Yeah, it seems like a laundry list of excuses. I proposed next sat, as she should she usually has sats off only, but she said she might have to work that day. This week, she has her parents moving in with her, so she has to do lots of cleaning/prep. .-.
I feel like "I have something happening/coming up that I need to clean/pack/move things for" is the most basic excuse. Like I don't think people lie about having to do those things but I definitely feel like they stretch the truth on how much time in their day/days they need to dedicate to it.
This.
I don't think you're off about the stretching bit. One of her prior replies was something along the lines of "I have no life basically, thats why she's on the dating app. " in regards to only having saturdays off. But it sounds like to be she just hasn't been willing to carve out the time for it. Anyway yeah, I'll check in with her next week then drop the "ultimatum" and move on otherwise.
That's tough to read. I remember I matched with a girl once and it was a similar thing except we set up the date pretty quickly. It's just that she never showed up to it lol.
Well I know my attraction for her isn't what it used to be. And yeah it gets to the point where it can be kind of annoying. I wish it was easy to explain, she's very kind and treats me well, however there are so many moments where I just crave a break from her.
Yeah that's kind of what I'm thinking, our apartment lease isn't up for awhile so just breaking up right now might complicate things a bit but regardless I still think I need to tell her how I feel and try to figure something out.
When did you start living together? That's a big commitment for so early on in a relationship and it probably didn't let things develop organically as it forced you together almost 24/7. So I'm not surprised that you've quickly burned through those feelings you had.
I think you are pretty spot on for much of it. We moved in back in April so only a few months, and yeah we are very different when it comes to attention. And yeah I plan on talking to her about this once I get home from work. I'm not going to bullshit her I'm going to be straightforward but also respectful and try to work out something that makes sense.
Sounds like it. How many profiles did you look at? What was it about that singular one that was so interesting?
I don't think it's that glaring a difference, but maybe y'all can be the judge.
Oldest picture from fall 2016:
Newest picture from a few months ago:
For the record, I do use the newer ones first. God it's depressing seeing the weight I've gained after losing so much.
I don't think it's that glaring a difference, but maybe y'all can be the judge.
Oldest picture from fall 2016:
Newest picture from a few months ago:
For the record, I do use the newer ones first. God it's depressing seeing the weight I've gained after losing so much.
I've had this many times, same situation from the start of your story. She just wants a texting buddy but floats the date idea to keep you interested and attentive.
Can you explain why the were bad, I really do not want to screw this up.
Its for the best. Wait a while until your head is right before dating again.
Even kidding, I don't like the wordage here. "special", "unicorn", those are words you should reserve for people you've been dating for a while. Relax your internal filters. One out of hundreds(!) is no way to play the game. You don't need "special" and "beautiful" at this stage, only "I'm attracted and there's no major red flags".
The goal of the first date is to get to know each other. Coffeehouses and dessert places allow you to talk without distraction. Minigolf, while fun, lends itself better to dates where you're comfortable enough to tease each other and touch/hold each other.
Yeah that's my thought process, work out more and figure who I am now before I get back out there. Plus we are still living together so we need to sort that out before I bring any other girl over.
Ok, but ive alrady had a couple of times when ive just sat down and talk with her without distraction for like an hour each time, is that enough to move onto teaseing/touching. I do not want to rush her but i feel like I already have a general sense of who she is. I have adhd so I dont want to seem bored of her b checking my phone or zoning out.
The end game of this if you don't work out how you're supposed to use these apps will be you swearing off them as a waste of time.
If you have to ask if it's "enough to move onto teasing/touching", it isn't. That's what the first date is for...enter into it with a new mindset, with new goals, and explore the chemistry between you two. The topics you discuss will be different, how you discuss the topics will be different.
