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Had a Friend tell make a comment on my features/looks (sign of her being toxic?)
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You got teased by a friend, and you're an adult, this reaction is a bit much. If you can't handle the slightest tease then I don't know how you get by in life. Only you were there, but from how it reads this was in good fun. If one slight from a friend makes you reconsider their friendship I think there are bigger issues at play.
Op has no game, chick was flirting and you failed the test
should have hit her back with some "eyes too far apart" lines
than seal the deal by pulling her hair and pushing her in the mud
such is life for timothy
should have hit her back with some "eyes too far apart" lines
than seal the deal by pulling her hair and pushing her in the mud
such is life for timothy
I mean, if she said you looked like Gollum, I'd take that as an insult. But the Whos? They were never supposed to be seen as ugly or unsightly. They're delicately small, exceedingly pleasant and harmless in appearance. If anything, she was saying you're "cute." You seem to have some insecurities you need to work on, because you might have ruined a friendship over misinterpreting a roundabout compliment.
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Anyway it's clearly time to cut all ties. Only responsible result.
So you tried to get her to say something not-nice about your looks, and when she finally does it, you're wondering if she's toxic???
I understand that your feelings are probably hurt, like you feel insecure about your looks or whatever. But it's not a big deal. It's just one person's opinion. And in this day and age it's totally possible to transform how you look if you really wanted to, with and without plastic surgery.
Edit: also, I know plenty of guys where their features give off a "monkey" vibe (their facial structure, the amount of hair they have, etc.) but I also find them RIDICULOUSLY hot. It's really easy to compare a human with something non-human. Doesn't mean that no one is gonna find them really attractive
I understand that your feelings are probably hurt, like you feel insecure about your looks or whatever. But it's not a big deal. It's just one person's opinion. And in this day and age it's totally possible to transform how you look if you really wanted to, with and without plastic surgery.
Edit: also, I know plenty of guys where their features give off a "monkey" vibe (their facial structure, the amount of hair they have, etc.) but I also find them RIDICULOUSLY hot. It's really easy to compare a human with something non-human. Doesn't mean that no one is gonna find them really attractive
Need some elaboration on this. How exactly did this go down? Did she say something like "I want to say something about the way you look" but didn't want to elaborate until you prodded her? Regardless, the fact that you had to pull i tout of her over her own protest is enough to say she's not being toxic and this one's partially on you.
Hot looking motherfucker right here yo. Whats your secret? Natural or some some small augmentations by dr. Seuss?
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We kissed on Friday of last week pa. So I'm pretty sure the game is good.
Interesting. Having a hard time seeing it's on me. But I'll let that marinate.
Look, I don't want asshole friends. I've had them before. So I wanted to know to see just how mean she could get, what her intention was etc.
Basically, wanted to test her.
If this is a pattern. She gets cut off.
You're seriously thinking about ending a friendship because said friend drunkenly jokingly said you kind of resembled a Who one time after you prodded her to say it?
...What in the living hell?
...What in the living hell?
OP is gonna DM everyone in this thread tomorrow saying his feeling were hurt.
Sounds like a healthy relationship.
Sounds like a healthy relationship.
This reminds me of when a friend told me she thinks Owen Wilson is one of the top 3 hottest male celebs, and then hours later told me she thinks I look like Owen Wilson. When her bf wasn't around.
What the... You're forcing someone to be mean to you and then getting pissed and blaming THEM when they are? I said it before and I'll say it again. You have insecurity issues.
Which depiction of a who does she mean? The books? The Grinch cartoon? The CGI abomination?
Did she mean your face or your body? Are you perchance 6 inches tall?m
Let's dig deep.
Did she mean your face or your body? Are you perchance 6 inches tall?m
Let's dig deep.
First of all you talked her into it. And second, if we can't poke fun at each other's looks and roast one another to hell and back in good fun then we're probably not good friends (or won't be) to begin with.
One of these days people of Era are going to discover a thesaurus and find an alternate word for "toxic". I feel like i'm at a WHIMIS meeting.
Lmfao
I doubt that day will come
But yet you let her shame you? Idk OP, you seem too much a confident boy to really find that comment to be toxic. I'll give you a hug if still want it, I guess
Look you are sounding a bit cagey. What, specifically, did you say to set it off? If you are testing your "friends" while they are drunk, then getting upset when they say you look like a cute children's character, maybe do them a courtesy and test yourself first. My word.
She's a human being, not a lab rat. If you were my friend and I figured out that you were putting me through some worthiness test, I'd cut you off myself.
Straight up bro, you kinda seem like the asshole here.
You asked her. She didn't want to answer. You asked again and she said something funny (=banter between friends).
With which you kinda agree?
But hold up, apparently that was some crazy test from your part. And she is the toxic person?
If I were her I would cut you off
Yeh let it marinate for a bit :p
It's on you to an extent because you admittedly pushed her to elaborate when she said she didn't want to. That's why I'm curious to know what she originally said exactly. If she said something like "I want to say something bad about the way you look but I shouldn't" I wouldn't begrudge you for wanting elaboration, and that does come off as dickish on her part for saying out of the blue, but it's on you for asking her to go further when she didn't want to. Especially if that's the part you're specifically hurt by. If she said something more innocuous like "There's something I want to say but I shouldn't" and you pressed her further and was blind sided by a negative comment, that's another story and more on her, but still a little on you because she warned you she didn't want to elaborate.
Either way, unless this is a repeat offense of hers, I wouldn't label her toxic. At worst, she's just kind of a dick when she's drunk assuming the first scenario is how things started.
EDIT: Actually the more I think about it even scenario 2 doesn't really put it more on her. You pressed for elaboration and got it. The only difference is if she was a dick up front or tried to spare your feelings after saying something she realized she shouldn't have brought up.
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Yeah. Just take it in stride, dude. This is not one of those instances of toxicity...
OP is bragging about kissing a girl... while making a thread because he coaxed her into saying something she didn't want to, asking if he should end the friendship because she is "toxic"
I sense some... insecurities
I sense some... insecurities
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