My wife is preggers! With our first kiddo. A wee bit freaked out. Time to read all the pregnancy books. I was looking for a pregnancy ot or something but there doesn't appear to be one. Ah well.
I know exactly how this feels man. It happened to us around that time, too. It was downright deflating. We had already thought of names and my wife even bought maternity clothes. It's hard for a little while, but don't let it get to you. Don't start thinking about fate and shit like that. Somewhere between 10 and 20 percent of all pregnancies end in miscarriage and somewhere around 80% of those happen before 12 weeks. What happened to your wife is completely normal. It's horrible we don't seem to talk about this largely shared but secret experience, but know that there are and were a lot of people in that same boat. As you said, your family and friends pop out kid after kid seemingly without issue. The truth is there are a lot of issues happening, they just don't get shared to facebook or even talked about very much in private settings.
We got back on the horse, as it were, and my wife is now 27 weeks pregnant with everything looking really good.
My condolences, Nephtes .I know there are no words, but I hope you will feel better eventually.
My condolences. It's hardly comforting that it's very common. Remember to talk about it. Don't shy away from taking the time to process this so you can move on and try again. Don't give up.
If I can ask, how long did you wait to "get back on the horse"? The baby didn't exactly leave on its own and required medical attention to extract... So the doctor is telling us 2 cycles, but damn if we're not both chomping at the bit to try again. We're not exactly young and it took us over a year to conceive the first time... Every day that goes by feels like an eternity of misery when we were literally on emotional highs for the last two months.
So I'm now a Father our little girl decided she wanted to come out 7 Weeks early... She's well for her age and luckely is big for W33. Now I'm scrambling a bit to get everything ready, even though I probably don't need to hurry to much since, she will need some time in the hospital.
I'm just looking into babyphones, and I'm really not sure for what to go, I'm thinking we don't need one with a cam, and just audio would be enough..
And congrats Tranq
I feel similarly. My dad passed away when I was a baby, and I wouldn't want my son to grow up without his father like I did.Has anyone else gotten oddly aware of their health after having a kid? I'm not sure if I'm being weird or not.
Basically, having a kid has made me much more aware of my safety and mortality. I've realized is that the worst thing I could do (not literally, but you know what I mean) to my kid is not be there for him as he grows up. If I follow that thought, then me doing anything dangerous or unhealthy is, by extension, indirectly harmful, or at least irresponsible, to my kid because it increases the likelihood of him losing his father early. That means that my health is a responsibility that doesn't just need to be kept for my sake anymore, but also for my kid's sake. It's a much bigger mental burden than when it's just me.
Am I being weird or morbid?
Has anyone else gotten oddly aware of their health after having a kid? I'm not sure if I'm being weird or not.
Basically, having a kid has made me much more aware of my safety and mortality. I've realized is that the worst thing I could do (not literally, but you know what I mean) to my kid is not be there for him as he grows up. If I follow that thought, then me doing anything dangerous or unhealthy is, by extension, indirectly harmful, or at least irresponsible, to my kid because it increases the likelihood of him losing his father early. That means that my health is a responsibility that doesn't just need to be kept for my sake anymore, but also for my kid's sake. It's a much bigger mental burden than when it's just me.
Am I being weird or morbid?
At what age can I let my 11 month old bite the jalapeños she's intent on ripping off the plant in our house? In my mind this would discourage such behaviour but I am also a little terrified of the hurty-burny mouth pain and the hurty-burnt diarrhea, both of which will become my problem.
She seems to like curry just fine so it may backfire but the peppers are hotter.
She seems to like curry just fine so it may backfire but the peppers are hotter.
Hey all! It's been a while and a bit of a roller coaster for the first year of my daughters life but she turned 1 last week and it's been pretty magical. She had a little bit of chocolate ice cream cake, literally 1/8th of a spoon, and once she got on the floor she started walking across the floor with a confidence I've never seen before. Now she walks to everything. It's been wild.
Now while that's all well and good, she has been going into a phase I'm having a hard time dealing with, or rather my wife is. I work 4 days a week and watch my daughter 1 day of the weekday. My wife used to work 5 days a week at home and it was super stressful on her. At this stage to alleviate a lot of that stress, she's gone part time and only goes into the office 2 days a week and the rest of the days is on mom duty. My daughter and her have a good time, as good as can be with a teething toddler, but she's gotten into a phase when when I come home she makes a bee line for me. Cute, but if I ever leave the room to say leave the bathroom. She throws a fit. My wife tries to console her but she's not having it. I leave for work now, she goes ballistic. I go to the gym, the store, etc etc. The same. We were at a family bbq for Father's Day and the only times she's be calm and okay with my wife is if she doesn't see me. As soon as she spots me, shes climbing out of my wife's arms.
She does somewhat similar to my wife's mother as well. Though not to the degree she does it with me. It's really starting to fuck with my wife and make her wonder if all the stress they went through together while she was raising her and working at home had some type of effect on their relationship. We both agree that she's just in a phase, it that doesn't make her feel any better currently and I'm having a rough time figuring out how to handle it. Pep talks to assure her our daughter loves her to bits have lost their luster.
Anyone experience similar?
I have no idea what to do with my 5 y/o. He's such a good kid, but holy hell does he not listen. We'll ask him to do something two, three, four times before resorting to yelling, and then maybe he'll do what's asked of him.
I have a habit of paying my kids to eat spicy foods, mostly salsas and kimchi. It's both amusingly hilarious as well as seems to egg them on. Youngest has probably been doing it since she was 7? We'll see if it backfires at some point and I see them on some chili-eating YT channel, throwing up in pain. Builds character!
What do you do if your kid refuses to eat something? Our kid likes some solids and will eat them just fine, but has a growing list of foods that he refuses. Basically we're having trouble getting him to warm up to savoury foods instead of sweet ones (like fruits and sweet potatoes).
Obviously we don't want to force him to eat, but we don't want him to grow into a picky eater either.
Yeah, he's less than a year old.
So if he refuses, just let it go and move on even if he eats less that meal as a result?
My perfect life of two boys nursing/eating well and sleeping well came to an abrupt end last week.
My oldest (3 in August) started this thing where he wakes up at midnight/2 AM repeatedly and cries or comes into our room wanting songs, then after getting or not getting them, says "I'm not tired!" or "There's something scary" in places he can't even see and won't go to bed. I just got uninterrupted sleep for the first time in over a week last night, and that's because I was on business travel.
Meanwhile, my wife tells me that our 8 month old son has been somewhat scared off nursing. He won't latch well, and she's had to feed him a bottle at least once today (will probably go twice). Looks like we'll be going to formula, which is fine. We've been living within our means and can spend the money needed for formula until he gets to 12 months.
It's been a LONG time since I've felt this level of fatigue, to be honest, so I thought I'd commiserate with you all. I still love being a dad and our boys are really quite good, but it's been a pretty sudden shock to have both things hit at once, so it's draining.
Big kudos to all of you who have been going through this kind of life for months and have stuck it out with a positive attitude. You're the real MVP.
Basically we're having trouble getting him to warm up to savoury foods instead of sweet ones (like fruits and sweet potatoes).
Welp, my sister's water just broke at 33 weeks, and our flight to her for the family reunion is tomorrow. Wahey?
Twins on the way! Horrified but excited, boy/girl combo so that's neat. I will be picking everyone's brain as I'm new to this :)
You got what many couples are looking for long-term on the first try, congrats! Hope your government has some decent supports for this kind of situation or that you're well off, I would imagine twins to be quite a financial shock.