Let's Counter intolerance with intolerance. That's surely a good Solution.
And while we are at it, let's presume every strict religious dude is a dick.
How nice of you :)
Well, uh, yeah?
Let's Counter intolerance with intolerance. That's surely a good Solution.
And while we are at it, let's presume every strict religious dude is a dick.
How nice of you :)
maybe read the text? there's text in that image. I can photoshop churches and crucifixes instead of swastikas and torches, if that makes you more comfortable?Wow comparing christians to nazis.
I'm out of here, this is disgusting.
I've been reading every post in this thread and some has been helpful and some have not been helpful. I appreciate everyone's input but please try to stop the argument that's going on in here.maybe read the text? there's text in that image. I can photoshop churches and crucifixes instead of swastikas and torches, if that makes you more comfortable?
maybe read the text? there's text in that image. I can photoshop churches and crucifixes instead of swastikas and torches, if that makes you more comfortable?
winny posted that picture in regards to fighting intolerance with intolerance, not to compare christianity with nazism.The comparison is idiotic and the text does not change it.
You are generalizing christianity as a whole disregarding the people who are not like that, are loving and caring people and do good work in the world.
But yeah every Christian is a fucktard.
The comparison is idiotic and the text does not change it.
You are generalizing christianity as a whole disregarding the people who are not like that, are loving and caring people and do good work in the world.
But yeah every Christian is a fucktard.
winny posted that picture in regards to fighting intolerance with intolerance, not to compare christianity with nazism.
So I have been dating my current girlfriend for around a year. From the beginning we both knew that I wasnt religious and that she was Christian. But from the beginning she also mentioned that she has no issue being with someone who doesnt share every same opinion on spirituality. I wouldn't say i am a religious person in any way, I've always just thought "meh, maybe something greater is out there but I'm not going to pursue it. The problems that arise in my life can be solved by analyzing why they exist and working on making logical steps to solving them". Today while she was at church I guess her pastor gave a lecture on how one must "stay pure" and that the only way for jesus to love them wholly is to abstain from sex until marriage. It struck a chord in my girlfriend and she called me and told me that she is no longer going to have sex until marriage.
Soooo as i stated, we've been dating for around a year. And we have had sex regularly during the entire relationship. Religion has never caused any issues or divides in our relationship yet but she is very serious about this now and essentially its either;
a. We continue to date but no longer have sex
B. We break up
Of all of my numerous relationships, I have never felt such a strong foundation built on love and trust as I have with this one. I feel fairly strongly that I could end up marrying her in the future, but due to us both doing graduate school, i highly doubt we would be married within the next couple of years.
I've always believed sexual intimacy to be an important part in a relationship. I dont see sex as just a lustful act, i see it as a pure connection to another person on a highly emotional and physical level. So im contemplating our future. I adore this woman, and am open to supporting her wishes, but it feels like such a step backwards in our relationship after we've already been sexually active for a long time. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Is it do-able in the long run?
Weird, I know a lot of religious people (admittedly most of them not Christian) that are very nice and tolerate.Religion breeds intolerance. It's not hard to figure out why some people aren't very tolerant of that. It's also not surprising that the more religious you are, the more of a dick you become.
We can kiss, hold hands, cuddle, and still share the same bed. We just can't really do anything sexual.If you are serious about her than giving it a few months to see how things pan out is reasonable. I suppose the no intimacy rule includes most things, like kissing, holding hand, cuddling etc?
Weird, I know a lot of religious people (admittedly most of them not Christian) that are very nice and tolerate.
That's good at least.We can kiss, hold hands, cuddle, and still share the same bed. We just can't really do anything sexual.
That was kind of my point.The word religion is a broad brush but you can't deny that there are some faiths where intolerance is quite literally part of the program, top down.
Im nervous as shit right now. I thought things were going well after i told her I'd work with her and agree to avoid sex. I hadnt heard from her all day and she wasn't answering my texts or snapchats. A few minutes ago i got a text "i have a lot on my mind and we need to talk after work". I responded by asking if she wanted me to drive over to see her after work and she said "no. Please don't"
I don't know whats going on anymore, between this and my graduate projects this week has been one of the most stressful of my life.
Im nervous as shit right now. I thought things were going well after i told her I'd work with her and agree to avoid sex. I hadnt heard from her all day and she wasn't answering my texts or snapchats. A few minutes ago i got a text "i have a lot on my mind and we need to talk after work". I responded by asking if she wanted me to drive over to see her after work and she said "no. Please don't"
I don't know whats going on anymore, between this and my graduate projects this week has been one of the most stressful of my life.
This now reads to me like she actually wants to break up, and hoped by making that ultimatum it would cause you to break up with her rather than the other way around. But now she is being forced to do it since you "called her bluff".Im nervous as shit right now. I thought things were going well after i told her I'd work with her and agree to avoid sex. I hadnt heard from her all day and she wasn't answering my texts or snapchats. A few minutes ago i got a text "i have a lot on my mind and we need to talk after work". I responded by asking if she wanted me to drive over to see her after work and she said "no. Please don't"
I don't know whats going on anymore, between this and my graduate projects this week has been one of the most stressful of my life.
This now reads to me like she actually wants to break up, and hoped by making that ultimatum it would cause you to break up with her rather than the other way around. But now she is being forced to do it since you "called her bluff".
I got letters instead.I'm glad I grew old enough in an era where nobody could break up with me via text. Damn.
This was so on the money.This now reads to me like she actually wants to break up, and hoped by making that ultimatum it would cause you to break up with her rather than the other way around. But now she is being forced to do it since you "called her bluff".
She didnt even say why. "Look I don't need to explain myself. This is what I want , and being alone will make me happy. I don't want to come see you and please don't come here. I tried to do it over the phone "
She just broke up over text. Im having a breakdown. She wont see me
You seem like a really nice dude. I'm so so sorry that this happened. You didn't deserve to be treat like that at all.She didnt even say why. "Look I don't need to explain myself. This is what I want , and being alone will make me happy. I don't want to come see you and please don't come here. I tried to do it over the phone "
I appreciate everyone in here a lot right now. I dont really have many people to take to in person since i just moved down here in september. So it means a lot.
Im just so lost right now. She wouldnt even see me in person to try and talk. She told me that she doesnt need to explain why shes breaking up with me and that makes me feel like lower than I've ever felt. How can you do that to someone and not have the respect or heart to at least explain why or in person? This is not how I saw this going. Even this morning she texted and said how excited she was to see me tomorrow. 5 hours later i got the breakup text.
Can't believe I agree with Subpar, but it's true.
Can't believe I agree with Subpar, but it's true.
You dated this girl for over a year, and she 1. breaks up with you via text, 2. doesn't give you an explanation, and 3. possibly lied to you about the whole no-sex rule to force you to break up with her.
It is extremely shitty, and you are better off without her. I know you feel like shit right now and would like an explanation for closure, but she's not budging right now. There's nothing you can do except let go. Maybe you can contact her in a month to ask for an explanation, and making sure you mention that you need it for closure, but don't tell yourself that it's going to happen.
I'm sorry, TC.
I appreciate everyone in here a lot right now. I dont really have many people to take to in person since i just moved down here in september. So it means a lot.
Im just so lost right now. She wouldnt even see me in person to try and talk. She told me that she doesnt need to explain why shes breaking up with me and that makes me feel like lower than I've ever felt. How can you do that to someone and not have the respect or heart to at least explain why or in person? This is not how I saw this going. Even this morning she texted and said how excited she was to see me tomorrow. 5 hours later i got the breakup text.