So is anyone else as terrible at dating as I am?
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What? How? Are you actively trying to get dates or what?
i do care, if i want to share my life with someone i want at least to share some things with her (don't need to be everything of course, i'm not crazy excepting we will like everything the same)! I didn't had any interests in common with the two girls i dated, and it quickly became really boring, as well for me and for her... we didn't had anything to talk about... and it was really a short period of time... (one break up with me, the other i was the one to break up) imagine that over years...
sure you can say that we'll share more thing overtime by knowing each other more and more, it's very possible! But like i said, i don't have it in me anymore to try and try again, making the effort to be more open, to be someone i'm not... all in hope it would work out in the long run... if i managed to date someone with that method, it wouldn't last long anyway cause my true character would show up very quickly
I know i don't have any exeperience in dating, so i can't say for sure what will happen and i don't pretend to know it all or how i would change if i met someone i would truly love... i'm just saying i'm tired of making efforts and i'll live like that, if i meet someone, good, if i'm not, then so be it! I'm not complaining
What dating apps are you using? The landscape has changed a lot in the last few years and dictates what you'll find. More importantly, are you using Hinge?
That said, ignore any advice telling you to be awful, abandon online dating or say that you're cursed for life due to physical attributes you can't change.
-Source: Pocket sized sweetheart with Walton Goggins hairline who has successfully mainly used online dating to meet women.
That said, ignore any advice telling you to be awful, abandon online dating or say that you're cursed for life due to physical attributes you can't change.
-Source: Pocket sized sweetheart with Walton Goggins hairline who has successfully mainly used online dating to meet women.
For a while, no. After getting out of a long term that included a period of long distance towards the end, I spent about 5-6 years just doing my thing.
Over the last few years though, just work a lot, most of my friends have gotten married/have kids so don't go out often.
I'm not a looker, I'm a fat fuck, which I'm working on, so online dating has been a futile attempt. I have never even gotten a like on fucking tinder in 3 years lol that was not spam haha.
Depression issues don't help either.
Figured as of late that not everybody is meant to find a partner in life and I may simply be one of those people, so I'm again back to passively just living day to day.
Funny thing is, I get a long with women just fine. Maybe I just suck at reading cues. Also because the depression issues, if I do start feeling attraction with a girl, I tend to fuck it up because I assume why would this girl be in to me and tend to just walk away.
I just suck I think lol.
the only main take away from this is are the following:
- don't be creepy by constantly mentioning someones looks that you don't know online.
- don't be annoying with texting
When/If I ever actuslly manage to get a date, I'll let you know. But I'm gonna go with no.
At 24 I already feel like my window of opportunity is closed at this point
At 24 I already feel like my window of opportunity is closed at this point
nah there's plenty of people your age who were busy with college and what not and didn't do much dating.
If you're motivated, then continue, you're still young, i had my first date at 23, my first girlfriend at 24... i knew people who dated for the first time even later! There's no window of opportunity, you can do it at any point of your life
Dont hope they approach you, approach them if you are feeling a bit of interest there
If women wont stick around for free meals and easy sex I guess I'm all out of ideas.
I would tell you how cursed I am on a scale of mary magdalene to that tweet of ted cruz with the butter cow, but I don't really know how the scoring system works? Like is 1 boyfriend for 10 years worth the same as 10 boyfriends for 1 year?
I would tell you how cursed I am on a scale of mary magdalene to that tweet of ted cruz with the butter cow, but I don't really know how the scoring system works? Like is 1 boyfriend for 10 years worth the same as 10 boyfriends for 1 year?
I'm shocked you're having problems with dating.
(Wait, this has to be a joke, right?)
I banged a girl from Tinder on Monday night
Then I texted her tonight but no reply. Haha no biggie
Then I texted her tonight but no reply. Haha no biggie
It's not my actual age so much I'm concerned about but my total lack of any experience. I can't really see any women interested in a 24 year old introverted guy who has zero experience with anything concerning dating. At that age most people are already past the casual dating phase and looking for someone to settle down with for life.
Online dating isnt for everyone. I fucking kill it in person but online is shit for me. I just use it as a side thing. My main focus when I'm looking is to put effort out in the real world.
I like going out with friends and meeting people but I'm just as happy going solo. Going out solo and meeting people has leveled up my social skills like crazy.
I wouldnt put too much thought into why your efforts online havent resulted in much. If I did that I'd prolly feel like shit about myself.
As for the length of the relationships.. youre just guna have to wait for the right one to come along. I have so many little flings that lead nowhere. Doesnt mean anything. Ive met a few special ones that suit me and they lasted a long time bit they are rare. Not everyone you date is for the long term even if its what you want. Cant force that shit. Just be you and keep working on it until you find someone.
Im 33. Ill be 34 soon and im still killin it. KILLIN it! Fuck outa here with this window closing at 24 lolol
I like going out with friends and meeting people but I'm just as happy going solo. Going out solo and meeting people has leveled up my social skills like crazy.
I wouldnt put too much thought into why your efforts online havent resulted in much. If I did that I'd prolly feel like shit about myself.
As for the length of the relationships.. youre just guna have to wait for the right one to come along. I have so many little flings that lead nowhere. Doesnt mean anything. Ive met a few special ones that suit me and they lasted a long time bit they are rare. Not everyone you date is for the long term even if its what you want. Cant force that shit. Just be you and keep working on it until you find someone.
Im 33. Ill be 34 soon and im still killin it. KILLIN it! Fuck outa here with this window closing at 24 lolol
It took me too long to figure it out because it was a totally believable post in this thread.
Look at you go. Guys in their thirties can be even better looking than their 20
Props to your solo game
nah you'll be fine. it only starts to become a red flag when youre around 30 ish.
I had a friend who had literally 0 experience with women well into his 30s. Next thing I hear hes having a baby with some girl he settled down with from POF.
Its never too late people!
Dating hasn't worked this way until for millions of years until a few decades ago at most, so don't feel down for this not working out, most meet their future spouses by chance. The good old « improve yourself » thing is legit, but it's just to increase those chances when you meet people but you still then need to increase the chances that you'll meet people by going out with people more often, doing more social stuff.
true. I was just saying personally, I'd be a bit curious about the lack of experience at that point. not in a deal breaker sense, but it would be something I'd bring up at some point.
Ehh there's nothing to it. Just climb aboard, stick it in and go to work
Yup, forget dimensions, I'm playing wizard level checkers.
its been 30 months since i have been single.
128 first dates
68 2nd dates
Slept with 59 of them
8 of them in person at bars or wherever
2 on instagram
the rest split
45% Tinder
30% OKC
25% Bumble
Its been fun but im tired. Less picky lately. I hope.
128 first dates
68 2nd dates
Slept with 59 of them
8 of them in person at bars or wherever
2 on instagram
the rest split
45% Tinder
30% OKC
25% Bumble
Its been fun but im tired. Less picky lately. I hope.
I never understood this shit.
Some dude's talking about his lack of success, and you come in here bragging about your success lol.
Like, what do you get out of it?
My streak got derailed by poor relationship choices. I also wish I'd kept numbers. Shockingly, very few of the encounters (even the ones that led to sex) were memorable for me.
6 months into a relationship from OKC now, though.
:#)
I won't lie, I held back a looooot of um.. less subtle remarks. I didn't wanna be too R E D U C T I V E
Admittedly, it kinda balances out the "forever alone" posts.
These threads invariably get derailed, though.
You sound like you think that any person would fit as a partner if you only do certain things right.
But that's not how it works.
But that's not how it works.
Honestly he would be better for Fantasy Baseball. His batting average for sleeping with others is .460.
You can't be too picky to bat that high. No shame in it though.
I mean "you" in general, not you personally.
It's kinda rude though, no?
It would be fine if they offered some insight. It's like going into a thread about a someone who's struggling to lose weight and posting "well I've always been fit", and that's it lol.
Its easier when its all on my calendar. Also its fun to remember everybodies names and i can pull up what happened on almost every date.
Online dating is crazy and weird but not that much different than meeting in person.
I am also a guy who had 6" liberty spikes in college and listened to mudvayne and korn and put 400 hours into final fantasy tactics and didnt start dating until i was 29. I also went to art school and im not a weight lifter or ever hit the gym like a rat.
Find a way to be more confident and try to push yourself to do cool stuff and have stories you love to tell.
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But this way he knows who he needs to contact when the clap happens.
I kid
This is me, basically. I'm probably overly complacent, but I just have no desire to be in a relationship.
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