I agree, but it's not about pampering or not pampering. I think most of obesity is caused by ignorance and bad habits rather than sheer choice. We need to get better at pointing out where these people are going wrong and showing them the proper way to be healthy. A large problem is that right now people are just pointing at the problem and blaming it on the person rather than actually trying to properly inform them.You can tell people they look super beautiful and they should accept themselves, but you'll be an accomplice to their potential death. Obesity, as opposed to things like height, muscle mass, or facial features, is not a physical trait, but instead a disease that comes as a result of poor choices, especially when it comes to eating habits.
Normalizing obesity is another way of normalizing self harm. Just as we try to help people who, for example, cut their wrists and thighs instead of providing them with clothes with Velcro patches for easy access to the mentioned areas, we should make an effort to help fat and obese people, instead of pampering them and even going as far as grouping them with people with physical disabilities like missing limbs and other.
The fact obesity has become the norm in some countries doesn't mean the condition is any less dangerous.
If you ask an obese person what healthy habits look like, they will most likely have no clue. They simply lack a point of reference.