Let's try and bridge the real world with fantasy, and I'll be interested to hear your views. Why? Because like in the real world, people often have sexual desires/interests met by fantasy.
Are we going to agree dildos and fleshlights aren't sexist/misogynistic? What about males and females masturbating at night? (or whenever, in private) What about males and females using Tinder to hookup weekly with sex partners for fun and enjoyment? What about gossip and chat between friends of their desires/interests/sexual partners and so on? What about males or females, yes both, who want to dress scantily, in tight clothing, to accent their features or feel sexy/empowered? In relation to clothing, what about the cosplayers of the characters you deem problematic? Are they perpetuating harmful problematic views? Is this internalized misogyny just because people want to dress sexually?
You see, this is where I seriously struggle with some of the incredibly Conservative views of some gamers. The realms of fantasy being treated more hostile than the real world. Of course, I expect you to come back as any proper feminist should and say sex toys are natural, masturbating isn't a sin, people having sex with 150+ partners a year doesn't make them a whore/bad person if it's all consensual and for fun. Talking to your friends about what turns you on/how good sex was last weekend, or that you find actor named x/y/z hot and they turn you on/you dream they'd fuck you, is healthy natural sex talk. People should be able to wear whatever they want, no matter how sexual, and still garner respect, it's their bodies and dress sense. Etc. Etc. Etc.
However, turn to the world of fantasy, and some of you cannot wait to rush in with every single accusation/name calling/term possible, often without any evidence whatsoever of foul play/harassment/wrong-doing, other than there being sexualized polygons. Misogyny is hatred and contempt for women, for fuck sake. A fleshlight isn't hatred of women, nor is a sexual video game character unless there is evidence the creator is something sinister themselves. Most often it's just as I highlighted earlier, straight men catering to their fantasy desires, and this is backed up by actual psychology and biology, not blogs. Most often this is not people who hate women. Yes, actual individual behaviour in this industry can be shocking and appalling, but meeting that with blanket statements/accusations is incredibly intellectually dishonest and harmful. The social media and internet court in 2017 is downright childish and immature at times. Unsurprisingly, absolute rampant hypocrisy often follows this kind of behaviour. As in some people who state they how they are publicly, end up being the ones sitting at night masturbating, sexually pleasing themselves, watching porn, hooking up on Tinder, Googling cosplay of video game characters and more. All of which, I have zero problems with. It's all healthy and natural biological behaviour for a sexual species.
What I do have a problem with is hypocrisy and heavy-handed accusations with zero evidence, as it doesn't make anyone a knight in shining armour, it often makes people incredibly ill-advised and hostile to reality. Well, that and of course the male feminist ally turns out to be a raging harasser/abuser is also something I have a problem with, you know, because that is evidence of foul play/abuse/problematic behaviour. Someone staring at their TV because Quiet is on show in no way is direct correlation that they hate and harass women. No more than someone putting sex toys in their body, or closing their eyes and masturbating whilst imaginging being fucked by whoever turns them on.
Not sure who you are referring to here...I am not saying that sexualization is wrong. Dildos and fleshlights are fine. Dicks are fine. Breasts are fine. Sex-positivity all the way, yay! The rest of your post does little to address what I am talking about. If you want to learn more, listen to this recent podcast: https://no-cartridge.net/?name=2017-11-03_ep52.mp3 as just one single instance of the thousands of personal testimonies of why this is a problem. You completely misunderstand if you think that the argument is "sexualization is bad" when that has nothing to do with what people are and have been saying for decades :)
Researchers and women (and some men) are saying that the general landscape of video games culture has built up an objectificaiton of women to the point that the industry and culture is deeply misogynist. So even though one single instance of mute bikini sniper locked up in a cage or latex stripper nuns with guns are fine, they are symptoms of the broader trend of always reducing women to their bodies as pleasurable objects for male gamers. And when academics and women themselves try to inform male gamers about this and what effects this objectifying form of sexualization have, they refuse to listen. And when the misogyny is challenged, we are met with harassment and silencing and doxxing.
So how about some support and help? How about spending effort on challenging the misogyny in games culture and the industry?