I'm just injecting some positivity in here. Could just agree with them and be like "yeah, youre right. Windows closing at 24. Youre doomed bro"I think there's a huge difference between a 33/34 year old guy with game and experience compared to a 33/34 year old virgin who have never had a single date in their life. This is what the mindset is for a lot of people on this site and elsewhere when they talk about the "window closing"; the sneaking suspicion that there's "something wrong with you" and that it's a massive turn-off. Looking to settle down or just continuing to be a player well into your 30s isn't some abnormal thing and know one would judge you for it when it's apparent you know what you're doing.
Isn't this the classic losing strategy, at last in male/female relationships? I know there are exception, of course. But there seems to always be issues with this, such as sincerity and honesty.Focus on creating good friendships. It is easier and often leads to good relationships.
I'm sort of of two minds about this. If you're friends first you can gauge their character and develop trust and stuff under low pressure, but if the other person is really direct with you about what they want, then if that is tested a bit, that can build a trust that their intentions towards you might be somewhat consistent or reliable, lol.
Haha yeah it definitely doesn't work like that for a lot of people, but it's just what I've found through my own dating life (I've gone on dates and stuff but only dated 2 people what I would consider seriously, and both were friends of mine before we started to date.)
I mean, I guess a part of dating is making a friend with someone, but then gauging if both parties want to make it anything more than that.
It's the path to the friend zone.Isn't this the classic losing strategy, at last in male/female relationships? I know there are exception, of course. But there seems to always be issues with this, such as sincerity and honesty.
It just seems that if a guy into a girl he should be direct about his motives.
I wasn't talking about female friendships. Male friendships.Isn't this the classic losing strategy, at last in male/female relationships? I know there are exception, of course. But there seems to always be issues with this, such as sincerity and honesty.
It just seems that if a guy into a girl he should be direct about his motives.
Some of us aren't even putting in much effort to find someone besides very passively swiping right on tinder and chatting with some people there. I've had some first dates that neither of us pursues further due to my total lack of interest, but ultimately I've realized I need to date a geek if I want the relationship to go somewhere but I don't go out of my way to find someone. I thought that when my confidence shot up after losing essentially all the weight I've gained since college I'd become more proactive, but nope it just helped my confidence and I feel healthier. That's it.
At this point it's not necessarily healthy to be this uncaring as I'm growing older, but something happened to me between high school which is where I cared about this stuff and now. But I'm not unhappy being single as I've been single basically my whole life. And my type of work is so time consuming I just want to get home and relax.
So yes, there's always someone with a worst track record. Be it laziness or something else.
Read this.I was terrible at dating, the worst person ever until I dealt with my insecurity and jealous nature. Once I learned to love myself and find happiness, dating was easy as fuck.
This is me and I'm 28.I've never dated a woman. Never even had a girfriend or a first kiss, so by that metric, I would say you're at least better than me.
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LCall me crazy but some women like when you are an asshole to them it's worked for me plenty of times. First don't over compliment them tell them that they look nice and that's it. Don't use words like beautiful and gorgeous and fine. On those sites guys tell them how gorgeous they are all day so they don't really need to hear it from you and hell its not like some of them aren't already big headed enough so keep the compliments to a minimum or none at all.
Next I wouldn't even mention that I have my own place and a career maybe you're sorta flaunting that to them and you don't want them to want you for the wrong reasons so I'd Dutch on all dates or let them cover the bill, again you wanna come off as an asshole but not too much of one.
And lastly come off as if you don't really need them make them feel as if they are replaceable. Never overreach for their attention if you guys are texting and she doesn't reply to your text don't send a second one make sure every text is a reply to hers. And when she does text you never reply right away and when she asks why you are responding so slow say you are busy dealing with important shit. Try the asshole approach it will work trust me.
Haha the guy is a scumbag piece of shit. Coward too cause he asked his thread to be locked.
LMAO. Such satireCall me crazy but some women like when you are an asshole to them it's worked for me plenty of times. First don't over compliment them tell them that they look nice and that's it. Don't use words like beautiful and gorgeous and fine. On those sites guys tell them how gorgeous they are all day so they don't really need to hear it from you and hell its not like some of them aren't already big headed enough so keep the compliments to a minimum or none at all.
Next I wouldn't even mention that I have my own place and a career maybe you're sorta flaunting that to them and you don't want them to want you for the wrong reasons so I'd Dutch on all dates or let them cover the bill, again you wanna come off as an asshole but not too much of one.
And lastly come off as if you don't really need them make them feel as if they are replaceable. Never overreach for their attention if you guys are texting and she doesn't reply to your text don't send a second one make sure every text is a reply to hers. And when she does text you never reply right away and when she asks why you are responding so slow say you are busy dealing with important shit. Try the asshole approach it will work trust me.
Something I've heard more than once is that "I just didn't feel a spark." That or after a good (or so I think) first date, tons of talking etc. I just never hear back from them. I've heard another say that she still has feelings for an Ex, but she never told him. The most random shit.
I've had people's fathers have heart attacks right before a date. Or their uncles or any close relative. This has happened more than once. Like, terrible things happening to people just before meeting me.
I've had things start off super hot and then people get too "busy", like 7 days a week can't find free time busy. This happens a lot too.
At this point it's making me really self conscious about ever little thing about myself.
Am I too short? Too heavy? I'm 5'5" and 160. I'm 32. My hair is starting to thin, is that it? Am I too boring? Am I too forward? Am I not forward enough? Should I try to hold hands on the first date? Should I go dutch or pay for her meal? What even is a good first date spot?
I feel like a statistician just throwing random experiments out there and playing the numbers game to see what sticks at this point. But the problem is, the well is running dry, no one seems interested anymore. Even the 30 year olds group, who want long-term, etc.
Fuck man.