I should have broken the news here.
I guess I should say it in here.
I got married. :3
Hi, many thanks to weemadarthur for the invite to this thread. I'm a long-time UK GAF and now ERA lurker, should really post more!
Hi hi! Welcome!Hi, everyone! Thank you weemadarthur for the invitation to this thread! I've been lurking on ERA for a while, and I'm finally starting to get more active in the community.
I'm happy to be here and talk with you all!
I'm a coder, and I fortunately have not. I think it has something to do with my city (Montreal) which is generally really good when it comes to gender issues. It also definitely depends on your team/boss, too.Are there coders here and have you experienced sexism at work as in some articles I've read? Or is that rare and it's generally fine depending on your team/boss?
I haven't encountered more sexism in programming than in other walks of life. Just a regular amount, akin to what I've run into in other professional creative environments. The worst of it has come from men who feel inadequate at their work, so don't have any self confidence and rely on belittling instead. If you get on a good team then there shouldn't be as much of that going around.I am thinking of making a career change from healthcare to coding and there might be an internship available at a small start-up company.
Are there coders here and have you experienced sexism at work as in some articles I've read? Or is that rare and it's generally fine depending on your team/boss?
I am thinking of making a career change from healthcare to coding and there might be an internship available at a small start-up company.
Are there coders here and have you experienced sexism at work as in some articles I've read? Or is that rare and it's generally fine depending on your team/boss?
It's hard to say not knowing your finances, safety nets, what type of programming job this actually is, and so on.Thank you all for your replies, that's very informative.
I don't know if it would be paid or not, but I don't mind as being in that environment will help me see if tech is for me or not.
To complicate matters, I've been offered a job in my healthcare field which is paying the highest hourly rate and it's very tempting to take that instead of being an intern for three months.
I need to figure out if I want to change careers and take an (initial?) paycut or stick with my current job, where I am already fairly senior.
Unfortunately, this post made me smile as I am rewatching Bates Motel right now. Completely inappropriate for the discussion. You are absolutely right.I just realised that I really really dislike the 'good mother' as a character. Movies or shows where the woman is only portrayed in the mother role without any kind of character or depth. All sacrifice, patience and angelic smiles while looking at her little darlings . I feel that it is an unhealthy stereotype.
I see mothers around me feeling guilty when they are not able to live up to that sugarcoated illusion. I just had to tell a crying coworker that it is ok to not feel like playing boardgames with the kids before school when the ending of your relationship is a complete shitstorm. That being a mother doesn't cancel out your right to be a human being with needs like rest. Just adding hurt to an already painful situation.
Unfortunately, this post made me smile as I am rewatching Bates Motel right now. Completely inappropriate for the discussion. You are absolutely right.
Not sure if you've seen Bates Motel, but it's actually a pretty good show for this discussion. Poor Norma, in the end, can't reconcile having a normal life with being a mother to Norman.Well you're not far off. My annoyance came to a boil watching the haunting of hill house.
I see mothers around me feeling guilty when they are not able to live up to that sugarcoated illusion. I just had to tell a crying coworker that it is ok to not feel like playing boardgames with the kids before school when the ending of your relationship is a complete shitstorm. That being a mother doesn't cancel out your right to be a human being with needs like rest. Just adding hurt to an already painful situation.
Yes and please let them stay clear of the ultimate monster. The good mother who is also has a successful career.I hope that as women are achieving higher education levels than men in their age group, we'll see more variety in how families and parenting are portrayed.
Not sure if you've seen Bates Motel, but it's actually a pretty good show for this discussion. Poor Norma, in the end, can't reconcile having a normal life with being a mother to Norman.
I think things are changing some in that regard. Two new network shows this season, I Feel Fine and Single Parents, both prominently focus on parents with complex motivations and varying levels of parental success. As has the show American Housewife, now in its third season, and Netflix show One Day at a Time, which currently has two seasons available for viewing.I just realised that I really really dislike the 'good mother' as a character. Movies or shows where the woman is only portrayed in the mother role without any kind of character or depth. All sacrifice, patience and angelic smiles while looking at her little darlings . I feel that it is an unhealthy stereotype.
I see mothers around me feeling guilty when they are not able to live up to that sugarcoated illusion. I just had to tell a crying coworker that it is ok to not feel like playing boardgames with the kids before school when the ending of your relationship is a complete shitstorm. That being a mother doesn't cancel out your right to be a human being with needs like rest. Just adding hurt to an already painful situation.
I think things are changing some in that regard. Two new network shows this season, I Feel Fine and Single Parents, both prominently focus on parents with complex motivations and varying levels of parental success. As has the show American Housewife, now in its third season, and Netflix show One Day at a Time, which currently has two seasons available for viewing.
Sorry to just dump a bunch of recommendations on you, but I do think things are getting better!
As if I didn't have enough fucking shit going wrong with my health... I now have pretty much constant heartburn the past few days. Zantac not helping anymore. Getting heartburn on an empty stomach and on foods that usually never give me heartburn. Previously, I would only have it with trigger foods and taking a preventive Zantac beforehand would stop it cold. By some miracle, I was able to get an appointment with a GI doctor as a new patient tomorrow. I called today thinking I'd have to wait a few weeks or months and got lucky. I had an endoscopy and colonoscopy and nothing major came up and I was just diagnosed with general IBS. Might be time for a new batch of procedures. My grandmother died at 51 (19 years before I was born) of stomach cancer so I get nervous about this shit.
I also have the back MRI later in the day tomorrow. Busy day of fuckery. Back is feeling better today at least. Hopefully I can get some relief with the heartburn before my vacation in a week. It's a fucking theme park (Universal Orlando) so constant heartburn would really fucking suck with the rides.
Thank you so much!I'm sorry to hear about all the pain and discomfort, I hope everything gets better soon, and you get the care you need. How did the MRI go?
Thank you! <3Hope the Prilosec helps you Linkura, and that you can enjoy your vacation! With all your health issues, you really deserve to enjoy them.
Thank you!Good luck Linkura! Glad the med seems to be helping! Hopefully you end up having a great vacation!
Thank you!
I'm on a fb group for the theme park I will be visiting on my vacation. Last night a young woman said she was harassed outside the park last night by two guys who kept asking to have drinks with her (she is underage too). Most people responded appropriately, but of course one commenter commented that "you're so pretty no wonder they hit on you." I called him disgusting and that brought out a gross misogynist who called another guy who agreed with me a white knight.
Now I'm kinda worried because I'll be going there alone. Usually the fact that I look like a young teenager at age 30 and the fact that I always wear my wedding ring protects me from most assholes, but I am going to be extra vigilant. Certainly use the provided transportation instead of walking back alone at night.
How did you know it was Universal hahahaaThat poor girl. I've been going there regularly for the last year or so. It's normally pretty chill, but I think rowdier folks come out during this Halloween season. Definitely use the transportation, it's been very reliable for me. The workers there are very attentive as well, if you experience something dodgy.
I hope you have fun though. And from everything I've heard the new fast and furious ride is NOT worth the wait.
How did you know it was Universal hahahaa
I'm staying at Portofino (they JUST made regular rooms available with the Annual Pass discount and it was only 25/night more than Royal Pacific so I nabbed it, wanted to stay there to begin with but until now it was just too much of a price difference to justify), so I'll make sure to take the water taxi everywhere. It'll save my feet a little too. I'm a vet with Disney World solo trips, but this is my first time to Universal in 25 years and my first HHN ever. I've always loved Halloween so I should have fun.
I'm planning on trying the Fast and Furious ride in single rider if it's a short wait because I love "bad" stuff. I think it'll be good for a chuckle at least if it's 15 minute or less wait. I know it's supposed to be shitty.
Thanks!!Saw you mention it in an earlier post. lol. The Harry Potter sections are so damn cool. Have fun and be safe!
Thank you so much!
MRI went fine. The doctor will get the results today so hopefully I'll hear today or tomorrow.
GI doctor put me on Prilosec for 2 weeks to heal and calm down the inflammation to try to get back to my baseline. He agreed with my theory that it was probably an after effect of an antibiotic I got off 2 weeks ago (though I've never had such a reaction before). If that doesn't work, another 2 weeks on it. If that doesn't work, endoscopy. The Prilosec seems to be helping so I'm glad my vacation next week won't be ruined.
Thanks. The heartburn is pretty much gone, which is a crazy improvement. I'm still getting some acid reflux/"silent burps" but that's ok.I'm glad to hear the Prilosec is helping out, hopefully everything will get sorted soon enough. Enjoy your vacation!!
Thanks. The heartburn is pretty much gone, which is a crazy improvement.
Yup! It looks like the rheumatologist's work is done. Going to make an appointment with the orthopedic.That's osteoarthritis and not rheumatoid arthritis, yes? Because the treatments recommended can be opposites, particularly in regard to heat.
Whoa, thanks for all of this great info!
Back before we figured out what was going on with my hands and knees, I used ice packs. They helped a little.
I'm concerned about what type of physical activity to do or avoid. Hopefully the orthopedic doctor can give good advice as well as some pt exercises. I already do some, but hoping to see if others would be more effective.
hiya!So, uhm... hi! I've lurked before but I don't think I've ever posted, I was a bit worried I was too old for the Era demographic, but I've been reassured that's not the case :)
I'm in my forties, gamer, mother and wife (not necessarily in that order) and into most thinks geekery. Our daughter is 18 and off to college next year although luckily she can stay living at home and commute, so no empty nest for me just yet. All three of us are avid gamers, at the moment we're playing World of Warcraft together.
I'm a bit shy, and its been hard to find women of a similar age with similar interests over the years, so I'm happy to have been invited.
Aww, welcome! I wish we had more people like you on this board :)So, uhm... hi! I've lurked before but I don't think I've ever posted, I was a bit worried I was too old for the Era demographic, but I've been reassured that's not the case :)
I'm in my forties, gamer, mother and wife (not necessarily in that order) and into most thinks geekery. Our daughter is 18 and off to college next year although luckily she can stay living at home and commute, so no empty nest for me just yet. All three of us are avid gamers, at the moment we're playing World of Warcraft together.
I'm a bit shy, and its been hard to find women of a similar age with similar interests over the years, so I'm happy to have been invited.