So riddle me this: What the fuck goes trough a non parents head when they enter a parenting thread to give advice to actual parents?
I am 43 years old. I have tons of nephews and nieces and most all of my friends have kids. I just could not have kids because of biological reasons.
You act is if being a parent directly is the only parameter for knowing what it means to raise a decent human being and possibly how to do so. It is not.
In fact I would argue that for people in my specific position, being an observer of multiple parenting styles, I am able to see what is effective and what is not. I have the ability to not get attached to the fact I am a parent, be objective, and just see what parenting styles seem to work and those that do not.
And just a small example. We watch my nephew often. His parents always say how they are shocked how well behaved he is once he comes back from our place. I want to tell them there is no mystery about it, we just do not let him walk all over us and he gets his shit together real quick. However I keep my mouth shut to keep the family peace. But I know what their kid needs and have implemented it myself when we are responsible for his well being. I am not even mean about it or need much displicine at all. I actually always try speaking to him as real and as straight as possible while keeping in mind he is a kid. And guess what? Uncle Larry is his favorite uncle by far. It is a running joke with the family. However since I am not a parent how could I possibly know what is good for him or any other kid for that matter is your take?
Finally what is the saying? It takes a village? So according to you, that village can only be other parents to raise the kid properly? That I personally believe is absolute nonsense, but hey, we are all entitled to our opinions.