Being on a dating app while being convenientally attractive, tall, and with easily recognizable education/employment signifiers makes the swiping odds exponentially easier. As someone who's been on both sides of the fence (I've been tall since about the age of 21, but by all accounts I was a late bloomer and wasn't making beyond grad school wages until I was 32), I've seen firsthand how people treat you different.
Most people are going to swipe based on superficial markers, not after reading an essay, and women have (on average) *much* more interest than the average guy. So when people out there tell you they're not getting any matches, believe them.
There's also regional/national biases on race, religion, political persuasion that factor in. As a black man I matched with (relatively) more white women in BOS, more black women in ATL, more Asian women in SF. A buddy of mine was just telling me a story last week that expat white women in China will look for PoC partners, because white expat men tend to chase after Chinese women.
The sad part is that matching based solely on profile hits (oh wow, we both have PhDs and we both like GoT, what are the odds right?) doesn't remotely guarantee compatibility, which is why you read stories of the most desirable people on those apps dating for years with little to show for it than the odd hookup.
Most people are going to swipe based on superficial markers, not after reading an essay, and women have (on average) *much* more interest than the average guy. So when people out there tell you they're not getting any matches, believe them.
There's also regional/national biases on race, religion, political persuasion that factor in. As a black man I matched with (relatively) more white women in BOS, more black women in ATL, more Asian women in SF. A buddy of mine was just telling me a story last week that expat white women in China will look for PoC partners, because white expat men tend to chase after Chinese women.
The sad part is that matching based solely on profile hits (oh wow, we both have PhDs and we both like GoT, what are the odds right?) doesn't remotely guarantee compatibility, which is why you read stories of the most desirable people on those apps dating for years with little to show for it than the odd hookup.