Do you ask for consent prior to sexting?
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I'm happy I'm too old for this shit. If I weren't though, I wouldn't be sending unsolicited dick pics -- wtf is wrong w/ people. This shouldn't be controversial
e: The example text itself is of course not something anyone would say. Just wait for someone to tell you they want it, geeze
e: The example text itself is of course not something anyone would say. Just wait for someone to tell you they want it, geeze
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I don't go in cold, it's usually comes up organically, but I certain don't go;
*record scratch* I've had a sexual thought about you, do you mind if I tell you.
I'm not a serial killer.
*record scratch* I've had a sexual thought about you, do you mind if I tell you.
I'm not a serial killer.
Yeah, if you're in like a relationship and those are the boundaries you're healthy with I think it's fine, I just don't think there would be any objective harm in asking. I don't really "sext" with my wife much but one of the few times I did, her coworkers ended up seeing it because she opened the text when they were around and watching something on her phone, so after that I've just asked to make sure, so there's one area it can have a benefit. I don't think most women are going to think any worse of a guy for just asking, and some of them might really appreciate it!
That's some Hannibal Lecter shit, gotta be a troll.
Of course sending an unsolicited dick pic is not okay, but if someone sent me that text I'd say "oh hell no, time to bail."
Of course sending an unsolicited dick pic is not okay, but if someone sent me that text I'd say "oh hell no, time to bail."
It's "cringy" if you don't know how to communicate with willing partners
That example in the OP def is
I think everyone does ask for consent but in a more nuanced and human way. The text presented ITT is just ridiculous and I honestly believe more women would be weirded out by it than receptive of it. I showed this to my partner and she said "the fuck is this?". Yeah, total mood killer
We usually start with a wink emoji or "i'm thinking about you" or some shit. Consent is already implied, don't have to make it sound like it's an AI.
The woman he sent it to seemed to dig it and not cringe 🤷
I don't see how that is equatable, they would not be involved in any sense beyond imagination.
Yeah, it's consent people find cringy and not the message that sounds like an emotionless machine sent it.
This, the "are you in the right headspace" and the "I'm at the the emotional capacity" things are SO fucking weird. Copy and pasting human interaction is most definitely cringy, especially when it feels like it was written by 100 cooperating PR firms.
That's cool, still cringe to people
I'm sorry that seemed very smart ass, I really meant the "thats cool" line
Like its cool if they are down with it like really
blue means she sent that message
probably as an example, which is what she described it as
Ah sorry about that, is that Iphone? I've never used that. But she's still saying she liked it I guess so that part holds up?
Yeah, I'm confused. That text in and of itself comes off sexual in nature. If the person would be creeped out by you randomly sexting, they're gonna be creeped out by that text.
I think the thread would have been better served with an "it depends" option.
No? You can find a girl that likes a guy wearing jorts and crocs, but it does not mean it isn't cringy.
I've never actually sexted with anyone. I'd feel way too awkward typing that shit out. I have sent a dick pic though, it was requested.
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Or so many people can talk with people who are mutually interested in sexting without needing to sound like an AI
If it wasn't clear, the original sexting tweet is a take on the headspace meme parodying this tweet that went around Holiday weekend:
The problem is that unlike the meme, the sexting tweet is 100% unironic.
The problem is that unlike the meme, the sexting tweet is 100% unironic.
"i would like to make a formal request to express my sexual desires with you. if you would like to decline, type N. if you accept, type Y. thank you for reading this automated message." lol
Well idk, I would def like to see evidence most women would find a dude throwing out a quick consent ask to be cringy. To me it seems more like something men would internalize as cringy based on toxic masculinity/traditional gender roles. I'm sure you could find women on the right who think they should stay home and cook and clean, but most women obviously would think they were nuts.
Sexting doesn't immediately mean picture exchanging does it? I assumed it was just dirty talk over text.
"Have you heard the good news about Sexting?"
Edit- on topic though.
Just start with friendly flirting...then work your way in if you get a similar vibe.
BUT if you were grinding at the club...or making out hard at a lounge...and teasing each other... well, you can skip a few steps if you get the feeling.
Edit- on topic though.
Just start with friendly flirting...then work your way in if you get a similar vibe.
BUT if you were grinding at the club...or making out hard at a lounge...and teasing each other... well, you can skip a few steps if you get the feeling.
Welcome to 2020, meatbags.
Prolly some of the most sexually arousing shit I ever read.
OP quote isn't a "quick consent ask". It's what an AI trying to pass the turing test sounds like.
It's this in text form
Multiple people in this thread already said that consent isn't the problem, the delivery in OP's image is.
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Holy shit, fucking lost it.Welcome to 2020, meatbags.
I saw the "right headspace" thread the other day, and honestly, I'd feel like I have an unhealthy friendship with someone if they have to resort asking stuff that way. Like, just go ahead and say "had a shit day, you got a minute? feel like venting".
Otherwise I'd reply: "I'm not fucking Siri, who the hell is this? Return the goddamn phone you psycho".
Then again, I don't really have any friends to begin with, but if that's how "HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS IN 2020" are, I guess I'm okay being a pitiful loner.
Short version: Making templates for communicating with your supposedly friends / significant others is weird, and I'd definitely feel uncomfortable being treated that way. Instead of thinking you're being considerate before throwing some hard stuff at me, I'd feel like you don't trust me or have a good friendship to begin with.
Receiving that message would creep me the fuck out. What is it about social media, that it makes the most awkward people feel qualified to spout advice?
I feel like the script in the OP could be described as such. It's bad.
I was speaking more toward the question posed by the thread title and poll than that specific example, I wouldn't word it that way either personally but social interactions are tough for some people and I wouldn't really want to judge.OP quote isn't a "quick consent ask". It's what an AI trying to pass the turing test sounds like.
It's this in text form
Multiple people in this thread already said that consent isn't the problem, the delivery in OP's image is.
I feel like the couple times it was initiated in my texts, it kind of organically happened. For example, here's one of the times someone initiated it with me, several years ago (paraphrased to protect the innocent);
Her:
Core i5, GTX 970, 8 GB ram. I can look up the rest of the hardware when I'm not naked in the shower lol
Me:
I kinda want to say "nice", but really I'm scared for your phone lol, I hope you're texting with one of those waterproof ones
Her:
I'm good at showering while keeping everything else dry in the shower. It's too bad, I had the perfect setup for "pics or it didn't happen" :p
Me:
Aww, too bad I missed that opportunity
Her:
*Sends semi-innocent shower pic*
Scandalous!
Me:
Oh, the shower's steam makes it look mysterious! I was actually gonna ask if you've sent steamy pics to people before
Her:
Yeah, definitely. I love the way I look when I'm toweling off
*Sends semi-innocent after shower picture*
Etc... Etc...
In all honesty, I'm not one to send pics like that to people over text, so I did feel a bit weird about it. Though I felt that she initiated it in a way that I personally felt was organic and not robotic, and didn't totally catch me off guard.
Her:
Core i5, GTX 970, 8 GB ram. I can look up the rest of the hardware when I'm not naked in the shower lol
Me:
I kinda want to say "nice", but really I'm scared for your phone lol, I hope you're texting with one of those waterproof ones
Her:
I'm good at showering while keeping everything else dry in the shower. It's too bad, I had the perfect setup for "pics or it didn't happen" :p
Me:
Aww, too bad I missed that opportunity
Her:
*Sends semi-innocent shower pic*
Scandalous!
Me:
Oh, the shower's steam makes it look mysterious! I was actually gonna ask if you've sent steamy pics to people before
Her:
Yeah, definitely. I love the way I look when I'm toweling off
*Sends semi-innocent after shower picture*
Etc... Etc...
In all honesty, I'm not one to send pics like that to people over text, so I did feel a bit weird about it. Though I felt that she initiated it in a way that I personally felt was organic and not robotic, and didn't totally catch me off guard.
She responded back "Ok" and a few seconds later "What are they"
So sexy.