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Nacho Papi

Member
Oct 27, 2017
2,342
Help me out here Era...

How to overcome fear of flying? I fly about on avg 20-30K km in total each year and as of late my anxiety has not only manifested itself out of nowhere (still need to set up sessions with a psych to unpack but life just keeps postponing things...anyway) but also rooted itself in the element of fear of flying.

I never used to feel like this, in my teens or even mid twenties I actually enjoyed flying, now I dread it for a few reasons. One being I can't really afford business so I'm stuck on 10h flights crammed into these miniscule spaces (hell i'm even a small guy actually, short with avg build so god help those poor tall/gaunt bastards) and two now I just feel that I will die, accident statistics or overall safety of flying aside. It's like common sense is losing the battle in my mind all the time.

Hell I know that planes are built for some extreme conditons but when that turbulence hits my heart goes racing and my brains screams "this is it"...yet my brother loves to tell me the story of how I once, when younger, slept through a flight when things got so rocky that the gas masks dropped down and people started screaming in panic.

I don't really want to take meds or end up drinking excessively on the plane. Hate this shit.
 

papermoon

The Fallen
Oct 27, 2017
1,907
I haven't seen the movie "Split" yet, and it feels like I'm on the verge of tripping on some spoilers.

Is Split still on HBO?

Google told me they had it in October last year, but can't find info on whether it's still on the service. If it is, I'll subscribe for the month and catch up on some Curb while I'm at it.
 

theabefroman

Member
Oct 29, 2017
40
I haven't seen the movie "Split" yet, and it feels like I'm on the verge of tripping on some spoilers.

Is Split still on HBO?

Google told me they had it in October last year, but can't find info on whether it's still on the service. If it is, I'll subscribe for the month and catch up on some Curb while I'm at it.


Yes , it is.
 

CoolestSpot

Banned
Oct 25, 2017
17,325
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Aby one know where to get purple leather jacket for men's like Travis here?
 
Nov 7, 2017
5,084
Help me out here Era...

How to overcome fear of flying? I fly about on avg 20-30K km in total each year and as of late my anxiety has not only manifested itself out of nowhere (still need to set up sessions with a psych to unpack but life just keeps postponing things...anyway) but also rooted itself in the element of fear of flying.

I never used to feel like this, in my teens or even mid twenties I actually enjoyed flying, now I dread it for a few reasons. One being I can't really afford business so I'm stuck on 10h flights crammed into these miniscule spaces (hell i'm even a small guy actually, short with avg build so god help those poor tall/gaunt bastards) and two now I just feel that I will die, accident statistics or overall safety of flying aside. It's like common sense is losing the battle in my mind all the time.

Hell I know that planes are built for some extreme conditons but when that turbulence hits my heart goes racing and my brains screams "this is it"...yet my brother loves to tell me the story of how I once, when younger, slept through a flight when things got so rocky that the gas masks dropped down and people started screaming in panic.

I don't really want to take meds or end up drinking excessively on the plane. Hate this shit.
You sound like me

I pretty much fly every month but I still pucker up when the slightest turbulence hits. What helps me is that I'm usually not flying alone (I'm either with my wife or a few friends). Especially if you're traveling with a group and get to see their reactions to turbulence. At least for me it helps that they're not bothered so why should I be
 

Miso

Banned
Nov 1, 2017
453
Northen Beaches
Amtrak.

What's it like? Reliable? Punctual? Clean? Safe?

I'm planning a trip to the US later this year. I have some experience of getting around the US on my own via both internal flights and Greyhound, but it'll be the first time my other half has done so and I want her to have a good experience doing it. Certainly leaning more towards Amtrak than Greyhound on that basis.

For context, I'm British so our trains are routinely late, overly busy and usually scruffy. Also the last time I caught a Greyhound, there was a news story doing the rounds two weeks beforehand about a man having his head cut off on the back of one. My expectations are reasonably modest.

No American but have taken the train from LA to San Diego twice in the last 4 years. Was pretty good.

No pre-booked seats but no issues finding somewhere to sit. Clean. Comfy. Good beer options on board. Wifi.
Second time we did get in about 40 mins late, and was running about 10 late coming into Union Station as it was down to a single track at some points and we had to wait for trains to go the other way.

Would travel by train again. That specific route has some good views as you are almost right on the ocean.
 

Hawk

Member
Oct 25, 2017
428
Can insurance companies that are not part of the healthcare exchange deny people for having pre existing conditions? I always assumed that the answer was "yes" and that the ACA just implemented a marketplace which didn't have them. But looking online, it seems that, that may not be true? I'm confused...
 

Dan Thunder

Member
Nov 2, 2017
14,072
Help me out here Era...

How to overcome fear of flying? I fly about on avg 20-30K km in total each year and as of late my anxiety has not only manifested itself out of nowhere (still need to set up sessions with a psych to unpack but life just keeps postponing things...anyway) but also rooted itself in the element of fear of flying.

I never used to feel like this, in my teens or even mid twenties I actually enjoyed flying, now I dread it for a few reasons. One being I can't really afford business so I'm stuck on 10h flights crammed into these miniscule spaces (hell i'm even a small guy actually, short with avg build so god help those poor tall/gaunt bastards) and two now I just feel that I will die, accident statistics or overall safety of flying aside. It's like common sense is losing the battle in my mind all the time.

Hell I know that planes are built for some extreme conditons but when that turbulence hits my heart goes racing and my brains screams "this is it"...yet my brother loves to tell me the story of how I once, when younger, slept through a flight when things got so rocky that the gas masks dropped down and people started screaming in panic.

I don't really want to take meds or end up drinking excessively on the plane. Hate this shit.

I'm no therapist but the first thing I'd do is to actually look into plane safety and statistics. Most people 'know' planes are safe because they've heard it from someone else or on TV, rarely do people investigate for themselves. I think you'd probably be surprised at how safe flying actually is. I'd also see if there are any kind of visualisation exercises out there that you can use if you start to feel anxious.
 

Deleted member 3534

User requested account closure
Banned
Oct 25, 2017
1,537
That wasn't there before and it kind of confirms my point. To quote... myself...

"... it's a much stricter manipulation of the flow of a conversation."

If it's not a subject people are interested in it won't "derail" the thread, people will just ignore it. And if it is, good? People can have two similar but different conversations at the same time. What it comes down to is that whoever closed that thread didn't like what was being discussed, despite it being virtually harmless insofar as people's feelings or sensiblities are concerned.

Edit: "Kind of confirms my point..." is just me being modest. It exemplifies my point.

I want to be clear that I'm not tying this point of view to any political affilition. I likely have the same or similar politics to most people here but I can still see it. I think most reasonable people could.
 
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Volimar

volunteer forum janitor
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Oct 25, 2017
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That wasn't there before and it kind of confirms my point. To quote... myself...

"... it's a much stricter manipulation of the flow of a conversation."

If it's not a subject people are interested in it won't "derail" the thread, people will just ignore it. And if it is, good? People can have two similar but different conversations at the same time. What it comes down to is that whoever closed that thread didn't like what was being discussed, despite it being virtually harmless insofar as people's feelings or sensiblities are concerned.

Edit: "Kind of confirms my point..." is just me being modest. It exemplifies my point.

I want to be clear that I'm not tying this point of view to any political affilition. I likely have the same or similar politics to most people here but I can still see it. I think most reasonable people could.

If you want to have a second conversation that's not the subject of the thread, make your own thread for that topic.
 

Gifmaker

Banned
Oct 29, 2017
964
Why do so many ongoing cartoons seem to stop releasing new episodes around the end of the year? I watch like 3-4 shows at the time at most, and around holiday season, they just stop being released and go on hiatus until like february, march, whatever.

Now I understand that shows have release schedules and such, and I don't even watch that many cartoons to begin with, but somehow it always seems to end with that the handful of cartoons that I am watching always go on hiatus at the same exact time, leaving me with periods of 2-3 months without watching anything new. Right now, I am watching TMNT (2012), Ducktales (2017) and Star Wars Rebels. TMNT aired the last episode on november 12th, Rebels on november 13th and Ducktales on december 2nd. I have the most time to watch stuff like that around the holiday season, yet I always end up with nothing new to watch during that specific time. Is this coincidence or is this like a TV show thing that the christmas season is taboo somehow to release new content? Do I simply pick the wrong shows to watch? Is this the darkest timeline indeed?
 

Deleted member 3534

User requested account closure
Banned
Oct 25, 2017
1,537
If you want to have a second conversation that's not the subject of the thread, make your own thread for that topic.

I would but I lost my thread making privileges for making a topic about how the GTA series has a contemptuous relationship with women and maturity in general.

Furthermore, I mean, why not a post like "You're entitled to your opinion but here's our rationale for how we do things. Let's kindly get back on topic." I could at least respect that as opposed to simply shutting the whole thing down. And that sort of light touch would be perfectly suited to sit in stead for the vast majority of bold lettered USER WAS WARNED messages I see attached to people's posts for veering off topic or "drive by posting." It only requires a tiny amount more effort and doesn't come off nearly as smug or stifling.

I can't help but think there's something disingenuous and maybe even hypocritical to someone crashing a thread into a wall and saying they did it because it was veering off course.

"It was teetering on a ledge and that's bad so i just pushed it off."
 
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weemadarthur

Community Resettler
Member
Oct 25, 2017
10,608
I would but I lost my thread making privileges for making a topic about how the GTA series has a contemptuous relationship with women and maturity in general.

Furthermore, I mean, why not a post like "You're entitled to your opinion but here's our rationale for how we do things. Let's kindly get back on topic." I could at least respect that as opposed to simply shutting the whole thing down. And that sort of light touch would be perfectly suited to sit in stead for the vast majority of bold lettered USER WAS WARNED messages I see attached to people's posts for veering off topic or "drive by posting." It only requires a tiny amount more effort and doesn't come off nearly as smug or stifling.

I can't help but think there's something disingenuous and maybe even hypocritical to someone crashing a thread into a wall and saying they did it because it was veering off course.

"It was teetering on a ledge and that's bad so i just pushed it off."
Complaints about moderation are not meant for this thread, you'll just get IT closed too. Make them directly to staff or adapt to the zeitgeist.
 

Cth

The Fallen
Oct 29, 2017
1,809
I feel like an idiot for asking but..

Is there a way to search a thread for something? I know the forum can be searched (titles/posts/etc) but individual threads I don't know how..

For example, there's a podcast thread, but rather than search all 30 pages, I want to see if "Star Wars" appears in the thread, and return just those posts.

I could have swore we could do it on the other forum..
 

weemadarthur

Community Resettler
Member
Oct 25, 2017
10,608
I feel like an idiot for asking but..

Is there a way to search a thread for something? I know the forum can be searched (titles/posts/etc) but individual threads I don't know how..

For example, there's a podcast thread, but rather than search all 30 pages, I want to see if "Star Wars" appears in the thread, and return just those posts.

I could have swore we could do it on the other forum..
Yes, Check the Search This Thread Only box, and put it in quotes. Although that will likely restrict by capitalization.
 

Cth

The Fallen
Oct 29, 2017
1,809
Yes, Check the Search This Thread Only box, and put it in quotes. Although that will likely restrict by capitalization.

I appreciate the help but I'm not seeing that option?

All I get are search all forums/child forums.. no check box for this thread.

The upper right/magnifying glass, right?
 

weemadarthur

Community Resettler
Member
Oct 25, 2017
10,608
Cth
Are you on mobile or desktop site? Maybe it looks different?
Look for a "more options" dropdown, or a link to Advanced Search.
 

louie

Member
Oct 29, 2017
559
Does Dragonball ever touch on PTSD? When the characters come together for an arc a lot of them have to be aware they'll die. Does the fact that you can very easily be wished back undo the fear of severe injury and death, or does it multiple the fear seeing as most characters have first hand experience?
 

Freewheelin

Member
Nov 1, 2017
581
I got a question about the Xbox One S. How is it as a 4K Blu Ray player? I am getting a 4K HDR TV in the next few days and was thinking of picking one up.
 

Jindrax

Attempted to circumvent ban with alt account
Banned
Oct 28, 2017
1,454
Does Dragonball ever touch on PTSD? When the characters come together for an arc a lot of them have to be aware they'll die. Does the fact that you can very easily be wished back undo the fear of severe injury and death, or does it multiple the fear seeing as most characters have first hand experience?

Doesn't really deal with PTSD but the lesser characters are indeed afraid to die.
Iirc Krillin goes through this multiple times in Z, mostly because he already died in Dragon Ball and you can't get wished back twice.
Although I don't get why they just don't use earth dragons balls to wish themselves to Namek and then use those to wish back already dead people. (those dragon balls allow same wishes twice)
 

Galkinator

Chicken Chaser
Member
Oct 27, 2017
8,973
I'm going to invest 1st time in my life in stocks.
Deciding between investing 3K in 1 stock, or 3.5K between two stocks. Hmm
 

Coyote Starrk

The Fallen
Oct 30, 2017
53,237
I saw Trump out a tariff on Solar Panels and Washing machines and South Korea is reportedly going to go to the World Trade Organization.


What exactly can the WTO do about Trump's asinine decision?
 

Qasiel

▲ Legend ▲
Member
Oct 27, 2017
2,330
I was talking to a work colleague about movie/TV crossovers and I remembered in the old place there was a discussion about them and in one of the posts someone mentioned about a film (or TV show) that had loads more branching off from it. There was even a picture/diagram showing all the links.

Any chance someone can tell me what the original show/film was? I think the crossovers started with a character having a dream about a character from a different franchise and it spread from there.

Cheers!
 
OP
OP

Deleted member 3345

User requested account closure
Banned
Oct 25, 2017
4,967
I was talking to a work colleague about movie/TV crossovers and I remembered in the old place there was a discussion about them and in one of the posts someone mentioned about a film (or TV show) that had loads more branching off from it. There was even a picture/diagram showing all the links.

Any chance someone can tell me what the original show/film was? I think the crossovers started with a character having a dream about a character from a different franchise and it spread from there.

Cheers!

Buffy?
 

DrKelpo

Member
Oct 25, 2017
2,862
Germany
Recently I saw a movie trailer where different nations (or was it cities?) exist as like drivable castles that wage war against eachother... kinda hard to describe actually.

anyone can tell me the name of the movie (or book its based on)?
 

Titik

Member
Oct 25, 2017
7,490
Swifkey for android auto-correct doesn't work well on ERA mobile. I have the autocorrect function on where it will just insert the prediction automatically and it doesn't seem to work on ERA on mobile or at at least in the reply box. Other sites work btw.
 

Fulminator

Member
Oct 25, 2017
14,203
why does the front facing camera on phones always flip the picture when you take it? makes every single picture from the front camera unusable
 

Li Kao

Member
Oct 25, 2017
1,731
Has there been some development with the various Lovecraft adaptated TV shows ? Feels like several were announced then nothing. Is it usual or has there been cancelations I missed ?
 

Chekhonte

User banned for use of an alt-account
Banned
Oct 31, 2017
1,886
Back at the other place I was introduced to a screenshot tool that allowed me to select the area of the screen I wanted to screenshot. I can't remember what this was called. I recently did a reset on the computer that I had it installed on to get it ready to sell. iirc you would right click to select the tool and it would put up a small interface that you could use to tweak what you wanted to screenshot. Can anybody remind me what that program is?
 

Cosmic Bus

Member
Oct 27, 2017
2,014
NY
Back at the other place I was introduced to a screenshot tool that allowed me to select the area of the screen I wanted to screenshot. I can't remember what this was called. I recently did a reset on the computer that I had it installed on to get it ready to sell. iirc you would right click to select the tool and it would put up a small interface that you could use to tweak what you wanted to screenshot. Can anybody remind me what that program is?

Windows has the snipping tool built in, was it that?

https://support.microsoft.com/en-us/help/13776/windows-use-snipping-tool-to-capture-screenshots
 
OP
OP

Deleted member 3345

User requested account closure
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Oct 25, 2017
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Yea sounds like snipping tool.

I added the shortcut key to Ctrl + Shift + Alt + P for quick access.
 

Deleted member 3038

Oct 25, 2017
3,569
Back at the other place I was introduced to a screenshot tool that allowed me to select the area of the screen I wanted to screenshot. I can't remember what this was called. I recently did a reset on the computer that I had it installed on to get it ready to sell. iirc you would right click to select the tool and it would put up a small interface that you could use to tweak what you wanted to screenshot. Can anybody remind me what that program is?
Could also be ShareX
 

Chekhonte

User banned for use of an alt-account
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Oct 31, 2017
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Yea sounds like snipping tool.

I added the shortcut key to Ctrl + Shift + Alt + P for quick access.


None of those were it but the built in MS snipping tool works for what I need 99 percent of the time. How did this tool slip by me all these years? I guess that's what I get for only having apple friends. Thanks everyone for your replies.
 

Komarkaze

Member
Oct 27, 2017
578
My wife has a website that was built and maintained by her colleague almost a year ago. We pay about $150 for 6 months server hosting and small changes. Any type of one off work, he would charge $20 for. However his official rate is $22.50/hour.

Recently she asked for some slight changes to the site, and noticed that it wasn't displaying properly on her tablet. He worked on it for a few days and at the end, sent an invoice of $247.50 for 12 hours of work. It was surprisingly high to us the amount of time he spent to make it tablet viewable. I spoke to him and he said that the reason it took 12 hours is he couldn't bring the main site down per my wife's request. So he decided to create a second site and spent many hours redownloading all the pictures from my wife's Facebook page. She had already emailed him those pictures less than a year ago. He also has full access to her current website that has those pictures. But he claims it's impossible for him to access the original photos from the website, and he deleted the photos that were emailed to him, even though his job has been to maintain the site.

My question is whether the charged amount for the work that he claims is fair. I do not feel like he should have created a second site and spend time resownloading the photos from scratch. I work in IT myself, so they idea that he deleted all of the original pictures sounds preposterous to me, especially knowing that he maintains the site. We never asked him to create a second site. Is that standard practice for web development? Normally I'm used to creating a test server, but I wouldn't charge the client for it. He never communicated what he was really doing. If I go to a garage for car work, they always communicate what they're charging before starting work, and I didn't feel like this happened. I feel like he's trying to scam us, but maybe I'm wrong. Opinions?

Also on a related note, any recommendations for a good honest website developer? It feels like this is harder than finding a good mechanic for a car.
 
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Jyester

Member
Oct 27, 2017
374
Era, halp. Does anyone have experience salvaging data from an external HDD that started making clicking noises? I got a quote from a professional data recovery company, and they were gonna charge me $1000+, after they told me that the damage was minor and they were going to clone the drive. This to me sounds like a ridiculous price for an extremely basic procedure. Has anybody used software like EaseUS to copy data off a failing drive?

My wife has a website that was built and maintained by her colleague almost a year ago. We pay about $150 for 6 months server hosting and small changes. Any type of one off work, he would charge $20 for. However his official rate is $22.50/hour.

Recently she asked for some slight changes to the site, and noticed that it wasn't displaying properly on her tablet. He worked on it for a few days and at the end, sent an invoice of $247.50 for 12 hours of work. It was surprisingly high to us the amount of time he spent to make it tablet viewable. I spoke to him and he said that the reason it took 12 hours is he couldn't bring the main site down per my wife's request. So he decided to create a second site and spent many hours redownloading all the pictures from my wife's Facebook page. She had already emailed him those pictures less than a year ago. He also has full access to her current website that has those pictures. But he claims it's impossible for him to access the original photos from the website, and he deleted the photos that were emailed to him, even though his job has been to maintain the site.

My question is whether the charged amount for the work that he claims is fair. I do not feel like he should have created a second site and spend time resownloading the photos from scratch. I work in IT myself, so they idea that he deleted all of the original pictures sounds preposterous to me, especially knowing that he maintains the site. We never asked him to create a second site. Is that standard practice for web development? Normally I'm used to creating a test server, but I wouldn't charge the client for it. He never communicated what he was really doing. If I go to a garage for car work, they always communicate what they're charging before starting work, and I didn't feel like this happened. I feel like he's trying to scam us, but maybe I'm wrong. Opinions?

Also on a related note, any recommendations for a good honest website developer? It feels like this is harder than finding a good mechanic for a car.
Did he give you a quote prior to starting to work on the site? Redownloading the pictures sounds like a bullshit excuse that someone that isn't internet savvy might fall for. He should have told you or checked with you before starting an operation that could've been carried out much more efficiently by just asking you. I'd propose a discount, and meet him somewhere in the middle.

As for a website developer: I don't know the complexity of your site and at the risk of stating the obvious: did you or your wife look into WordPress? It takes some time to come to grips with everything, but in general it's very user-friendly and something that could save you a lot of money in the long run. I've never maintained a website for professional purposes, so your mileage may vary.
 
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Komarkaze

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Oct 27, 2017
578
Did he give you a quote prior to starting to work on the site? Redownloading the pictures sounds like a bullshit excuse that someone that isn't internet savvy might fall for. He should have told you or checked with you before starting an operation that could've been carried out much more efficiently by just asking you. I'd propose a discount, and meet him somewhere in the middle.

As for a website developer: I don't know the complexity of your site and at the risk of stating the obvious: did you or your wife look into WordPress? It takes some time to come to grips with everything, but in general it's very user-friendly and something that could save you a lot of money in the long run. I've never maintained a website for professional purposes, so your mileage may vary.

No, he didn't give a quote prior to starting work in this latest task. Everything up to this point had been small sums. To make it compatible for tablet mode, he told her he has to recode the site. My wife doesn't know what that means or know how much time it takes. Everything was pretty vague. Then he asked her to resend the emails with the pictures. But for him to get the pictures himself, it will take time. We didn't authorize him to do that. He worked on the site for 3 days but never explained what he was doing each day until he gave the invoice at the end and had to talk on the phone to see what he did. Also the new site doesn't have all the exact same content as the original, so basically there's more work to be done.

I should ask for a full breakdown of how much time he spent with each task. Finding a dollar amount somewhere in the middle was something I was considering so thanks for reaffirming.

My wife had a blog on Wordpress 5 years ago which she had some help with. She isn't able to figure it out herself and I'm not really into web site design. I think it would take a lot of time for me to learn how to create a professional site. One good thing about that web designer is he also works the same profession as my wife, so he knows what kind of content should be in there.
 

Xavillin

Member
Oct 25, 2017
2,028
So a couple of friends invited me to go to an anime convention in March, and there will five of us going. I've already bought my 3 day pass, and the flights and hotels have been booked. But i'm a bit nervous to go. If this was back in my high school years, I'd be extremely ecstatic to go, but now that i'm not into anime/videogames anymore, I'm not that excited. Only reason I decided to go was because I wanted to at least try going to a con once, and because I had nothing else better to do planned on those days anyway.

So can you people alleviate my fears? It's my fault for looking up cringe con videos, and that's all i'm expecting it to be now.
 

GringoJB

Member
Oct 25, 2017
70
USA
Does anyone have (or can anyone find) a certain funny Photoshopped pic from forever ago? It's Cody and Jessica (I think) from Final Fight, and she's saying something like, "I has the pregnants".

I've been searching and apparently I don't know what magical incantation to Google.