Honestly, if people can't even be bothered to find good pictures that help display them as potential dating material, they are not ready for dating and just want dates to fall on their lap with zero effort. No one is owed dates, you work for them.
Truth. There's a good business opertunity in taking dating profile pictures for these guys though.Honestly, if people can't even be bothered to find good pictures that help display them as potential dating material, they are not ready for dating and just want dates to fall on their lap with zero effort. No one is owed dates, you work for them.
I don't know what photogenic actually means. Does it mean you can smile? Im sure you're attractive to someone. Have you ever got a match? Do you have even just one friend or family member who can take a picture of you when you're out and about? A daytime photo in a city or the countryside would do. Or just get strangers to take your photo in tourist spots.I have one or two okay pictures, but I'm not photogenic and not very attractive. Bigger, hairy, awkward. I never had much luck on Tinder, or dating sites in general. When I got a new phone a year ago, I didn't bother installing Tinder and stopped using it.
When I went to a hockey game last year, I got my friend to take several pictures of me and did the same with a co-worker when we were in California for a work thing. I use a picture from each, but most of the hockey game ones aren't very good (too dark or far away).
I'm also someone in the quick side, and the best advice I can get is having a partner that understands and doesn't judge. You need confidence and to not constantly worry about it, then you'll be able to last longer, even if not the hours some people last. I don't think that most women enjoy to be pounded for hours either way, so that's ok.
Other think you can do is go back at it after finishing, maybe after a pause, if you and her can/want to.
Good luck
That's not really the point. Premature ejaculation doesn't satisfy you and makes you feel like shit even if you may have satisfied your partner. I'm talking about 30 seconds~1 minute of penetration, and that's on the long side for some men.
It means that you look good in most of the photos that you take. I don't think it's necessary about being attractive (weird I know). I know people that are ok looking but they look really good in most of the photos that they are part of, and is not like they are the ones taking photos of themselves, they just know how to angle themselves/pose (w/e) for the photo for them to look good, is a weird skill lolI don't know what photogenic actually means. Does it mean you can smile? Im sure you're attractive to someone.
Yeah I didn't really meant hours, more like 10+ mins besides foreplay time idk.
And well the process of finding someone that doesn't judge bc of that is just scary, makes me insecure. If I think about it logically it might also lead to a higher probability to be cheated on which hits my confidence and insecurity even more.
Yeah thats a big part of the issue, sex doesn't really satisfy me right now and makes me feel bad about myself which leads to insecurity and fear of forming relationships.
And yes you can satisfy your partner by other means but is not the same imo. In my mind it should be balanced, if you do a really good foreplay but lack heavily on the other part then they will still be left craving for more (and you too).
Right now sex is not fun/enjoyable for me and is not like I'm asexual, I definitely have a desire for it but my problem ruins the fun and makes it feel like a chore bc 95% of sex time I'm the one "putting effort" on satisfying my partner, which shouldn't be the case if I were fking normal, it should balanced and I shouldn't be thinking on it like a job. In the bed I'm not selfish at all and always put in effort to satisfy my partner but man it starts to feel like a tedious job after a while.
Maybe its just me but foreplay is such a huge part of things for me that the actual penetration part just doesn't seem that important? If I last two minutes, so what, the overall sexual experience between the two of us was still great all taken together
Could be good, could be bad. Just keep dating other people and dont invest too much.Plot twist ! The girl I asked on a date 2 weeks ago told me that finally, she cannot go on the date. However she wanted to see next friday. I really cannot understand her, on one hand she didn't seem too sold on the idea and on the other hand she asked for another date, maybe she's actually interested...
Always with the excuses. But when you do get interest and it does not work out you cry "She just took advantage of a nice guy".
I don't know what photogenic actually means. Does it mean you can smile? Im sure you're attractive to someone. Have you ever got a match? Do you have even just one friend or family member who can take a picture of you when you're out and about? A daytime photo in a city or the countryside would do. Or just get strangers to take your photo in tourist spots.
Yeah, having no photos is such a weird excuse. Just work on your self-confidence. Im not the greatest looking guy - also thinking not photogenic, but I don't give a flying fuck about that, and I've had the pleasure of dating very lovely women. Keep yourself healthy, have a haircut, dress like you care and the women will care for you.
Yeah, I'm a nice guy and get walked over.
It doesn't mean I wasn't led on
How short are you talking?I feel like using 3-4 pics is the best rather than the full 6. Pet photos can be very effective. Bio can vary depending on what you are looking for, but I've kept mine short and sweet with much success at the moment.
Penetration is my least favourite bit about intimacy with my partner, because it is often uncomfortable if not downright sore. I would much rather spend lots of time on foreplay then only have a few minutes of actual sex than 15+ minutes. I'm sure plenty of other women feel the same. The key is communication. My partner knows I get sore easily and is always gentle and attentive. Maybe the best thing to do is to communicate how you feel about sex with your partner?
I started off with something dumb like: I think pineapple pizza should be banned.You can keep it to a sentence if you want. As mentioned previously, on Tinder your pics really are more important than your bio. A clever bio can definitely help though.
I started off with something dumb like: I think pineapple pizza should be banned.
Just to be lame, then I state some interests and my job.
Why weird?I may be catchin feelings for a Tinder hookup and it's...weird
Don't like feelings
It's really not mate. I've got to be honest i was very sceptical about Tinder dates turning into actual relationships but what i observed changed my mind about that.I may be catchin feelings for a Tinder hookup and it's...weird
Yeah I hear you thereDon't like feelings
Feelings complicate things
I like spending time with her, I spend a lot of my time with her, we went on an actual date that went well on Saturday, but like...fuck feelings
No it's weird because I don't like having feelings at this stageIt's really not mate. I've got to be honest i was very sceptical about Tinder dates turning into actual relationships but what i observed changed my mind about that.
One of my best friends met her boyfriend on Tinder and they're in a strong relationship since then.
She was feeling weird at first but realizing the fact that it is actually not weird - at - all is not hard.
I'm autistic. Social skills are a struggle for me. But I want to date. I want to meet people and feel less lonely. I just do not have the social skills or the confidence, nor do I have any clue where to start to gain those. When I was younger I had more confidence, but the lack of social skills led to me being... really fucking creepy if I'm being honest. Realizing how bad I was took my already-beginning-to-sink confidence out back and shot it dead. But I have no idea where to start to rebuild my confidence or my ability to interact with people.
All of my social skills comes from years of practice practice practice. I have had minimal opportunity to practice dating. That doesn't help either.
the bolded seems to be enough in my opinionSo I'm thinking of finally giving online dating a try. The thing is that I'm disabled and use a wheelchair pretty much full-time. Do I need to address that any further than a body shot that will inevitably show me in my chair? Just in terms of my profile. I'm used to fielding some wacky questions in real life and I dunno if I need to address anything preemptively here.
the bolded seems to be enough in my opinion
putting preemptive answers to stupid questions, while probably justified, would make you come off as bitter to many
sure but some of us do all that without taking pictures of themselvesAbout the whole picture thing. If you don't have enough friends to take pictures of you or don't do enough things or go enough places to have some decent photos, that just shows an underlying issue that is going to continue to be a problem in dating.
You can make it a mission to dress up and go to a bar with a friend with the intention of taking dating pictures and while that may get you some good ones, it's not gonna fix the long term problem that you don't socialize or get out or do much at all, things which will greatly limit your dating opportunities.
Really you should be trying to be more social and do more interesting things, go more interesting places to round yourself out as a person and just to enjoy yourself. The potential tinder pics are just a bonus rather than the goal. You want to be doing these things where you're having pictures taken.
this sounds much more like a managing-expectations-with-distance/travel-issues problem (been there) than a texting-too-early problemSexting girl went quiet on me. Not sure if because travels or the spark is gone (we hadn't exchanged pics in awhile) but I'm a tad concerned but not surprised it came to this.
I was fine with waiting for her to come back to our home state to meet up and hook up and have this casual thing but I think I was an ends to a mean.
She got off and found something better.
I'm done messaging her. It's a lesson not to sext so early on when you're just getting to know someone.
About the whole picture thing. If you don't have enough friends to take pictures of you or don't do enough things or go enough places to have some decent photos, that just shows an underlying issue that is going to continue to be a problem in dating.
Has she bailed on you?I am seen as a dumb nice guy. Is there hope for us, or do you need to be a 'bad' boy?
No i am talking about me in general. I wasnt dating until my mid 20s and then i got into a long relationship where i was often used and it lasted 9 years too long before I had the guts to end it.
I am seen as a dumb nice guy. Is there hope for us, or do you need to be a 'bad' boy?
Self proclaimed "nice guys" usually never are. You've just already played the "I was used card" just like TheBeardedOne.No i am talking about me in general. I wasnt dating until my mid 20s and then i got into a long relationship where i was often used and it lasted 9 years too long before I had the guts to end it.
Self proclaimed "nice guys" usually never are. You've just already played the "I was used card" just like TheBeardedOne.
"Asking for a friend", sorry I missed that in your one sentence post.Fine dont believe me if you want. But speaking in general about nice guys and dating.
I mean her phone could have died or she's out of service but we were talking daily and now it's at a standstill. I'm probably miss reading the situation.this sounds much more like a managing-expectations-with-distance/travel-issues problem (been there) than a texting-too-early problem