First off thank you for responding Zefah.
I'm really just responding to posts that catch my eye, so it's not like I have some kind of overarching agenda or goal for this thread (which I did not start, by the way).
I understand, i did not want to come off as if you are the problem, just that i didn't really understand what you wanted.
If I had to boil it down, I guess what I want is for this to be treated the same as other instances of harassment against women in that we all not just denounce the actions, but the validity of the reasoning and justifications that the perpetrators use. There will never be a valid justification for harassment or having a sense of entitlement to women that just happen to belong to your racial group or social group or whatever other loose connection the man happens to feel he has with said woman. No man should be bothered by a woman's dating preferences or the kind of people she is attracted to just like no woman should have the right to dictate what kind of people it is acceptable for men to form relationships with. Similarly, I believe that no one should feel obligated in this country to "stick with their own" loosely defined racial group and that's the kind of sentiment I am seeing expressed over an over again in here.
I agree with everything your saying here. Also this country being the US?
Exploring the underlying issues of emasculation of Asian men or the hypersexualization of Asian women and how racism affects both of those things is absolutely worth doing, but to do that in the context of a thread about harassment is just shifting the focus of the discussion from the victim to the victimizers and showing sympathy for them. It's nice to type out "no one should harass women," but it rings hollow if in the next sentence you're talking about the causes for disgruntlement among Asian men in America or as another poster put it, saying "she started it."
Here's the thing where i see why there's problems/discussions with you and other people and i actually now understand where you are coming from.
Here's the thing though, i understand we live in crappy times where there are far too many problems and we are looking at those things with very dark glasses.
But sometimes, and yes its difficult to see/hear, those things shouldn't be seen that dark. Sometimes things are just like they seem, wanting a honest discussion. Now is there a time for it, sure. But this kind of thing is happening for a very long time and this thread is pretty big compared to the other one. So its easier to use this thread and bring a more of a global attention to it. Most people don't really seem to think it is a problem with what's happening, otherwise the other thread would also be big.
Do i know what it's like, no. I'm not "asian american" (also not american, but i am brown so i can sort of understand where frustration can come from of not having a place to discuss it honestly) so i don't have first hand experience in it. I can only read about it.
Thank you for explaining it to me and i have no judgment if your wrong/stuborn or not. I just wanted to know your stand on being against, what i saw, you against the rest.