he had more than a month to cut ties with alax, alax has been known as a rapist for over a year, like alax being scum isnt new info
God you people are impossible to help see perspectives other than your own.
I know that.
I am not justifying what Scott did. I'm saying shit's way more complicated than "know thing, do thing." Because there are many degrees of knowing, and believing and understanding, especially if this is your first time being betrayed by your friend being a shitty person. Have you been through that? I have. Hell I've gone through that rationalization process with someone
who sexually assaulted me. I was the victim. And it took me years. Ya'll do not have any capacity for empathy about the completely fucked, imperfect nature of human beings. You sit here hyperanalyzing a few outside details and have no idea of the situation, emotions, or knowledge, manipulation, or all kinds of messy bullshit that happens to real people, especially when it's their first time dealing with a horrible topic and have their basic human instincts of ignore and rationalize take over to carry them through.
How about let people grow as they figure this shit out, because it's not that easy. And if it is that easy for you, I doubt how seriously close you are to any of your friends.
Absolutely none of what I'm saying is defending Scott here. What I am saying is it's incredibly easy for you to be judgmental about people you don't know, and it's super hypocritical, because the moment any person talking like this gets into a situation this messy for the first time, especially if it's a situation they've not thought through before, they are going to act just as imperfectly. It's fundamentally a toxic, immature way to look at other human beings. Like, it's just gossip, fundamentally.
Human beings are not rational.
And again, you guys talk about people doing bad things as if they can't learn and grow. Like there's this arbitrary window of "mistake" and then it becomes, well he had long enough. I mean, that's only true if something was a mistake. But sometimes, and I'm gonna blow your mind, people make bad decisions, and then they eventually learn to be different. And being toxic and still condemning them does not help the world, it just asks the world to stay how it is, because everyone, always, is going to be shitty.
I'm so tired of this "is this person a good person who made a mistake, or are they a bad person." There is no such real world dichotomy. That is not how human beings work.
I got OUT of conservativism because of this moralistic implasticity.
The correct way to respond to someone taking extra long to do the right thing is, "good, now clean up the rest that still needs cleaning."
That's it. I'm not saying there should be a bend of standards. I'm not saying he gets off with no responsibility. What I'm saying is "well too late" is a hypocritical, completely unempathetic, shitty, childish, and proud as fuck attitude.
It's funny because I'm just going to get responses of people who didn't read anything I wrote and go "yeah, but Scott still hasn't done everything he needs to do. He doesn't have any excuse."
Yes. He doesn't have any excuse. I said that. I also said he still needs to do better and apologize to those he ignored.
But you don't do that by saying that because he took too long to be better, his being better is worthless. Because if that's the case, why, realistically, should he bother continuing to grow? He's already been condemned. You've made up your mind. He's not a real, plastic human being like you are. He's a character who is a bad guy now. That's all he is.
It's a childish, myopic, immature, proud view.
