I've been away for almost three weeks now. No dating attempts, not working out, just been overseas traveling, exploring, drinking, and thinking. Spent time with my British cousins, explored the Scottish Highlands, went through some insane shit in Barcelona, was at one of the fanciest parties in the heart of Westminster in London, (across the street from the PM's house), got in a fist fight, and wandered drunk through a Barcelona slum with a broken phone and no way home. Guys hit on me, I kissed a hot black girl on a dance floor, I nearly vomited in a shady alley, and I was accosted by drug dealers. Hung out in cool bars with ex-pats and hotties, drank in the bar where Picasso and Hemmingway supposedly got trashed on Absinthe, ventured in places where thousands died in squalor in Edinburgh, got ripped off in London, saw a play, saw a flamenco show, etc etc.
I think if you're in a funk about relationships, time away can help. Sometimes I go through times when I think I'm undateable. As a guy with a beard and turban, maybe my dating pool is smaller, but that's okay, you know. Just means less wasted time for me when I think about it.
Also Barcelona girls are hot.
Anyways, I don't think anyone is fundamentally undateable. Sometimes our standards are too high. Sometimes the girls in our area are stuck up. Sometimes there just isn't chemistry. Sometimes you have something that lowers the number of people in your dating pool from 100 to 2. But that doesn't mean you don't try. You have to try. Sometimes you have to rethink how you do things. If girls in your city suck, find a girl in another city and do the long distance thing. For some people, it does have work. My cousin and his girl are an ocean apart, but they make it work. Their time together is super intense to make up for the times they're apart. Go traveling, do new things, have new experiences, get some perspective, grow, and find your worth outside of what one other person may or may not think of you. Removing yourself from your environment and your standard routine can help a lot with putting things in perspective. You'll think about what is and is not important to you.
Also, get enough sleep and drink lots of water. Fuck, I feel like shit. Also, middle aged British tech execs punch like kitties.