Right thinking of trans people as a fetish to be kept as just that implies something more imo.
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Laverne Cox: Straight Men Who Sleep With Trans Women But Not Date Them Are Insecure AF
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Right thinking of trans people as a fetish to be kept as just that implies something more imo.
Care to explain how? If you find a person attractive and the SOLE factor that makes you unattracted to them is them being trans, how is that not transphobic? Because I'm trans, and I feel that it is. As do many other trans people that I know. What reasoning do you have that beats all of us out?
They weren't born a woman. They were assigned that gender at birth.
Should preferences be considered bigotry? That sets a really strange precedent.
I don't think it'd be fair to call a heterosexual person a homophobe for not wanting to have sex with the same sex. I've seen that argument and I've always wondered if they were joking.
I feel like you don't? Sure you're free to date who you want, literally no one will stop you. But you won't date someone because he is a transman, which is a core part of his identity.
You reduce him to a 'sextoy' because you would have sex with a transman because of his dick (or vice versa for others) but not date them because they are transmen. And this applies to all transmen.
As long as you're upfront about not dating them I guess...
How is a straight man not wanting to sleep with a gay man comparable at all in this situation that involves a man and a woman?
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They are both preferences.
Telling trans people to read up, fucking lol
The *reason* for the sudden change in attraction is why it's transphobic.
Preferences can be prejudiced.
You are free to date accordingly
You are not free to let everyone know and not be judged, criticized or have them be deemed in fact prejudiced
Shouldn't imply someone isn't arguing in good faith just because you don't agree with what they're saying.
They are? The core of it is what a person personally finds attractive.
Not wanting to date somebody is not causing harm or a form of hatred.
It was wrong of me to include a personal anecdote.
You responded to a post about me saying that someone's entire reason for not finding someone attractive that they once found attractive is them being trans. You compared that to a straight guy not wanting to date a gay guy. How is that in any way in good faith?
Keep it to yourself.
Millions of ways to not date trans people without openly announcing here or anywhere that you won't
Depends on the reason for not wanting to date them, hatred can absolutely be a part of it
Is it really a sextoy when it's two consenting adults knowing where the stakes are? Because that's just odd to me. I don't see how consensual casual sex is a sextoy.
Yes I have issues with people who string anyone along for sex while not being upfront about no dating. It's a shitty thing to do.(Also it backfires so often it's not worth it).
That's true but that block is just there for me.
That's fair. That said how common is the whole sleep with won't date thing as a group?
You should really examine why you have that block. Could be very enlightening for you.
Trans people are now all experts on sexuality and the role of the biological imperative in human attraction?
Fucking lol.
Hey! Hey! Why do you never respond to me when I respond to you? Where's your reasoning at? I know you get little alerts every time
Perhaps I have a warped view on this but I see these both as preferences. At the end of the day, that's what it amounts to.
I'm not familiar with the dating scene but why should somebody keep it to themselves on a dating app? It saves the time of both trans people and keeps trans people away from people they may consider bigots.
I already know why but I know I have never treated anyone without the respect they've given me so I have no reason to change my personal preferences for who I date and neither would I ever believe anyone should change theirs because I don't agree with it.
Plus if anything they dodged a bullet with my crazy ass.
Heh, that's a fun facet of the alert feature I didn't think about!
you just fuck who you wanna just fuck.
You date who you wanna date.
I'ts nothing new and it's for sure not exclusively in regards to trans people lol.
I have my "just fuck" types and my "try to date" types. You know, like actual ordinary people
You're neither? then feel free to stfu
You date who you wanna date.
I'ts nothing new and it's for sure not exclusively in regards to trans people lol.
I have my "just fuck" types and my "try to date" types. You know, like actual ordinary people
You're neither? then feel free to stfu
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