Inspired by the ProJared getting busted thread and the comments that seemed to handwave cheating away because of lazy arguments like "lol relationships are complicated", or "cHEatINg hAs nUaNcE."
Well yeah, no shit. Relationships between two people will always be complicated (we are human beings after all), but that is not an excuse to go behind your significant other's back to go chase temporary pleasure. If you lack the common courtesy to break things off, then as far as I'm concerned, you are a majorly selfish asshole.
But there isn't any nuance to cheating. It's about as black and white as it can get. Defending cheating on the pretense of relationships being complicated makes you look very inconsiderate as per the title. Why? Because you're defending someone's ability to chase temporary pleasure, and completely ignoring the ramifications of that action on the significant other. Such ramifications include:
- Insecurity: I mean duh, that person's actions are basically screaming "I don't find you desirable that I would rather go behind your back to get what I need, than talk to you like an adult." The person who got cheated on is not going to be the same, and that will have a ripple effect on dating other people. They might be less trusting of people, jaded, have so much self-esteem issues related to their physical beauty or how they are in a relationship. And yet, idiots are quick to talk about how bad it is for the cheater and ignoring how their selfishness has gotten them to this point.
- Communication problems: Cheating doesn't magically solve how you address issues, if you're willing to go behind someone's back for something like cheating, then how are you going to address other issues. And that's before bringing up stuff like being manipulative, or having the tendency to view people as objects for your own pleasure.
It's time for people to stop defending cheating.
Well yeah, no shit. Relationships between two people will always be complicated (we are human beings after all), but that is not an excuse to go behind your significant other's back to go chase temporary pleasure. If you lack the common courtesy to break things off, then as far as I'm concerned, you are a majorly selfish asshole.
But there isn't any nuance to cheating. It's about as black and white as it can get. Defending cheating on the pretense of relationships being complicated makes you look very inconsiderate as per the title. Why? Because you're defending someone's ability to chase temporary pleasure, and completely ignoring the ramifications of that action on the significant other. Such ramifications include:
- Insecurity: I mean duh, that person's actions are basically screaming "I don't find you desirable that I would rather go behind your back to get what I need, than talk to you like an adult." The person who got cheated on is not going to be the same, and that will have a ripple effect on dating other people. They might be less trusting of people, jaded, have so much self-esteem issues related to their physical beauty or how they are in a relationship. And yet, idiots are quick to talk about how bad it is for the cheater and ignoring how their selfishness has gotten them to this point.
- Communication problems: Cheating doesn't magically solve how you address issues, if you're willing to go behind someone's back for something like cheating, then how are you going to address other issues. And that's before bringing up stuff like being manipulative, or having the tendency to view people as objects for your own pleasure.
It's time for people to stop defending cheating.
