Diversify your portfolio OP.Have you tried meet ups, speed dating, or rec sports? Change your strategy.
Online only strategy is not the best.
Diversify your portfolio OP.Have you tried meet ups, speed dating, or rec sports? Change your strategy.
Online only strategy is not the best.
only had 2 girlfriend, only slept with one of them... once, and the total of time i've ibeen n a relationship is two month
i'm 30 now, so yeah... Im terrible at this, i'm just a boring guy, or i just never had the luck to find someone with the same interests as me, but now i don't try anymore, i don't care and i'm happier this way (sure if i find somebody that i'm interested in, i'll try something, but i don't go out of my way to find someone now)
Dating isnt your problem, its actually maintaining relationships. Consider why your relationships keep failing as your dating numbers are actually reasonable.NONE of these relationships lasted more than a few months. The longest lasting 3 months.
Don't be self defeatist! I don't share all my interests with my SO and nor does she with me. It's healthy to have things you do together, and things you do on your own. Don't let the idea that you need to find someone to compliment your lifestyle be what makes a perfect partner.
This place has more wizards than Hogwarts
Yep, this.Dating isnt your problem, its actually maintaining relationships. Consider why your relationships keep failing as your dating numbers are actually reasonable.
Maybe it's because you're treating dating like a game instead of a real human connection you make with someone. Authenticity and vulnerability go a long way.
Lists all his failed relationships and tells her he hopes this one works out.You really don't have a bad hit rate, as mentioned look at why you are having trouble retaining. There is no way for us to know on a forum, so rethink what goes wrong (or right) on any of the 2+ dates. Do you ramble about yourself to much, lack self-confidence, not listen to your date?
I don't want you to become depressed, but in all honesty, this probably does play a part.
lmaooo
Or am I uniquely and utterly cursed?
Over the past 12 years of online dating or so I've roughly:
- Messaged over 3000 women
- Went on over 100 first dates
- Went on over 20 second dates
- Slept with 7 different women
- Had 3 girlfriends
But through all this, NONE of these relationships lasted more than a few months. The longest lasting 3 months.
I am at the end of my wits. I use multiple different dating sites and at this point, I recognize nearly every face on there that I see and I've already messaged and been rejected by everyone that is left. I'm actually running out of people to interact with.
I try to message people that are 90% percent matched to me, or in the "Will Respond" section of sites, and they have the same interests as me. I hand-craft my opening messages for each person (at least a bit) so they know I read their profile.
I've gotten kisses on the first date, I've taken girls home on the first date. And despite all this, and despite everything I try to do, I can't find anything lasting.
This feels like a worse stigma than when I was trying to lose my virginity. I've never been in a long-term relationship and I don't know if I ever will be and I'm running out of ways to make it happen.
I own my own house here, and I am in a career job, but I've considered dropping everything and moving across the country PURELY for the new dating opportunities. This shit is that bad.
Definitely not true, like at all.First off, stop online dating.
I slept with women off Tindr, but the only meaningful relationships I've been in have been with women I met in real life. Currently in a 3 year relationship thats going better than I could have ever imagined.
Online dating is for hooking up only imo. If you want aq real relationship get off Tindr and all the other shit.
And what are you doing to improve yourself?
Don't be self defeatist! I don't share all my interests with my SO and nor does she with me. It's healthy to have things you do together, and things you do on your own. Don't let the idea that you need to find someone to compliment your lifestyle be what makes a perfect partner.
Seriously, OP has some good stats when compared to me.I'd kill for stats like that tbh OP. You are fairing far better than some.
What exactly are your supposedly oddball interests?i truly believed that for a long time, and tried regardless of what they liked, but i guess it's just not possible for everyone
Only someone with the same lifestyle/interest as me would be attracted to me at this point (and the same goes for me really), i'm really bad at conversations and don't care that much when it's not a subject that somewhat interest me a little! I tried to be interested in other people lives and interest, but it just felt hypocrite cause i wasn't really interested in the end... tried for years to make the effort to be someone i'm not... it's not worth all the hassle imo
I accepted the fact that i'm kinda boring outisde my own interests, and that's okay! Either way if i don't find anyone then so be it, it won't prevent me from living a happy life (maybe just frustating at times)
There's levels to this joke. I approveAnd what are you doing to improve yourself?
You could at least reach Neville level, I'm sure.
Something I've heard more than once is that "I just didn't feel a spark." That or after a good (or so I think) first date, tons of talking etc. I just never hear back from them. I've heard another say that she still has feelings for an Ex, but she never told him. The most random shit.
I've had people's fathers have heart attacks right before a date. Or their uncles or any close relative. This has happened more than once. Like, terrible things happening to people just before meeting me.
I've had things start off super hot and then people get too "busy", like 7 days a week can't find free time busy. This happens a lot too.
At this point it's making me really self conscious about ever little thing about myself.
Am I too short? Too heavy? I'm 5'5" and 160. I'm 32. My hair is starting to thin, is that it? Am I too boring? Am I too forward? Am I not forward enough? Should I try to hold hands on the first date? Should I go dutch or pay for her meal? What even is a good first date spot?
Nah, could definitely be worse.Or am I uniquely and utterly cursed?
Over the past 12 years of online dating or so I've roughly:
- Messaged over 3000 women
- Went on over 100 first dates
- Went on over 20 second dates
- Slept with 7 different women
- Had 3 girlfriends
Your family hasn't tried to set you up with someone dozens upon dozens of times?Dating is brutal. As someone who is 5'3, Indian, and balding it can be really hard to find someone to date me. I know I'm not very appealing to a lot of people online and it sucks.
Yeah, don't listen to this pua bullshit.Call me crazy but some women like when you are an asshole to them it's worked for me plenty of times. First don't over compliment them tell them that they look nice and that's it. Don't use words like beautiful and gorgeous and fine. On those sites guys tell them how gorgeous they are all day so they don't really need to hear it from you and hell its not like some of them aren't already big headed enough so keep the compliments to a minimum or none at all.
Next I wouldn't even mention that I have my own place and a career maybe you're sorta flaunting that to them and you don't want them to want you for the wrong reasons so I'd Dutch on all dates or let them cover the bill, again you wanna come off as an asshole but not too much of one.
And lastly come off as if you don't really need them make them feel as if they are replaceable. Never overreach for their attention if you guys are texting and she doesn't reply to your text don't send a second one make sure every text is a reply to hers. And when she does text you never reply right away and when she asks why you are responding so slow say you are busy dealing with important shit. Try the asshole approach it will work trust me.
YikesCall me crazy but some women like when you are an asshole to them it's worked for me plenty of times. First don't over compliment them tell them that they look nice and that's it. Don't use words like beautiful and gorgeous and fine. On those sites guys tell them how gorgeous they are all day so they don't really need to hear it from you and hell its not like some of them aren't already big headed enough so keep the compliments to a minimum or none at all.
Next I wouldn't even mention that I have my own place and a career maybe you're sorta flaunting that to them and you don't want them to want you for the wrong reasons so I'd Dutch on all dates or let them cover the bill, again you wanna come off as an asshole but not too much of one.
And lastly come off as if you don't really need them make them feel as if they are replaceable. Never overreach for their attention if you guys are texting and she doesn't reply to your text don't send a second one make sure every text is a reply to hers. And when she does text you never reply right away and when she asks why you are responding so slow say you are busy dealing with important shit. Try the asshole approach it will work trust me.
For you maybe, for me it's 100% within my experience.