Equating having an issue with 40+ year olds dating teenagers with people having an issue with interracial marriage is stupid.I didn't say I'd report you if you replied to me again. Please check back.
https://www.resetera.com/threads/wh...ge-gaps-in-dating.130201/page-8#post-22947506
My example gives a good, commonplace and quite recognisable case where a marriage between two people with a substantial age gap was entered into in good faith. They went on to raise three children. Richard sadly died in 1975 in a car accident that also took Mildred's right eye.
Richard dying and Mildred losing her eye have nothing to do with anything.
You continue with this bizarre method of writing romantically and emotively about couples with large age gaps (or otherwise irrelevant adult couples) as a means to try and diminish the suggestion that abuse can occur in the dynamic.
In your desperate attempt to hand-wave people having any scepticism around people 40+ having committed relationships with teenagers you've:
- Equated having an issue with it with people having an issue with interracial marriages.
- Suggested that their real issue is with women having any agency.
- Implied your experience of it working well somehow invalidates the notion of it being a dynamic particularly susceptible to abuse or there being a reason for concern.
- Called people concern trolls when they disagree with you.
- Claimed people are 'gaslighting' you when they said they aren't concern trolls.
- Claim that you're concerned because people in the past had concerns about the age of consent legally being 21 for gay men in the past
- Then heavily leaned on the law as a valid metric immediately after highlighting it as being flawed
- Referred to experience as an adult as being completely arbitrary in a relationship while aligning all of your arguments against the legal age of adulthood being 18
- Implied that experience of being a teenager is commonly the same as the experience of being an adult
This is seeming less about you in your youth and more you about you being 50+ in a thread where people are suggesting 40+ year olds shouldn't be out there chasing relationships with teenagers. Being happily married I don't even think it's about the chase, but I can guess that it still stings when it's read out. Which it shouldn't as it doesn't invalidate any of the positive experiences you have had.
Outside of that it's hard to reconcile this complete rejection you have over people being wary of these situations and an insistence on it being as standard as a white person dating a black person.
It isn't though. As has been said a hundred times prior, the dynamic doesn't necessitate abuse but it's one that can very easily foster it. Which makes your need for people to not view it as such all the more perplexing.
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