helping". Like you said, it was just them wanting to have sex with others and it be "ok" and eventually it got to a point where one of them was spending more time with the 3rd/4th wheel than with the significant other and the whole time I'm just
This would be a no go for me, but mocking people who are ok with it in their relationship is a pathetic thing
The one suggestion I have for anyone if their SO ever expresses interest in this kind of thing - don't shut them down, just talk to them. It's can be very difficult to tell someone about the fantasies you have. There's a big component of shame.
I laughed at them when they said that's what they were doing and that it was "helping". Like you said, it was just them wanting to have sex with others and it be "ok" and eventually it got to a point where one of them was spending more time with the 3rd/4th wheel than with the significant other and the whole time I'm just
great gif usage
yeah it's not something that will fix a relationship it's something that has to be there at the start and all parties have to understand what it means. If that's the case it can be a real healthy thing.
personally it's not something I'm into, but each to their own
The part after that question is the problem I think. Ad most said everyone has akink and its fine, but even to the most confident, your wife or husband saying that must bring alot of insecurity in regards to feelings and attraction that would be hard to just brush off, assuming you are not ok with the idea.
gonna have to sit down and have a real talk with my SO's about this
I just don't think I can handle sharing
I just don't think I can handle sharing
Been in an open relationship for 11 years now, so my reaction would just be "yeah okay." It doesn't really happen that often anymore, but second to last option is close enough.
Edit: Well more specifically the cucking aspect doesn't really happen. Usually it's either we do things separately or it's a full on threesome. There have been a few times where I'm partaking in a kink my partner isn't that into, but he still watched us do it.
Edit: Well more specifically the cucking aspect doesn't really happen. Usually it's either we do things separately or it's a full on threesome. There have been a few times where I'm partaking in a kink my partner isn't that into, but he still watched us do it.
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I would hope they would know me well enough to know that that's not my thing.
If it's their thing...well, I'm still not into it. I'll attempt it for them, but to be honest though, we probably won't get far with it.
If it's their thing...well, I'm still not into it. I'll attempt it for them, but to be honest though, we probably won't get far with it.