It's not as simple as "knowing rape is wrong". The pernicious thing about rape culture is that literally everyone knows rape is wrong, even rapists, and yet they still rape:Immigrant's aren't stupid troglodytes who need a western person to tell them that rape isn't that cool of a thing. This isn't the first time this argument popped up in this thread and it's infuriating. They're normal people that know what's wrong and what's not. I'm sorry to go off on you but damn, just think about that a bit. This is some vile racist shit.
https://www.nytimes.com/2017/10/30/health/men-rape-sexual-assault.html
Heavy drinking, perceived pressure to have sex, a belief in "rape myths" — such as the idea that no means yes — are all risk factors among men who have committed sexual assault. A peer group that uses hostile language to describe women is another one.
Most subjects in these studies freely acknowledge nonconsensual sex — but that does not mean they consider it real rape. Researchers encounter this contradiction again and again.
Asked "if they had penetrated against their consent," said Dr. Koss, the subject will say yes. Asked if he did "something like rape," the answer is almost always no.
https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/qkg7y7/why-so-many-rapists-dont-realize-theyre-rapistsStudies of incarcerated rapists — even men who admit to keeping sex slaves in conflict zones — find a similar disconnect. It's not that they deny sexual assault happens; it's just that the crime is committed by the monster over there.
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news...ed-rapists-in-india-this-is-what-she-learned/Instead, he blamed his actions on a culture of "binge drinking and sexual promiscuity," framing what took place that night as a destructive consequence of his own excessive alcohol consumption, rather than a sexual assault he had perpetrated. "In no way was I trying to rape anyone, in no way was I trying to harm anyone, and in no way was I trying to take advantage of anyone," he said.
Most of the men she met there were uneducated, only a handful had graduated high school. Many were third- or fourth-grade dropouts. "When I went to research, I was convinced these men are monsters. But when you talk to them, you realize these are not extraordinary men, they are really ordinary. What they've done is because of upbringing and thought process."
Pandey said that hearing some of the rapists talk reminded her of commonly held beliefs that were often parroted even in her own household. "After you speak to [the rapists], it shocks you — these men have the power to make you feel sorry for them. As a woman that's not how you expect to feel. I would almost forget that these men have been convicted of raping a woman. In my experience a lot of these men don't realize that what they've done is rape. They don't understand what consent is."
In India, social attitudes are highly conservative. Sex education is left out of most school curriculums; legislators feel such topics could "corrupt" youth and offend traditional values. "Parents won't even say the words like penis, vagina, rape or sex. If they can't get over that, how can they educate young boys?" Pandey asked.
In the interviews, many men made excuses or gave justifications for their actions. Many denied rape happened at all. "There were only three or four who said we are repenting. Others had found a way to put their actions into some justification, neutralize, or blame action onto the victim."
Rape culture is complicated. Rapists may not fully understand consent, they may have regressive views on women (caused by ignorance, religion, family/upbringing or other factors) which makes them think that what they do isn't rape, or they may victim-blame their victims as "asking for it, so it wasn't really rape", etc. Another example of how more progressive views about women and more modern mentalities have reduced rape, is that in many countries, marital rape is now illegal, but it wasn't always (in some parts of the world it's not even illegal). Some men have very regressive views about women and think of them as property, rather than individual human beings, and thus don't think their consent matters, or think it's only rape if done it to another man's wife (because they assaulted/defiled the other man's "property"). This was an incredibly common belief until the 20th century.
It is actually more dangerous to think that rapists are just these soulless, psychopathic rabid animals, because that denies the reality of rape culture, that these men are... really quite "ordinary" for the most part, as that Indian researcher said. It's an uncomfortable reality, but we'll hardly progress until we acknowledge the role rape culture plays in all of this and how it manifests itself in various ways across the globe.
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