I think that's the case for every major city. I'm in the Philly area and I've never seen so many in shape pretty white girls. I have no problem with that but I'm also black so I get zero matches
Why are you even on Bumble at that point? haha
This is why I think Bumble sucks if you're a guy. While there are exceptions to this and it only applies to straight people, it's pretty much the standard that the guy must initiate and get the girl's attention and then ask her on a date. Bumble is basically trying to swim upstream with this by trying to flip the script and reverse the roles. But like most women on the apps probably don't even know how to initiate well since they never have to and also it's just comfortable for people doing things the way they've been so it just reverts back to how it is on any other site. The difference now is there's a barrier on top of a time limit. So as a guy, why would you even want to bother with that when Tinder is literally the same thing but without the extra step?
Yes love seeing all those one word "hi" messages
How is that an issue with tinder or bumble when they can limit who they receive messages from? Even okcupid has changed so that they have to like the other person to see their message.
IMHO, I don't use professional shots. It screams try-hard to me. I think 2 shots at most are fine. Models and actresses love to use their head shots/professional pics but it doesn't do anything for me because they're formal as sin if you get what I'm saying. Posing is a fixed thing whereas informal shots have more personality.
I've never used the daily extend feature. I usually just unmatch the person an hour or 30 mins before it's up. There hasn't been anyone in particular that's made me want to extend it. It's a dumb feature for sure as it makes it the same as Tinder in the end of the day.
Agreed. The dozens of hi's, heys, and how are you messages are super low effort. I usually respond with the same effort. Women get lazy but laziness is no excuse to go the 5 second route.
You and me both. It just got tiring so whatever, I gave up.
I think the fact that Bumble allows a way for women to filter out all the crap they tend to get on other dating sites is great. But to the last part of your post, I feel like no matter if you're a man or a woman, if you initiate with a boring and generic message, it's not good and there's no real reason the other person should jump at the chance to talk to you. Why should anyone have to "validate" someone's choice to match them? Ideally both parties should have a personality and be fun to talk to. If you're going to initiate a message, why not try to showcase that and show some real interest in the person?
While I was online dating, this was definitely true. In fact, Coffee Meets Bagel was the most effective for me with Tinder being a close second.
Oh yeah, I agree as just a general social standard, men are expected to initiate the conversation, show that they're interesting, ask the woman out on a date, etc. It's not black and white like you said as not everyone works within these confines exactly but in general that's how things go. That said, I would say that both men and women stress over and worry about initiating messages on dating apps. It's just that with the general standards of dating we operate in, if you're a guy, if you don't get over that you're not going to get many dates while if you're a woman, there's really no need to do that since guys will come to you.
