Holy shit, that is awful. I am glad that never happened to me using shared machines in college.I had over 10 UTIs in 7 months once... we eventually figured out the source. It's really gross, so I'm going to put it in a spoiler tag.
So obviously I kept going back again and again to the doctor, and the results always came back the same. UTI from the same bacteria.
We went through all of the usual stuff where the doctor assumes you are a completely disgusting moron until finally the doctor realized that I know not to wipe poop into my vagina (obvs).
After the 5th month, the doctor said, "Do you have shared laundry?"
Well, this was in San Francisco so yeah, we did.
Doctor: "I think they aren't getting the water hot enough or sterilizing the machines and that's what's causing you to get these frequent UTIs."
Of course my husband didn't believe it, thought that was absurd and impossible, the doctor's an idiot, and so on.
UNTIL...
a month later I got a terrible rash on my boobs that wouldn't go away with over the counter creams, so back to the doctor I went. This whole time I was have non-stop UTIs. I would get it, take the week of antibiotics, have one or two days of relief and then get another UTI.
Anyway, the doctor revealed to me that
I HAD ATHLETE'S FOOT ON MY BOOBS!!!!
From the fucking shared laundry.
I had been repeatedly and endlessly exposed to god-knows-what from washing my bras and underwear in these shared laundry machines (which we had to PAY TO USE, FOR FUCK'S SAKE), which is what was giving me the UTIs.
After getting FUCKING ATHLETE'S FOOT ON MY BOOBS my husband finally believed it was the laundry facilities that were causing the UTI problem.
The only solution was to move to a different place and by that time my endless rounds of UTIs had traveled upwards and upgraded to a kidney infection. Which in retrospect was a good thing because they used much stronger drugs to get rid of the kidney infection, it finally went away and my UTIs never returned.
The end.
Man, and I thought my 2 in a month was bad.
Being a woman is fucking terrible sometimes. Though my husband got a bad uti once somehow. That was interesting.
I had over 10 UTIs in 7 months once... we eventually figured out the source. It's really gross, so I'm going to put it in a spoiler tag.
So obviously I kept going back again and again to the doctor, and the results always came back the same. UTI from the same bacteria.
We went through all of the usual stuff where the doctor assumes you are a completely disgusting moron until finally the doctor realized that I know not to wipe poop into my vagina (obvs).
After the 5th month, the doctor said, "Do you have shared laundry?"
Well, this was in San Francisco so yeah, we did.
Doctor: "I think they aren't getting the water hot enough or sterilizing the machines and that's what's causing you to get these frequent UTIs."
Of course my husband didn't believe it, thought that was absurd and impossible, the doctor's an idiot, and so on.
UNTIL...
a month later I got a terrible rash on my boobs that wouldn't go away with over the counter creams, so back to the doctor I went. This whole time I was have non-stop UTIs. I would get it, take the week of antibiotics, have one or two days of relief and then get another UTI.
Anyway, the doctor revealed to me that
I HAD ATHLETE'S FOOT ON MY BOOBS!!!!
From the fucking shared laundry.
I had been repeatedly and endlessly exposed to god-knows-what from washing my bras and underwear in these shared laundry machines (which we had to PAY TO USE, FOR FUCK'S SAKE), which is what was giving me the UTIs.
After getting FUCKING ATHLETE'S FOOT ON MY BOOBS my husband finally believed it was the laundry facilities that were causing the UTI problem.
The only solution was to move to a different place and by that time my endless rounds of UTIs had traveled upwards and upgraded to a kidney infection. Which in retrospect was a good thing because they used much stronger drugs to get rid of the kidney infection, it finally went away and my UTIs never returned.
The end.
It hasn't been a very pleasant for fun 10 weeks to say the least, I just hope when I see my doctor tomorrow and most likely get diagnosed with yet another that a long term fix can be found as ugh... >_<
Oh gosh I'm sorry you had to go through that, glad it was eventually resolved in the end though. Didn't know about the shared laundry stuff so I will keep that noted. I live on my own but my mother still helps with my laundry as it helps to save me a little bit as I live in a high rise and dont have my own washer/drier so it saves me from having to go to the laundromat. I do believe she throws al my clothes and such in the washer with her/my younger sisters clothes when she does loads though so not sure if that could be a contributor.
Can we please not post shock horror fiction in this thread plz
Oh gosh I'm sorry you had to go through that, glad it was eventually resolved in the end though. Didn't know about the shared laundry stuff so I will keep that noted. I live on my own but my mother still helps with my laundry as it helps to save me a little bit as I live in a high rise and dont have my own washer/drier so it saves me from having to go to the laundromat. I do believe she throws al my clothes and such in the washer with her/my younger sisters clothes when she does loads though so not sure if that could be a contributor.
Looking for a bit of advice, regarding friendship stuff.
To preface this I do have anxiety, so that's probably the only reason I'm even caring. I have a group of old friends, we've all moved apart but stay active on messenger programs. However I always feel like my posts on group chats are always ignored. They know I'm having issues, and they've all called me weird on many occasions in person and online. My idiot brain wants to just ragequit the chats, but my logical mind knows that everyone is probably just busy.
But I can't help but think I just really don't fit in, that they really do think I'm the weirdo of the group. I've confronted them about feeling left out, but I don't really think they have the time to care. Should I just focus on more friendships in person? The last year since I've gotten married have not been good for me socially, so I'm worried about losing more friends.
If you think they aren't treating you right, then the actual "reality" of the situation doesn't matter. It doesn't matter if you have anxiety, the fact that you even think it could factor in is just another symptom of your anxiety. The simple fact is that you feel you aren't getting what you need from these friends. It doesn't make anybody a bad person (not you or any of them), it's just how you feel.
I believe that for all relationships you either grow together or you grow apart. Obviously this group is growing apart due to each individual's life circumstances, and that's just a natural part of life.
I've moved all over the place in the last 20 years. Every few years was a new city (for work reasons). I've only kept in touch with 1-2 people from each city, and even then it's more we chat every few months, just to show we care about each other. Everyone else I was friends with were all good people, but the reality is if you don't have near constant contact the bond fades. It's life. But even the people I do keep in contact with are no longer my main "support group" because it would be unreasonable of me to expect that of them, due to geography if nothing else.
I have cultivated an "easy come, easy go" attitude towards friendships. I am more than willing to do activities, hang out, have dinner together with most people but I've accepted that the only constant is change. The people who are in my life now I appreciate but I accept that they probably won't be in my life forever.
I think the core issue is you know you are drifting apart but you're trying to hold on, resisting change.
TL,DR: Focus on finding new friends in your current location. I know it's much harder as an adult. And the truth is, you can find friends online now from shared hobbies. Social media has made this much easier, and in a way these friendships are easier to maintain because they are portable friendships, not based on proximity (by proximity I mean you making a friend by having worked together or went to the same gym or went to college together, etc).
Finally, if any of my friends called me a weirdo in a way that was not obviously in a loving, joking manner I would look them in the eye and say in a neutral tone, "Why do you feel justified in treating me this way?" and then bounce. But I freely admit that the amount of people I'm willing to take crap from is a very, very small list. I enjoy a spirited debate among friends and family but if someone's trying to demean or degrade me I shut that down right away.
Love yourself. Respect yourself. You deserve better.
Looking for a bit of advice, regarding friendship stuff.
To preface this I do have anxiety, so that's probably the only reason I'm even caring. I have a group of old friends, we've all moved apart but stay active on messenger programs. However I always feel like my posts on group chats are always ignored. They know I'm having issues, and they've all called me weird on many occasions in person and online. My idiot brain wants to just ragequit the chats, but my logical mind knows that everyone is probably just busy.
But I can't help but think I just really don't fit in, that they really do think I'm the weirdo of the group. I've confronted them about feeling left out, but I don't really think they have the time to care. Should I just focus on more friendships in person? The last year since I've gotten married have not been good for me socially, so I'm worried about losing more friends.
yeah, i agree with pixelparty — it doesn't matter if your feelings are 'distorted' or not, your feelings are still valid. one of the terrible things anxiety does is put you in a death spiral. you worry that you're doing something wrong, then you worry that you're worrying too much about something stupid, and that's weird, stop being weird, no one will like you if you're like that, and it just goes on, and on, and on. one of the kindest things you can do for yourself is say: it's ok to worry. it's ok to feel that way! everyone feels that way sometimes.
anyway, the fact that your friends brushed you off for confronting them speaks volumes about where your friendship is going. that doesn't make them bad people, mind, but it doesn't paint them as very good friends. it might be time to move on. it hurts, i know, to accept that your friends are drifting away from you, but even our best friends are rarely our friends forever. i learned that the hard way when, at my darkest hour, my 'best' friend went away to thailand for a year, then hurried her way to cornell the moment she came back, leaving me in the dust. that cut me deep, but it also taught me an important lesson about the fragility of friendship.
you don't have to cut them out of your life, just rely on them a little less. i think it'd be a great idea to get involved in your new community. what do you like to do? whatever it is, there's bound to be a club for it on facebook, haha. maybe there's some fun couple stuff you could do with your partner, meet some other married folks? marriage can be tough on friendships. your whole outlook on life changes and your single friends might not really 'get it'. meeting other married couples might help you find more like-minded friends.
either way, i wish you lots of luck! anxiety is a real demon. i feel like i fight it everyday. just remember not to be too hard on yourself. your anxiety does enough of that for you, haha.
Hey all, I have a bra question for my wife? It's a little personal due to health reasons, and I'm just dropping this before I head off to the night. I'd really appreciate some PMs to keep personal info to a minimum. Multiple opinions/options are super welcome.
The NON personal version is basically, we're looking for bras that don't have such rough/stiff wiring, but still provide support, that aren't push-ups? She's had a few pairs, but they've gotten old, and we've had a hell of a time finding proper replacements. Affordable would be nice to (I know). Thanks, all
It's so hot right now that it is impossible to be comfortable. 94 degrees out here!
Plz ladies advice on how to stay cool.
I went to an early movie to escape it but that was a bad idea. I'm wearing shorts and my legs were sticking to the leather seats. Ughhh
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Well, I used to live in SoCal with 115 F heat waves so...It's so hot right now that it is impossible to be comfortable. 94 degrees out here!
Plz ladies advice on how to stay cool.
I went to an early movie to escape it but that was a bad idea. I'm wearing shorts and my legs were sticking to the leather seats. Ughhh
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Very worth it, though I used it mostly in the winter and spring.On the topic of harsh climates, does anyone knows if humidifiers are any good?
This year we are experiencing very low humidity levels already (under 35%), and the dry season didn't even begin. I read some things it's great for the skin and for the respiratory tract, but I'm still wondering if its worth it.
I had one when I was younger and it was helpful with my allergy/asthma issues.On the topic of harsh climates, does anyone knows if humidifiers are any good?
This year we are experiencing very low humidity levels already (under 35%), and the dry season didn't even begin. I read some things it's great for the skin and for the respiratory tract, but I'm still wondering if its worth it.
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I'm so busy with work, but I'll try and stop by more often ;_;
Oh your fine, no worries!I'm so busy with work, but I'll try and stop by more often ;_;
You monster >:(Now we officially have Too Much Equality™
Gonna have to make a few cuts: A tax on kirby grips, opaque tights with the high top, and from now on you're no longer allowed to hold your boobs while you go down stairs.
wow so much for kindness smh
tough but fair *bangs gavel*Now we officially have Too Much Equality™
Gonna have to make a few cuts: A tax on kirby grips, opaque tights with the high top, and from now on you're no longer allowed to hold your boobs while you go down stairs.
Congratulations, ladies! You're the next Community Spotlight! As a man, let me explain what that means. You see, every week we highlight a new thread, and--hey why are you walking away come back
Now we officially have Too Much Equality™
Gonna have to make a few cuts: A tax on kirby grips, opaque tights with the high top, and from now on you're no longer allowed to hold your boobs while you go down stairs.
thank you i'll be here all week
I forget about all my community threads if I don't respond to them lolI'll admit I kinda forget about this thread lately I've been living in the world cup thread and just reading others.
Well, I used to live in SoCal with 115 F heat waves so...
A/C if you have it.
Drink tons of water to keep hydrated, carry around a sports bottle.
Sunscreen if you go outside at all. I use SPF 110 because I'm type 1 skin (super light). Nothing worse than a sunburn to make you feel hotter.
Open up all the windows at night to let in cool air. Shut them tight in the morning to trap said cool air in the house.
Wear shorts and a loose tank. If your living situation is such that you're comfortable enough, go braless. Fuck bras in hot weather.
Avoid caffeine it makes your skin more sensitive and it dehydrates you.
Ice, lots of it. In drinks, in packs on your forehead.
Eat fruit, especially strawberries and watermelon and grapes.
Don't use the oven. Make salads samdwhiches or other cold dishes for food during the day.
Same sundresses or like beach type skirts are great.Screw the oven and cooking in general in extreme heat! I'm always drinking water so I got that covered. In days like this I wear the lightest dresses possible if I'm working or shorts or skirts and tanks or sundresses and maxi dresses.
Bras are evil in the summer but nessisary because if I walk into a store or somewhere that blasts the A/C I'll be attracting all sorts of unwanted attention.
Screw the oven and cooking in general in extreme heat! I'm always drinking water so I got that covered. In days like this I wear the lightest dresses possible if I'm working or shorts or skirts and tanks or sundresses and maxi dresses.
Bras are evil in the summer but nessisary because if I walk into a store or somewhere that blasts the A/C I'll be attracting all sorts of unwanted attention.