Yeah. My fiancé has lost over 50lbs and people have been telling her she is withering away and she needs to stop losing weight. Fuck off and keep your opinion to yourself.
Today I just learned that Fit Shaming is a thing
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i'm in the middle of the road on this one. fitness kind of straddles both hobby and necessity, depends on who you're talking to
i'm guilty as charged because like 90% of my anecdotes are "at the gym the other day..." but eventually i realized how it lame that can be. like when your friend goes on and on about a crazy dream he had but you'd rather listen to paint dry
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There are better ways to make this point.
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you're not making much of a point here
Yep my wife gets this whenever she's committed to a diet or exercise regimen.
She's either starving herself or killing herself with working out.
Automatic sabotage.
I keep telling her it's not you it's about them and their insecurity.
I was mostly referring to using the word pussy as a pejorative. That went out with the 90s.
You look great, buddy. Don't let anybody tell you different. My binoculars see the truth.
I wouldn't call it shaming, but I always find it amusing how people feel at greater liberty to make your body a topic of discussion if you're in shape.
I exercise regularly. I'd say I'm in decent shape. Co-workers regularly discuss and critique my body whether it's at a happy hour or just in the office kitchen.
I exercise regularly. I'd say I'm in decent shape. Co-workers regularly discuss and critique my body whether it's at a happy hour or just in the office kitchen.
lol i love how you pulled out that one tiny snippet out of my post
but you're right, calling them pussies is wrong because vagina's are beautiful and empowering. fair enough. edited
really? that's what you got out my post. the fuck outta here with that. jerk
Have been working out regularly for years. Have never been "fit shamed" apart from the odd remark from my grandma that I don't have enough fat on me.
But the demographics of college/grad school and big cities are overall much more fit that other areas of the country.
But the demographics of college/grad school and big cities are overall much more fit that other areas of the country.
lmao your abs must have triggered some posters 😂 fucking lol. I wish I could see some of those posts hahaha
i already addressed that it was wrong and edited. and don't back pedal, you were implying that i've only used this picture of me to impress you, that i'm just being a show off. that's not at all what i was doing and you're twisting my post unfairly
yep, seems like it is in this thread as well lol
I mean throwing that word in your post made the tone come off as condescending and hypermasculine to the point I couldn't read it any other way, lol
is there not such a thing as learning you need to correct learned behaviors? i've done that and stated as much and you're you're not listening to what i'm saying right now.
you twisted my post and that was a dick move. my avatar is me. it's the way i look. i didn't post it there or repsond to this thread because i need you to see it. it's there for me because i like and am proud of the way i look, which has all come to a ton of hard work and sacrifice. i don't need to you see or know any of that, but here you come along turning my post into something it's not, like at all. and now you'r grasping for anything to try and not look like an asshole. i'm thinking you need some behavior correction.
Hey, calm down. I didn't see the edit but I hope you learned to remove that word from your vocabulary.
Unfortunately if the temperature is anything below 60 degrees then I can't run outside. My ears are super sensitive and my inner ear feels sore after a few minutes of jogging in cooler weather.
Era dude here too. I'll send you the complete opposite and hit on you if that's okay?
/imtotallynotacreep
Yeah it's mostly jealousy.
Everyone can shut the fuck up about crossfit though. Nobody cares that you do crossfit.
Everyone can shut the fuck up about crossfit though. Nobody cares that you do crossfit.
I read somewhere a long time ago that friendships are based on appearances in some way, that you find friends that you think are equally as attractive to you, it made sense to me at the time, but in going with that you will often find that people don't want to be reminded that they could be doing better, and will sabatoge you if you attempt to change.
Basically they don't want to lose you as a friend and enjoy having you on the same "level" as them, and if you improve they might lose your friendship. I never checked into it much, and it might be coming from an old Tony Robbins book, but I have noticed over the years that the people that stop you from improving the most can be the people you think care about you the most (friends and family).
If anyone has anything proving/disproving it though i'd love to read it.
Basically they don't want to lose you as a friend and enjoy having you on the same "level" as them, and if you improve they might lose your friendship. I never checked into it much, and it might be coming from an old Tony Robbins book, but I have noticed over the years that the people that stop you from improving the most can be the people you think care about you the most (friends and family).
If anyone has anything proving/disproving it though i'd love to read it.
amen to that. like everybody i work with starts breakfast with donuts and churros, rounds out lunch with non diet soda and a super sized fast food meal, goes onto eat god knows what when they get home but if i come in looking a little bloated from a night of beer and hotwings or whatever slip up it's like OOH SHIT
I get that. Used to weight 235. Im pretty tall ( 6'5" ) so I wasn't too large, but def had puffy cheeks and a tummy. Now down to 175 and deadlifting 300 / squatting 225 / bench pressing 185 with some abs showing thank you very much. I would not say I get people being hostile to me, but they definitely seem to view me with different eyes than before. Its weird.
Happened to me when I started getting a handle on my diet and working out. Coworkers freely commenting that I looked wrong, friends commenting that I was wasting my time and energy. Even had one 'friend' scream at me that I must have some psychological issues and need to sort that out before I destroy myself. That one was a doozie.
Later I helped out a coworker fix himself up. Gave him tips on how to understand what he was eating, he joined me at the gym, etc. Surprise surprise, he received the exact same miserable attitude from friends and family.
A lot of people don't want to face reality: someone getting better means they themselves are worse.
I'm not even going to write about how people close to me have reacted to my switch to a vegan diet, despite me being entirely silent and discreet about it. I've excised a lot of people from my life, for the better.
Later I helped out a coworker fix himself up. Gave him tips on how to understand what he was eating, he joined me at the gym, etc. Surprise surprise, he received the exact same miserable attitude from friends and family.
A lot of people don't want to face reality: someone getting better means they themselves are worse.
I'm not even going to write about how people close to me have reacted to my switch to a vegan diet, despite me being entirely silent and discreet about it. I've excised a lot of people from my life, for the better.
You dont even have to go to the gym or anything to see this, just look at your coworkers faces when you pass on the pizza/donuts they bring to work.
Our food culture is fucked.
Our food culture is fucked.
At least you're bettering yourself. You're already better than most of these people yelling at you for that reason.
People have told me that my fitness lifestyle is too difficult and not worth it. They end up looking dumb when it's time to hit a pool party.
It definitely happens but in my experience it's far more older generations who are larger and likely told by doctors and such over and over they need to lose weight. Obesity is also farm more normalized with them.
Friends and family near my age have always been supportive no matter their own weight.
Friends and family near my age have always been supportive no matter their own weight.
I see my post hit a nerve.
Instead of bad posts you should try hitting the gym to get out your frustration instead of wasting my time.
I enjoy talking fitness with friends. That's different. Obviously talking fitness is good because you learn new things as well.
At the end of the day personal fitness is a pretty self-centered concept. Which is fine, it's really important to care for yourself. It's when people become obsessed with it I have a problem. The more you obsess with it, the more it says you're obsessed with yourself, and in a mostly superficial way. I can't really vibe with people like that. I don't think we can have a healthy relationship in anyway.
I've met a lot of fitness junkies and some of them can literally barely function outside a gym. It's sad. I feel bad for them. They're great looking people on the outside, but on the inside they're dead.
Also for context I used to be extremely overweight as a kid and lost over 100 lbs, and I credit it to proper diet and excise. So take that for what you will.
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Nya I just found your post funny. I don't know what is bad about people that love fitness as a hobby to talk about that. Where is the problem? Are you like this with everyone and their hobbys? You talk about fitness junkies, but that is the same with every other thing. Sounds more like you have a problem still. Also yeah I hit the gym and I don't need someone like you to tell me. :P
Yes I have a problem with people being obsessed with things. Do I really need to explain why?
Go do some pushups and stop talking to me.
I have you on ignore so you're better off not even replying to this because you're just yelling at clouds at this point if you do. Thank you, bye.
I think people are afraid that you're judging them when you don't partake in their fast food free for alls. I get around that by intermittent fasting. So I still eat and drink all the garbage people get to celebrate this or that but I don't gain any weight from it. You can't really do much damage on one meal.
It's the same for being vegan/vegetarian. If people feel judged or inadequate they'll be defensive even if there's no actual judging going on.
Maybe I'm just weird but just tell them to fuck off and mind their own business ? Why let something like that actually effect you if its what you want to do.
My dad jokingly makes fun of me for being skinny and I clap back with fat jokes but like I couldn't imagine actually putting up with that if he was serious
My dad jokingly makes fun of me for being skinny and I clap back with fat jokes but like I couldn't imagine actually putting up with that if he was serious