You don't know what to think of a girl wanting to make out with you? :P
Eh not really, I've been dating my girlfriend for almost 3 months but it feels like much longer. I guess it just depends on the types of experiences you go through on those dates.
Okay I can totally see why people would think you're making stuff up. You make your stories sound like chick flicks lmao.When we were hanging out, she was often cuddling up to me, and during a couple of points I noticed her humming a song - it was Elvis', 'I can't help but falling in love with you'.
Oh, maybe she's getting the impression you're not moving after all? I remember with my ex I was dating in college she was getting ready to graduate, we had never discussed plans after that and then I told her if she had to move I would go with her anywhere. That was like a weight was suddenly lifted off her and some intense making out followed.Ah it's not that. It's just all of a sudden she was all over me, like I was about to join the army or something, y'know? She was affectionate before, but suddenly she was going crazy for me, and she couldn't just walk away. It was good, but suddenly very intense.
Okay I can totally see why people would think you're making stuff up. You make your stories sound like chick flicks lmao.
It's been about 2 months now and I'm trying to reach on to anything on Tinder and this is just frustrating. Girls usually either don't reply and the few that do are usually don't seem to be interesting at all (typical country girl fishing, mudding, hunting lingo). The thought of starting everything over is so shitty but I also want to forget how much I love that god damn girl.
First, girls list a beard as a requirement? The fuck?
Second, I relate to this completely, and I was there very recently - I think I even made a similar post on here a couple months ago. It sounds like the best thing to do would be to cut yourself off from dating until you're doing well enough that you don't feel like you're dating to fill a void, but because you want to date. Right now there's a heavy weight behind dating because your efforts are about getting back what you've lost and avoiding the emptiness and pain that comes with grief and loss. But dating isn't going to get rid of that, only time (and work, to an extent) will. If dating is used as avoidance of grief and pain, it's likely going to continue to be a painful process that feels frustrating and pressured. If you can date and have it be fun and not have this pressure, great - but it sounds like that's not in the cards yet.
You talk about not wanting to start over. You're not starting over. Your next relationship will be entirely new. You're not replaying the old one. That one's done. Grieve for that one until you're ready to experience something entirely new without comparing to the last one and trying to recreate it.
Take some time for yourself, deal with the breakup, and get to a point where you're healthy and okay with being alone. Don't get a beard for dating if you don't want one, don't get a dog for dating if you don't want one, and definitely don't date when you need it to be successful enough that you would consider making those kinds of compromises. It sounds like this is a time when you need to just confront your grief and get healthy rather than bashing your head against this wall.
It seems like loneliness is a big element here, so use that energy you're putting into dating toward expanding your social life instead. Find a club, volunteer, anything to meet some new people.
Im emailing my ex lol im a broken mess even after having sex with a chick I cant stop thinking about my love
Last year I was with her :(
You can always try Minoxidil. The side effects suck ass but it works if you use it like you shouldNot to mention I live in Louisiana and have trouble growing a full beard, which is something 70% of profiles mention is a must...
You can always try Minoxidil. The side effects suck ass but it works if you use it like you should
Its been since Oct 28th that's been a while yet im still fucked up since im still texting her
Im not strong she was basically my first real gf in term of long term relationship.
I had hoped she didn't answer me back :(
Oh boy break up season is no joke. Good thing my girl is obsessed with me so I shouldn't be getting dumped any time soon.
You cross a line when you are passed 40 and become more desirable particularly if you have steady job and a home. If you at least can pay the rent even if you don't own then you should be OK. Having no kids is a plus, but you need to be aware she may have kids and accept that. That 30 to 40 period is tough though.Turning 38 I have found dating to be more and more difficult as I get older. Having never been married, have no kids and don't own a house feels like I have a scarlet letter or something.
Any suggestions from some of the older people of Reset?
I have a steady (as much as anyone) paid well, but can't afford to buy in Seattle, ha. But live in a neat neighborhood. I'd say I have my shit together, kinda. The place of having no kids is actually meeting people around my own age. Going out, I meet more people in their early 30's or younger. Since I don't have kids, I really don't meet people my own age who probably have children of their own. A couple years ago I did have to flip the switch that more people I'd probably meet would be divorced and probably have kids.You cross a line when you are passed 40 and become more desirable particularly if you have steady job and a home. If you at least can pay the rent even if you don't own then you should be OK. Having no kids is a plus, but you need to be aware she may have kids and accept that. That 30 to 40 period is tough though.
Dating in 2017 brought me no success; actually. Let me rephrase- in 2017 I've had some really outgoing confidence, I approached the women I was attracted to, and even if every time I did it didn't work out the way I initially hoped (mostly because they were already in a relationship); however, i've made a couple really great friends!
The most recent one is such an amazing person, and just knowing her is a drive to get out and find someone out there. I think i'm going to have to go and try my luck online - I'm not in any rush, and I have a full new year to get started. But I definitely think it's time- Its finally to the point where I'm the one and only single friend lol
Dating in 2017 brought me no success; actually. Let me rephrase- in 2017 I've had some really outgoing confidence, I approached the women I was attracted to... snip... just knowing her is a drive to get out and find someone out there. I think i'm going to have to go and try my luck online - I'm not in any rush, and I have a full new year to get started. But I definitely think it's time
We've been on about 10-15 dates now, over the last 5-6 weeks.
I know I overthink things, for sure. I apologised to her and said I was just having a shit day. With that said, it is annoying if a girl arranges a date, then cancels right before you're supposed to meet, especially if you've booked places to go, and things like that... maybe it's just me...
Have you tried online dating? That would widen your options becuse it is tough when the majority of your peers are in relationships and are not as social. Being divorced isn't a negative so don't discount women or think less of them for that, not that you've given any indication you think that BTW.I have a steady (as much as anyone) paid well, but can't afford to buy in Seattle, ha. But live in a neat neighborhood. I'd say I have my shit together, kinda. The place of having no kids is actually meeting people around my own age. Going out, I meet more people in their early 30's or younger. Since I don't have kids, I really don't meet people my own age who probably have children of their own. A couple years ago I did have to flip the switch that more people I'd probably meet would be divorced and probably have kids.
That's when you're supposed to step up
"Look I booked all of these in order to respect and value your time, so we re going out as planned. I'll pick you up at XXX"
If she's constantly blowing you off as you said it's simply because she knows she can get away with it, while you ll come back for some more every single time. Respect yourself a little bit and put her back in place
One step at a time to the FriendZone™
You're supposed to be your own man in the first place.
Not wondering what you're up to = no space created in her mind or heart = she doesn't miss you = no interest created because of the absence
All of this tells me that you didn't bother to catch up with Chrono's posts before you replied to his post from like 4 days ago and reads like you're just copy-pasting crap from a self-help book or something instead of applying thoughtful advice to his specific situation.
The first ones always the hardest, it's a learning Experiance. Hold the line and know that there will be a whole new group of women available this month so it's a good time to start dating.I guess break up season is real. I wanted to have the talk with my GF since before Christmas but I thought this would be very asshole-ish. I'm trying to do it now but this gotta be one of the most difficult things I have ever done. We are only dating for 10 months, we when were on our fourth month I told her that we should just be friends (I didn't really wanted to keep her as friend either) but one thing led to another, we didn't break up, and now I more sure than ever that we are not going to work. She's also my first real girlfriend, what makes these things even more difficult. She was even talking about marriage some time ago! I don't even know how we got in this stage.
Oh yeah. I've tired them all. Total waste of time honestly. Majority of the sites are just so broken in their most basic sense, it becomes a depressing.Have you tried online dating? That would widen your options becuse it is tough when the majority of your peers are in relationships and are not as social. Being divorced isn't a negative so don't discount women or think less of them for that, not that you've given any indication you think that BTW.
Just to be clear, the difficult part for now is actually starting the talk. We didn't break up yet.The first ones always the hardest, it's a learning Experiance. Hold the line and know that there will be a whole new group of women available this month so it's a good time to start dating.
Just to be clear, the difficult part for now is actually starting the talk. We didn't break up yet.
So yeah, please keep your knight in shining armor's kinda comment to yourself because it shows the clear lack of knowledge you have on the field. Same as ACB
I have no respect whatsoever for people doing witch hunting for the sake of it.
Yeah, that's hard. I suggest going somewhere neutral to do that. Not you place or hers. Make your decision and stick to it, you don't need to justify it or criticise her, do the deed no move on.Just to be clear, the difficult part for now is actually starting the talk. We didn't break up yet.
Is this for dating only or relationship in general? Sorry for the long wall of text, kind of a mess right now since this is my first relationship.
Had a fight with my GF on new year's eve and I'm just wondering if I'm a sensitive douchebag.
She lives in the downtown area of the city and I live on the more popular area of town which means most of the interesting stuff (malls,dating spots etc) happens near where I live. It's about 20 minutes drive from my house to hers
Even though she has a car, I usually pick her up and either take her home again or get her an uber on me. On these uber instances, she never even mentions paying it herself.
So here's where I blew up. We were going to her sister's apartment for new year's eve by the beach which is about 4-5 minutes from here. She said she'd ask for an uber, pick me up and take us there. Yesterday morning, she asked if I could get an uber myself and when asked why, she said that her sister's house is closer to her (it's about 3-4 blocks from my house) and that she'd rather me pick her up and take us there. So, to resume this, she'd rather me take a 20 minute drive to pick her up, drive her to her sister which is about 4-5 minutes from me and take her home again. Is this a complete lack of consideration? Never would I ask this of anyone but maybe i'm just too sensitive.
This happened once before and we had a huge fight about it. We arrived from the airport and she got her car. Instead of taking me home, she left me in a mall in the middle of the way and asked me to get a cab. I wouldn't mind this too much but again, i've giver her way too many rides already so this kind of thing stings a lot.
Did you post that story about being left at a mall on GAF before? Seems familiar. Anyway, she sounds lazy and selfish so take that on balance with the rest of the relationship if you want to continue it, hope you can change her or end it.Is this for dating only or relationship in general? Sorry for the long wall of text, kind of a mess right now since this is my first relationship.
Had a fight with my GF on new year's eve and I'm just wondering if I'm a sensitive douchebag.
She lives in the downtown area of the city and I live on the more popular area of town which means most of the interesting stuff (malls,dating spots etc) happens near where I live. It's about 20 minutes drive from my house to hers
Even though she has a car, I usually pick her up and either take her home again or get her an uber on me. On these uber instances, she never even mentions paying it herself.
So here's where I blew up. We were going to her sister's apartment for new year's eve by the beach which is about 4-5 minutes from here. She said she'd ask for an uber, pick me up and take us there. Yesterday morning, she asked if I could get an uber myself and when asked why, she said that her sister's house is closer to her (it's about 3-4 blocks from my house) and that she'd rather me pick her up and take us there. So, to resume this, she'd rather me take a 20 minute drive to pick her up, drive her to her sister which is about 4-5 minutes from me and take her home again. Is this a complete lack of consideration? Never would I ask this of anyone but maybe i'm just too sensitive.
This happened once before and we had a huge fight about it. We arrived from the airport and she got her car. Instead of taking me home, she left me in a mall in the middle of the way and asked me to get a cab. I wouldn't mind this too much but again, i've giver her way too many rides already so this kind of thing stings a lot.
Oh boy break up season is no joke. Good thing my girl is obsessed with me so I shouldn't be getting dumped any time soon.
Well, it's ok as long as she could leave on her terms.The girl I was with said many times me leaving her would be the worst thing she could ever imagine and joked she would kill herself. She left me 2 weeks ago.
So yeah...
Looks like you've vented quite a bit there, which is fine and we're cool with that, but is there a single particular question or a specific issue you'd like to talk about? Let us know, man.
Apologies. I think at the time I was looking more for the catharsis or just talking about it at the time I didn't think of any sort of question.
To be honest the question is really why go on? Because it feels like the relationship is damaged beyond repair. Almost every time we've talked since the trip issue and my comment about how neither of us is eachother's priority things just always seemed hostile between us.
We'd have momentary breaks where we'd talk about something unrelated like movies or something, but eventually it would just turn to how I let her down and I'm a problem and then I'd turn to say that she doesn't address her feelings until they've reached a boiling point. Last night she told me that I was emotionally abusing her by telling her that she needs to stop just lets things fester instead of trying to solve or address an issue between us which then led to her comment about my friend who passed away.
It's all been kind of going on like that. She'd make a comment questioning my character, I take offense and shoot back, she says I'm trying to flip issues on her and I tell her all she's interested in is pointing the finger and doesn't have any self-awareness herself. These were issues we were having before she moved. Not nearly as frequently but they've ramped up in the past few weeks.
As I mentioned, it feels like we're both just waiting for the other one to just make the call that we're through. When I called her bluff I told her that she's been doing nothing but looking for reasons to break-up recently and that if she truly feels certain ways then for her to call it. Things didn't exactly end on a definitive note so I'm still waiting to hear from her.
So like I said, if there's any question in all of this should I just take the leap and just call it already? Because the "we" and "us" talk has been tried and doesn't help ease the tension of a relationship where she thinks that I make it all about me and not more about her.
Honestly, your in a feedback loop you're just going to repeat where your talking and she's not listening and projecting what she thinks you are saying not actually listening to what you are saying. I'm guessing your both young so I'd end it and move onto someone else.
Don't get too comfortable! My ex used to be obsessed with me too, how the tables have turned :')
You actually should read what kind of card he played because there's no way someone who actually cares remain insensitive to it
Also I'm fucking tired of reading "these are games". If you cant respect yourself enough don't put your weak shit on me, ty
When you re making a plan and everything, if the girl shows flakiness it's your job to tell her that you made all the arrangements since there was an agreement. So yeah, indeed, you re going to pick her up unless she completely bails. If she does so then you re done trying until she contacts you so you can offer a date again
Now chrono is quite skilled at manipulating people and he absolutely knows by saying that since he's going away, he's not sure where it will end up
Guess what, it is scientifically proven by a LOT of easily findable studies that women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear. On top of that he's like "im going away soon..." which in a negotiation is the biggest power you can have since it basically tells that he's willing / able to walk away. And no one, again, is cold to that argument unless you have good reasons
So yeah, please keep your knight in shining armor's kinda comment to yourself because it shows the clear lack of knowledge you have on the field. Same as ACB
I have no respect whatsoever for people doing witch hunting for the sake of it. If anything I'm only giving straightforward feedback. The girl felt for it because of a possibility of loss, no more no less, and she wanna give a really nice memory of it all