I live in Germany and none of my friends ever made a homophobic joke. Maybe I just dont understand what you mean. Can you give me an example?Lol is this one of those racisms doesn't exist in Europe post?
I live in Germany and none of my friends ever made a homophobic joke. Maybe I just dont understand what you mean. Can you give me an example?Lol is this one of those racisms doesn't exist in Europe post?
God this is the worse, I literally had a straight guy ask me to "chill" at his place for the weekend because his roommate was gone, right after coming out to him. We're good friends not tho lol.On the flip side... can straight guys also stop play flirting? That shit ain't cute.
I can't remember the last time a friend of mine made a gay joke. Either I'm lucky, or I'm not considering something they're (or I'm?!) saying as homophobic.
Are they making a point of saying things in front of you?
IDC about my look, obviously I'm not attracted to all men. Read what Lord of Ostia said and you'll understand.
I think that poster is saying that just because a gay man finds you attractive doesn't mean he's going to sexually harass you. Since straight men sometimes conceive of gay men as sexually harassing boogeymen and as flirtation from a gay man as emasculating.
Straight men shouldn't assume that gay men are going to sexually harass them, but they also shouldnt lose their shit if a gay dude hits on them.
I think the point is more that being attracted to someone doesn't mean you're going to hit on them.Are you attracted to every single man that you see?
Not a good look to go against the point of what I'm tryna say, i don't know if you understood.
I think the point is more that being attracted to someone doesn't mean you're going to hit on them.
While acknowledging that some men clearly have ego inflation issues if they think every gay man would be attracted to them lol.
Absence of evidence is not evidence of absence. If people are saying it was happening, it was happening.
One of my friends, ever since joining the military, has started to act like this and it's making me distance myself from him. He thinks all gay guys want to convert him. He's also the type of toxic person who says "no homo" after everything because he's so scared of being seen as gay.
Outside of that, I hear gay jokes all the time at college and it's sad. Prison rape jokes are common. It's disgusting.
Yeah I get what you are saying and you are right, but it's also important to point out to straight men that a gay man politely hitting on you isn't the end of the world as well. Obviously you know this, but there are multiple facets to this issue and someone may think "alright, gay dudes don't all want my dick" but still get offended and angry when a gay dude does hit on them.The point of what I was saying is regarding the level of arrogance and the conceited mind state that straight men have to think they're some sort of desirable target for gay men. Hence, this attitude leading into their "gay fear" complex. Im pointing out how straight guys remove a gay man's autonomy in attraction as if they are attracted to gender solely and not the wealth of categories involved in choosing a mate.
We agree it seems but i just found it irrelevant to my point entirely wether if gay men are attracted to straight men in general.
I honestly haven't heard the pause one. No homo has been a thing for like 15 years.No homo and pause have to be the most annoying "jokes" to ever exist. I used to work in an office and people would be having serious conversations and throw that in there like it was completely normal.
It's the same exact joke, just depends on what part of the country you're in. Like this...I honestly haven't heard the pause one. No homo has been a thing for like 15 years.
What about joking about being gay? Anyone want to share their opinions on that? I never really saw that as being derogatory to lgbtq but would that be offensive if you heard someone doing that?
It's the same exact joke, just depends on what part of the country you're in. Like this...
There is nothing wrong with gay people joking about the experience of being gay.What about joking about being gay? Like a joke that is the opposite of homophobic. Anyone want to share their opinions on that? I never really saw that as being derogatory to lgbtq but would that be offensive if you heard someone doing that? I guess it's not really different wether you say something stupid like "no homo" or not, right?
This annoys me so much.Recently had to tell off someone I've known for years because they pulled the ol' "They can be gay if they want, I just wish they didn't push it in my face or try and take over my video games!"
Haven't seen or talked to him since, and I don't regret it in the least. (added bonus: Just minutes before hand he was complaining about how they 'downgraded Tifa's tits', but the 2 seconds that a male character mentions their "husband" it's suddenly too much to enjoy their games anymore!)
On the flip side... can straight guys also stop play flirting? That shit ain't cute.
God this is the worse, I literally had a straight guy ask me to "chill" at his place for the weekend because his roommate was gone, right after coming out to him. We're good friends not tho lol.
Oh, I had a straight friend who play-flirted a lot
Ended up being a bit of an asshole who'd somehow always end up arguing against LGBTQ issues when they came up in group chat
In my anecdotal experience THIS is far more prevalent. Not to undermine the OP's issue. I know one person who calls others "gay," but no one even reacts to it. He also makes "your mother" jokes fairly regularly and rocks the same haircut he did in the 90s.same with trans jokes
cis people are so bad at trans jokes i swear
lmaoNot a good look to go against the point of what I'm tryna say, i don't know if you understood.
This is not worthwhile nuance in this context.Ime it's a little more complicated than that. It's theoretically possible that a straight guy might tell a funny and chill gay joke (would probably require some intimate knowledge of our culture though), but usually it's like 'why the fuck did you have to bring that up?' because now I have to try to get a read on them and whether they're really chill with me just existing or not. And it can go to some weird places, when you think of all the potential reasons that someone might be compelled to bring the topic up...
So it's often homophobic, often not necessarily so, but in ether case it's enough of an annoying burden just to be made to tell one from the other all the time. Like you wouldn't make a controversial joke to someone you just met (I'd hope), so spare me, that kind of thing. But that's just ime.
I can relate as a straight dude because I keep meeting men who do it and then have to have the internal battle on whether to make things awkward or not and tell them off.As a straight dude I can't relate at all but I'm sorry you have to deal with that. Those people aren't men, they're children who have never grown up.
I mean I played "gay chicken" all the time, but that was my way of kinda stepping through the water and letting myself get comfortable before I came out as bi. Ultimately I think what's important is intent, I cant speak for everyone on that but it's just a major part of my personality. I'm playful flirty with men and to die that down feels like a limit on my personality, not saying I'm necessarily proud of it but it's something I actively do naturally. Now I know we are talking about stright men here but.... if you didnt know before I came out you might have a major problem with me, or hell you might have a problem with it now.What about joking about being gay? Like a joke that is the opposite of homophobic. Anyone want to share their opinions on that? I never really saw that as being derogatory to lgbtq but would that be offensive if you heard someone doing that? I guess it's not really different wether you say something stupid like "no homo" or not, right?
It shouldn't be if you've experienced what OP is talking about.
I would like to know that too.So... what jokes specifically is OP talking about here? Cus this thread seems to be all over the place.
I'm a hetero and my friends (all hetero) and I all jokingly flirt with each other. Is this what we're talking about? Or is it the pause & no homos? I'm just confused by this thread.
It's homophobic, plain and simple. We don't all make gay jokes.And it's affecting my ability to befriend hetero men.
Of all the things to try and be funny with why is male sexuality still targeted so much? I'm tired of telling them, "hey um, that's not right or funny."
I can't help but feel this is to outman other men or mask some blatant insecurity. Can anyone else relate? /Rant
It shouldn't be if you've experienced what OP is talking about.
That does sound like privilege. Most people making those are coming from a place of ignorance at best and homophobia at worst.Hm, I suppose. Maybe I'm a snobby elitist or something but I think I've had the privilege to mostly avoid mouth breathers since high school, so I guess my memory of what the OP is talking about might be a little hazy. But I feel like even in high school it was usually more the 'wink wink nudge nudge' kind of thing than anything overtly or transparently homophobic. But I was also sort of a hipster in high school and idk not the most homophobic demo I guess.
How is it a critique of homophobia? I've always seen it as a less funny variant of "that's what she said," which is itself pretty hit or miss.The whole "no homo" thing perpetually fascinates me because it is often both homophobic and a yet also a critique of homophobia at the same time
It's bizarre