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Is bumble actually just the worst app for dudes when it comes to dating
- Thread starter Bobson Dugnutt
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I've made a few good friends and met my current GF on it. Honestly, the pool is just better. Usually experienced daters, people are more straightforward and such. Actually looking for a connection. Definitely not for flings and hookups.
Disclaimer: I'm 41 and usually date 35-45. No idea what the younger subset is like, but for my age bracket it's great.
Disclaimer: I'm 41 and usually date 35-45. No idea what the younger subset is like, but for my age bracket it's great.
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OK cupid is the best for me.
It's not like I don't put the effort in, it's just I get fuck all initially. Need to beautify my profile
Oh, no doubt. But there's gotta be one that sucks less then the others.
Each app probably varies by area as seems to be the case from some posts here.
My 2 sister-in-laws only use Bumble for dating. They specifically told me that they prefer to because they have to initiate.
They're both also white conservative Christians. So take that as you will.
They're both also white conservative Christians. So take that as you will.
White. All white. All of em.
It's wild. Some of that is the app's algorithm, but still.
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Bumble has actually been pretty decent, once I decided to keep it longer than a week. Been on a pretty steady stream of first dates, and one second with a third upcoming.
Granted it doesn't compare to the heyday of Tinder. Those were some crazy fun times.
Although I did find that these apps worked a lot better when I travelled to the states or really anywhere outside of Vancouver.
Granted it doesn't compare to the heyday of Tinder. Those were some crazy fun times.
Although I did find that these apps worked a lot better when I travelled to the states or really anywhere outside of Vancouver.
As a white guy in a white town I also noticed Bumble is... really, really white. Even by my local standards.
Tinder is still best for diversity around here.
I haven't used Bumble but my brother has told me its vastly superior to Tinder and Coffee Meets Bagel. I found my current girlfriend after having had Tinder downloaded for 1 day lol, been together almost a year come September. If I was single I would definitely give Bumble a try though.
this is pretty much my experience every time. maybe german girls hate to break the ice, but then why use the app lol.
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I don't want to do a public ugly off but might be worth a pm to compare.
I'll just flat out say that Coffee Meets Bagel is a piece of shit app that no one should ever bother with.
They tend to get the most likes, so they're pushed to the top most often.
But shit. Houston isn't supposed to be this damn white lmao. It's rare I find a black or Latina or even Asian woman, which is wild in this city.
Dating apps were great when I was dating. Swipe and message. Take decent photos, don't be creepy, and don't take it too seriously cause that shit is detectable.
Bumble is a far, far better application than tinder.
- account verification reduces bot spam
- match timer reduces swipe collectors (though women can game the system by pushing out a generic "Hi" then ignoring you for weeks if you reply)
- women are generally more interested in serious relationships
- profiles are more complete
- app is more stable, especially in messaging
- no 100 swipe "cooldown timer"
- no obtrusive ads or ad profiles
I went on a lot more tinder dates but had a lot more success connecting with people on bumble, despite both apps offering a similar premise.
Why rich people?
- account verification reduces bot spam
- match timer reduces swipe collectors (though women can game the system by pushing out a generic "Hi" then ignoring you for weeks if you reply)
- women are generally more interested in serious relationships
- profiles are more complete
- app is more stable, especially in messaging
- no 100 swipe "cooldown timer"
- no obtrusive ads or ad profiles
I went on a lot more tinder dates but had a lot more success connecting with people on bumble, despite both apps offering a similar premise.
Why rich people?
Hinge is interesting because they've done away with the whole waiting for a match thing that they had when it started. Now it will just tell you that someone liked your profile, and they will note them as you go through the dating pool (I think they separate it out into it's own specific category if you're a paying member).
It's made me a lot less likely to go through the swiping part, because I already know that a couple of the girls I'm going to see have already liked me, and once I see all of them I stop for a while.
Reading this thread the first thing that came to my mind: what is stopping girls from saying just hi?
I haven't tried bumble but reading the responses here I would assume it's not bad? The only other dating apps ived used were black planet back in the day (met my ex of 7 years) okcupid and pof. Okcupid is decent I've had some nice hookups from there but pof I feel is definitely the best dating app ived used. Whether you're looking for something serious or not there's someone for everybody on that app. I'll give bumble a try tho as long as it's free.
CoffeeMeetsBagel was my go to during my single days.
I tried: Tinder.(no success)
Bumble(little/no success)
Okcupid(mild success)
I'm Asian btw.
I tried: Tinder.(no success)
Bumble(little/no success)
Okcupid(mild success)
I'm Asian btw.
I met my fair share of Asian women on bumble in Houston. Probably 60% white, 40% asian. But I have my type. Definitely no Latino or Black matches on bumble, only saw them on Tinder.
Saw a dude on the Bumble subreddit who was just CONVINCED that Bumble intentionally tanked your ELO rating if you ever deleted your profile and made it again. He insisted that Bumble tracked profiles by the phone's ID when you give them your number and the only way to get a fresh restart was to get a completely new phone. He even raised support tickets with their customer service and when they inevitably said "no we don't do that", he was like "they're not admitting it, they're giving me the run-around!" All because he said he wasn't getting any matches.
I look to things like that and say well my OLD experiences might suck but at least I'm not that guy lol
I look to things like that and say well my OLD experiences might suck but at least I'm not that guy lol
I was under the impression that Bumble was sorta the facto "attractive and/or professional" app. Like if you were not attractive and/or professional making close to or over 6 figures then don't bother. I mean it already feels like there's no point using any of this if you are an Asian male based on case studies.
Oh my God, are you me?
I feel like I should be 80x more attractive to use that shitty app. Tinder treats me way better lmao.
Even the few matches I do get on Bumble have far more boring conversations. Plus! It seems like there's def a racial difference. Only matched with black women on Bumble.
Which - considering the reputation of each app - may say a lot about racial preferences. Or my own attractiveness. Or both!
Fuck Bumble
I mean yeah, but especially for these swiping apps. Bit of a racial component, too.
I feel like I should be 80x more attractive to use that shitty app. Tinder treats me way better lmao.
Even the few matches I do get on Bumble have far more boring conversations. Plus! It seems like there's def a racial difference. Only matched with black women on Bumble.
Which - considering the reputation of each app - may say a lot about racial preferences. Or my own attractiveness. Or both!
Fuck Bumble
I mean yeah, but especially for these swiping apps. Bit of a racial component, too.
Same here. She uses it exclusively and she said it works infinitely better.
Not really. People are allowed to change their minds after matching lol.
I've definitely matched with girls who've messaged me, gone to look at their profiles and pictures again, and gone "...nah! Nvm" lol. It happens. As with all things dating, try not to take it personally and hope for better next time.
