You can get unsolicited messages on Hinge even if you haven't matched? That's not a great idea.
It's natural to find people other than your partner attractive. It's how you interpret that which matters. Is there a legitimate threat that she could cheat on you when she makes such comments? Like take your thoughts to court. What is the evidence for them. Is there a fear rather than reality. You allude that these could be insecurities so are you aware of the possibility that nothing could come from the flirty remarks or expressing sexuality? Would you rather she keep such comments to herself because of your jealousy that she can find other people attractive or recognise that she trusts you enough to tell you upfront so nothing might come of it? Imagine a friend came to you saying what you said, how would you respond to them?
In all honesty, it's better if you mentally move on. You will only spend your days overthinking and overanalyzing everything. If she does message you in the coming days and explains what reason, you can then choose what to do. You can have amazing dates with people and they can suddenly change their minds with no explanation.
Have you committed yourself to this woman? Is dating one person at a time your style? Have you both declared yourselves exclusive? If not, I think it's fine for you to be talking or meeting other people while you wait for this person to respond (or they never do). She could have a genuine reason to be away from her phone like she's got COVID, bereavement, or something that took all of her time but still could have messaged you in all these days of when she'll be back to regular messaging.
She stayed for a week and you did not make anything official? I will admit, having someone stay over for a week and nothing happening basically means nothing is happening. Did you pay for everything and pamper her during the week?
I mean, given how so many people are on and off dating apps, she may think you haven't seen it. Just press X and move on, no need to be an asshole about it.
Exactly. Anyone digging into your past is looking for things to start arguments. That's not a great way to start a serious relationship. Unless you have some really crippling personality traits/habits, you really should not be changing yourself for someone you really don't know that well. Without an actual relationship happening, your being obligated to change how you are to suit someone else. *Smacks wrist* Stop that!
There's no rhyme or reason to it as far as I can tell dude, one minute the woman seems super keen and next not so much. I've set a date for Friday with Girl #2, I think apart from confirming a time/place I'm going to back off as you suggest. Last time I did that though the girl blocked me when I texted to confirm she was still good to meet at the bar I'd picked 😥
All I will say is be cautious and see how it goes. If you start to see patterns repeating etc, get the hell out of there asap. Do not tie yourself down to a relationship where "frequent mental health issues days" become the norm. That is no good for your mental health either. Keep us updated.
If you are better in real life, just use texting for planning more dates. Don't force yourself into learning some dating meta game, stick with your strengths.
Well the secret is that both parties actively want to be there and keep it going. We started with pleasantries. She wanted to chat after dinner, so we talked about what we had. You can pivot that into talking about restraurants/cuisines you like or your experiences cooking. From cuisines, she told me she was originally from the west coast, so we talked about what each coast did better food-wise. Then that easily goes into the cultural/vibe differences. That's easily 30-45min total.
The Walk and talk is my fave way to date. Little rest stops but walking in new places and sharing things is amazing.
It was all through Tinder, just one of those encounters that felt right from initial contact.
Yup, that's what I try to do. The more I text, the worse my odds of getting a date become.
Have a good one! It is always refreshing to get something more interesting. Now we can understand how the other side feels sometimes lol
That's what I'm trying to do this time around... the girl I'm speaking to has said going out on Friday "Sounds good", I'm going to message on Hinge tomorrow to confirm time/place and maybe get her number.
