I think it's more about feeling more comfortable around someone with the same afflictions as you...like, it puts them more in your "league".
It makes them more likely to mean something to you, and another ""damaged"" person is less likely to shy away once they hear about your shitty situations?
Maybe "fixing" them makes them feel like they're fixing themselves, or gives them some kind of validation. idk.
speaking of which, recently hooked up with another chick who gets off on pain...like, she really gets off on pain, being choked, slapped, ect.
After the last chick who said she was, I didn't think I was into that kind of thing at all...now I realize that i'm totally into it as long as she's really into it.
except afterwards it came to my attention that she was also a cutter...she may actually still be one....nothing on wrists. I dunno if she does it for depression, or if she's just on a different level of kinky.
and so yet again, i drive home somewhat conflicted
I was with a girl like that once. Idk about her being a cutter, but it was awesome. I never knew how satisfying it was to be as rough as i got with her.
And do you plan on seeing her again? Because otherwise I'm a little confused on the conflict brewing.